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i am a 17 year old female who is a good friend. i like to help people, and i love music. i am very involved in my school, i know a wide variety of things, so i hope to help someone!

Juelz

advice

(16/F)
i have been spending A LOT of time with my b/f and i haven't been spending as much time with my girlies. i want to hang out with my girlies more and spend time with my b/f just not as much. how can i tell him, nicely, that i would like some space to spend time with the girlies? thanks in advance.

you have to be sweet and upfront about it. just say "hun, i love ya and all, but i think i need to spend some time w/my girls! they are like sis's to me and i miss not being with them, not that i dotn like being with you! cuz i do! but i really need time with my friends just like you need tiem with your friends!" or sumthign along those lines. you juss gotta reassure him that you luv being with him and stuff, but you need a bit of space ot still be you! i hope things go good! drop me a message if ya need more help!

Juelz

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my bfs b day is coming up in about a month and i LOVE him so much....we r really close but i have NO idea wat ot get him!!! help!! i dun wanna get him lyke a watch or sumthing hes more of a skater n i want to get sumtihng that reminds him of me whne he sees it and sumthing sweet...help...15/f

anything that you see in a store that reminds you of him. i did the same thign w/my bf, i got him this neat hemp necklace at Geauga Lake, cuz he was supposed to com with me, but he couldn't cuz of my mom, so i saw it and it reminded me of him, so i got it for him, and he wears it all the time...and he thinks of me all the time when he wears it, says it is like having a little piece of em with him at all times. so, dont stress about it, justsomethign that reminds you of him, and i am sure he will love it. if htat dont work, try somethign home made. like bake your specialty, whatever it is. i always say "the way to a mans heart is thro his stomach!" so good luck and i hope you find hte perfect gift.

Juelz

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I have this boyfriend, he's a great guy and everything but hes REALLY shy. He hasn't held my hand or anything. I know he likes me a lot and I also like him a lot. His shyness is hard to deal with because I am completely opposite. All of his friends have told him that he needs to be less shy and I told him there is no reason to be shy around me because I'm not going to get mad at him or anything but he is still shy! Its killing me!! What to do?! Thanks for the help!!! Have a nice day! :D

instead of waiting for him to make the first move...YOU DO IT! it might make him realize that it's ok. men are hard to understand sometimes. (no offense to anyone) so just you do it...if you wait forever and neither of you go for it...its never gonna get done! cuz your waiting for him and he's waiting for you...see my point? best of luck and i hope everythign goes great for you 2!

Juelz

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okay i have tis problem there is this guy that i like, well i love! but when he is around me he acted like he likes me but i don't know how he feels, but i made up my mind to get over him he knows that i like him so i wrote him and e-mail saying that i think it would be better for us not to talk to each other at all and today i saw him and he was really staring at me but after church i avoid him so i didn't talk to him even konw i really wanted to.
so my question is should i just keep my distance or should i go up and talk to him!

ok, you love him...is he like a boyfriend or jsut a huge crush?

if its a bf...then you dont need him if he cant show you how he feels. he may just be scared. if thats the case...then tell him how you feel...maybe you opening up the discussion wil make him feel more of "omg, i'm not hte only one of us who feels this way".

if its a crush...get over it. he only wants what he cant have. sorry for being so upfront...but thats how guyz are sometimes. so you just have to be strong. i know it may be painful, but in the end (i know this is cheesy) but it will make you stronger. what doestnt kill you makes you stronger.

i hope things work out for you. best of luck from the bottom of my heart!

Juelz

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ok theres this boy ive known for 3 years and we have a love hate relationship and right now were at the hate part and my friends keep talking to him about me and usually he would say i dont give a f*** about her well just recently someone told him that i loved him and missed him and he siad why would she want to get tied up with someone as ugly as me what would yall think

i think that he doesnt want a relatioship. or he doesnt feel the same way but you wont take a hint. what you need ot do is sit down and have a heart-to-heart with this guy and find out what both of you want! good luck

Juelz

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Okay, im 13 years old and me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for past a year now, and hes the best things thats ever happend too me...i am in love with him, i know it...and we have only gone as far as making out, and i wanna go further..so does he..but i dont wanna go to far.i mean im 13..what should we do together? ill rate you, if you help

your a bit to young to be doing much more than making out, me being 17, i think i am too young to be doing that kinda stuff. but, you juss have to set rules and boundaries, and you have to tell him when too much is too much. i personally think that you shoudl not go past maybe oral sex, buti think that is pushing it, well, speaking as a 17 yr old virgin, just make sureyou love him, i have had friends who have gone too far with a guy too soon and tehn regreted it. the desicion in the end is yours, but i hope my input helped you some.

Juelz

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well i really need help ..well theres this boy nd lets call him "carl" so i started likin this guy nd i told him nd i found out he felt the same way but longer for him so we talked nd he was so great so we finaly wen out nd omg he was so great nd i realized i was fallin for him nd then a rmor went around that he had cheated nd he said it wasnt tru but all the signs are right there nd im pretty sure he did it but i think he relaized it was worng nd didnt want to hurt me nd then the day i found out i was cryin in skool for the rest of the day .. so i call ready to break up nd he gave me this crap bout bout he didnt do it nd i sorta beleived him nd it took a while to put it together but that same day i found out .. this girl had been tellin him i had been flirtin wit other guys .. but i didnt .. i got him to beleive me then his firned told him i broke up wit ihm nd he beleived it .. we atill talk nd he tells me how much he loves me nd he wants me bac nd then one of my friend kary was akin if he was goin to ask me out nd if he did i dont kno wat to say .. i really love him but theres one problem .. i moved nd he lives 15 minutes away which isnt that long away but we go to different skool nd i dont kno wat to do if he does cuase i really love him wit all my heart .. please help me ..

i rate goood!!

hun, you are in a tough situation. you dont really know what to do and that is ok. i think it is great that you guyz still talk, and that you still love each other. but in order to have a working relationship, you guyz have to trust each other. from what i understand, that trust is very low if even existant, which can cause problems in the relationship.
if you truly truly love this guy and he really truely loves you, then you shoudl have no problem re-gaining the missing trust and building a happy and healthy relationship. if you love a guy with your whole heart, you really need to give you guyz another chance, i think. but whatever you do, amke sure it is what you want ok hun.

good luck and best of wishes

Juelz

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Does anyone know any quotes that are about love and her liking him so much and him not liking her at all? I need some for my profile... ANything about love will do! Thanks a bunch!

iLL rate you a 5 for a quote..whether i like it or not lol

this is from the movie moulan rouge. i dont know if it really applies...but

"The Best Thing You Can Learn is To Love, And To Be Loved In Return"

and me and my freind say this one, not sure if it really applies either...

"instead of listening ot your head, follow your heart. because your heart knows whats best for you and your head will always try to screw you over!"

let me know if they where kinda what you needed ok?

Juelz

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I go out wit dis guy. And my mom doesnt agree and my dad does! I love him wit all my heart and i dont know what to do.. PLease help me

PEACE

i knwo what your going threw. i am going threw a similar thing. you see, the best thingi can tell you is to follow your heart, cuz it knows whats good for you. you see, in ym case, my mom doesnt like him, but my dad thinks he's pretty cool (even tho he hasnt met him yet :P just from what i tell him and how he can tell he makes me happy) but, anyways, no matter what my mom does, i will always care for him like i do this very moment. and that is a wonderful thing. so what i have to say to you is this...dont let what your mom does get in the way of your feelings for him. if you love him, dont let anyone or anythign ruin it. i know you prolly want your mom's approval, but trust me, you will do things in your life that your mom will disagree with or that will disapoint her, and you just have to be proud of your desicions.

good luck and let me know how things go ok?

Juelz

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ok i really like this girl in school and i gave her some chocates and a note telling her how i really feel and now she is not my freind anymore and she is dating one of the most popular guys in school please give me advice ill rate u


sighned
boy in denile

oh you poor poor thing! she ripped out your heart and did a Mexican Hat Dance all over it then put it in a blender and hit puree!

that was a very cold thing of her to do. i guess, being a girl myself... :) ... she didnt feel the same about you and maybe it made her uncomfortable around you. i know it is tough, but you havbe to face reality hun. things like this happen all the time. i promise you you'll get over her, and find other girls and things like that.

but if you really miss her friendship, tell her that you understand she does not feelthe same and your ok with that! tell her you guyz can be frieends, cuz im sure you'd rather have her as just a friend than not at all.

best of luck and i hope and pray things go well for you, and for her too. but if you dont listen to any of my advice, do listen to this...follow your heart. it is smarter than you may think it is! so dont mope around. just do something about it. you cant make a difference if you just stand around and do nothing! no one gets ahead by sitting on their behind! :)

Juelz

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Ok today at school , I met this really hot guy and I was wearing a tank top and a pair of light pair of jeans when I bumped into him and he looked at me and said sorry but before he finished his sentence he looked down my shirt and saw everything , he blush and just asked me out.!! Dose he really like me or what???
Help!!

hun, from experiance, he may like you, buti think he likes your boobies more. guyz are like that, and trust me , and am VERY big up top, so i get alot of attention up there (many guyz dont even realize that i have EYES!!!! just BOOBS!!!!) its horrible. if i was you, i'd go out with him, but dress very conservativly, like, something where he gets no peeks! and if he still asks you out again, he might like you. or he is waiting for another sneak peek! for your sake i hope the first one is true! but, i am gonna tell you something my best freind tells me every time i go to her with guy problems. "Follow Your Heart, Cuz It Knows What Is Right For You" so just listen to your heart. if it tells you to date him, then date him. if it tells you he's a creep, dont. just listen to it, ok?

hope things work out 4 u!

Juelz

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Okay here's my problem!I liked this guy here and there on and off. There's no doubt that there isn't any attaction cause people see it all the time. When we go out in public, people think we are a couple. I told him how I really felt about him (though we are like best friends) he said he only likes me as a friend, and that he's sorry he can't return the same feelings. But he also like one of my friends and out of the kindness of my heart, I hook them up... but she's jux like me, and we are also cool. I'm not jealous (yet) or anything like that cause me and him still flirt the same way we do, and we are still good friends. So I dunno what to do, still like him or move on? I dunno how to feel or what to think? Any advice? Plz help! Thankz a munches!

the best thing i can tell you is i know how you feel. i have this friend who always ends up STEALING all my guy friends. but there was this one in paticular. we were "dating" for a while and he dumped me to hang with her. so it is painful when a guy you like goes for your best friend. but i can tell you that i am way past it and deeply care about another guy, and it is a better relationship than the one i woulda had with the one guy! so, move on, date new guys, cuz there is NO USE waiting around for a guy who doesnt care about you. and flirting with a guy-pal can be fun. but sometimes, not a good idea, trust me, i did this one too, and we ended up not talking again...EVER! so it is a bad thing some times, and soemtimes can lead you to a new love (like it did me) so just get otu there and flirt your young heart away! there are plenty of guys you can have, if they think you are not with your guy-friend! so appearing single is a must! :D

hope i helped you a lot! good luck! and let me know how things turn out ok?

Juelz

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i feel so dumb..anyways..what am i suppose to do? like when my b/fs givin me a hickey or kissing me somewhere other than my mouth or doing other things..yah you know..umm like i dont know how to describe it, i just sit there like "duh"..what are some things to do to actually acknowledge what he's doing, show him that i like it, or idk..lol anything so that i'm just not sitting there..
please help..i'll rate :)

There are always of showing your feelings towards the man you love! Even thou you feel your used to it and are like ok get over with your fun can we get to good stuff! Believe me when my b/f does it I sit there like "duh" too!! but its like they have to hit the right spot before i start moaning!! I just know that sometimes its not always the right time but when you have an orgasm it feels like you dont want to stop!!! Its hard when he does it so many times and its like ok STOP!! I would just tell him to hit the spot like move all over (you know his tounge) sometimes if they nip alittle it starts to feel good. sometimes also if you act like it feels good hell start to go harder and harder and then the good shit begins!! but just try and tell him or act its the only thing i can think of... and thats somethings i have done and he really likes it and goes harder. but i hope my advise has helped.. GOOD LUCK!!!

that was some advice from my best friend, we are sittign here reading them and she's like "OMG! i can answer that!" so i let her!

We Hope that helps!

*JUELZ* and *Bandie*

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i have a bf but i'm not sure if he is really into me nemore we use 2 tlak bout everything bout now we barely talk.I call him sometimes n he doesn't really seem lyk he wants to talk he never calls me n he is always busy n cna never do nething. i talk to his brother on the IM n ask him but he doesn't really kno wut am i suppose 2 do...how do i find out if he really lykes me or not? plz help!

the best thign i can say to you right now is to talk to him. ask him how he feels, you really dont want to waste your time on some one who doesnt care about you (no offense, im not trying to be harsh or anything). its just the way things are. oyu guyz prolly just grew apart and he doesnt want to hurt you by breaking up with you. so just talk to him. i know it will be hard to do, just think how it will improve your life, take a deep breathe, and just do it. good luck and i hope everythign works out great for you.

Juelz

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awhile ago me and my now exboyfriend got in a really big fight. ends up that, that night he took my "best friend" to a hotel with 3 other guys and just her. they ended up having sex. both of them deny it whenever i ask, but i know for a fact it happened. its been over and done with but i still have so much hate for my friend, and for the guy too. i dont know what to do.. or who i should be more mad at. i know i should let it go bc it happened a while ago.. but i cant help thinking about how much they both screwed me over.

i know this is gonna sou d cruel and vicious, but if they did that to you they are not worth your time! ever! but, you will have to forgive, but you dont have to forget! but if you do sty in contact with him, dont bring it up all the time. just move on and let it become your past and learn from it. chose your freinds and boyfreinds carefully, thats what i would do at least.

jsut dont let this experience pull you away from guys in general, not all men are dogs, soem are really worht your time...and fully pulling away from guyz will only make you miserable, trust me, i did thatm, and i didnt date for a year, then i started again, might i say what fun it has been!

i really dont know what else to tell you. i hope things get better and brighter for you in the future.

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Okay , me and my boyfriend was talkin on ta phone and he asked me to marry him(AND AT A YOUNG AGE TOO) and I said no , was it the right thing to do ???were both 15.he aint mad but he is kinda sad , he said he wanted to be with me forever,and I let him down. was it the right thing to do???

well, it depends on what your heart weas telling you. if you guyz are really meant to be he'll get over it. just explain to him your to young to make a commitment like that. or that your not ready to plan your future yet...just let him know that it is not because of him. my friend was dating a guy for 4 months and they became engaged, but she says they did that so fast becasue they both knew it was what they wanted. so, if you are not sure, thats fine, if you are, thats fine to. just dont forget there is a whole world of men out there. he may be the one, he may not be. and whatever you do, dont apologize for how you feel. apologize for hurting him, apologize for "letting him down", but DONT apologize for not being ready or whatever. ok? good luck!
Juelz

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Okay there is this guy named brad and i like a lot i mean a lot...i imagine a future with him...that's how much i love him!! he is interested in someone who doesn't even think of him like that!! now i'm suppose 2 go 2 a concert and he has invited me 2 sleep over his house after the concert!! is he flirting with me?? is he giving me signals?? what kind signals should i give?? how can i tell my best friend of 3years that i like him?? How can i make a friendship into a relationship??

From,
.*.BeSs.*.

okay, he asked u to sleep over at his house? i dont know this guy so i cant tell u what he means by it, but just be careful

with the freindship to relationship thing, i completely understand what u are going through. i once dated this guy named John, and we had known each other for 2 years at the time...i mean, he was the first person to task to me when i moved where i currently live...and we were so close, i mean our parents adored the other...and it was so awesome, i mean, we were so close, we knew everythign about the other! literaly! and then we started dating for a while...broke up and still are like best best freinds.

but, to tell him, just up and say it, tell him how u think of his as more than a freind. explain your feelings, since he is your best freind, he will not laugh at u. u see, i believe for a relationship to work, u have to be, first and foremost, and above all, friends. so if u just explain to him, i am sure he will understand, but dont do what i did and wait around for him to come to u. if he doesnt feel the same way about u, its okay. dont worry about it. i hope this helped u out even the slightest bit.

Juelz

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i really really have a problem with kissing my boyfriend. we've been going out for quite a while now and we've only reached a hug. i really do wanna kiss him and he wants to kiss me but we're both so nervous. everyone says it will come naturally but we're both too nervous for it ever to come.

oh dont worry hun. it WILL come naturally when the time is right. there was this one guy i dated that i wanted to kiss but am glad i didnt cuz we split up and i am so glad i didnt get to far invovled. just think abotu that...but maybe you could juss do it and get it over with. good luck!

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im 14 and i like a 20 yr old. he is so cute and i dream bout him all the time. he told me he likes me im just to young he said he would go out wiv me if i was older wot can i do to change his mind

i suggest that you dont get involved with him right now. i am 16 and i was ask out by 2 different 25 year olds. i thought i was being cool, ya know dating an older guy. but hten i realized that i was jailbait for him. if my parents had complained, he would be put in jail for stagitory rape, even if you didnt sleep together.so i juss think you should be careful and date guyz your age...older men normally only want one thing...sex...so be careful...even if he woudl date you. dont change his mind, what he decides is best...and especilly in this case. good luck

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ok say your in deep love but then you see another guy walk bye and say to ur friends oo hottie what does that mean? does it mean the guy you in love with ur not really in love with or is it just normal for ppl to do that?

ITS NORMAL!!!!!!! dont freak out about it. i do it all the time. it just means that your human and have hormones. plus, hot guyz make the world a beautiful place! lol!

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