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Howdy!! I'm NEELY!! You can call me Neelz for short!! =] I am a very sweet girl that has been through.. quite A LOT! I do give good advice and I would be so freaking happy if you ask me for some advice!! I ADORE my friends!! Can't live without them. I may be 14 but I have been through a lot of things in life maybe not "ALL" of them but some! I love to give advice its my specialty and dont hesitate to ask me something because I will do all I can to answer you!

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hey theres this boy and he is 2 grades higher than me and hes really sweet and smart,cute,and funny. Should I ask him out? Please help from thinker101.

Well, if your confident enough to then go ahead! Theres nothing wrong with the girls asking the guys out these days so GO FOR IT GIRL! I hope everything turns out great!!

Much love && sunshine

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i've been going out with my gf for a wile now and i dont now how to make the first move to make out with her can someoen plz help me

Okay, haha since I'm a girl I will tell you what i've noticed guys do to me.

Normally they put their arm around me and hold me close. Then they grab my hand and just lean in really slowly waiting for me to do the same and then we kiss, then you can get a little more rapid and hott!! haha

Much love && sunshine
♥ Neelz

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Hey..sorry its soo long i hope you can help im the one usually giving advice if you ever need some ask me!
I hav been going out for this guy let's call him Josh for almost 10 months. We hav an amazing relationship and he really is my best friend. We have one problem his ex girlfriend is insane. She is obssesed with him and there is a long story behind that but just to make it short she is jealous and she wants him and her and I got into a big thing. I don't liek to start things and i do stand up for myself but i don't liek having enemies. About 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend started treating me like crap. This is 2 weeks ago: Saturday night we got into a fight because his ex's friends were starting stuff with my friends. I told him that i didn't know if i cood take i anymore. We weren't on the best page. Since it is summer we don't see eachother that much he went to camp before these 2 weeks and now he's on vacation. SO back to Saturday so that happened then on Sunday we talked and he was mad and upset. On monday we were planning to see eachother on tuesday but my friends messed it up. Also on monday we had a long talk about his ex and hwo i feel like he doesn't stand up for me like he should. When our plans got ruined for tuesday i was upset but it seemed like he didn't even care. On tuesday he called me at night and we didn't talk much but i asked him what he did today and he said nothing and that he's been thinkin about alot. I got a little worried. Well anyways Wedneday came n i went to my friends house with him and all my friends.I decided to just forget about everything because he was leaving that friday and i thought it would be the last time i would see him so i wanted it to be good. It somehow came up and he wanted to talk and said that i don't feel like he is really intersting and all that and he simply told me that he was just thinking that the relationship is getting too serious as in commitment wise. I understood because we are still young but how could he tell me he loves me if he doesn't wanna be with me. Well anyways on thursday i found out that on wednesday night he slept at his friends house and he did a camera thing with one ofmy friends theyw ere all joking but he told her to pull her shirt down more so her boobs would show. It's so hard to even write this because he's so not like this. On thursday night i found out earlier that day his ex adn her friends came over to swim with his friends. Just to amek it short on friday i saw him for 2 minutes and i was planning on talking to him about it but he could opnlys tay for like 5 minutes. He was being an ass and he just left and said i love you bye. He's on vacation right now and i don't know what to do when he comes back. Thanx for reading this .What should i do? I'm 13 almost 14 and a girl.lol

Yes, I know how you feel because my ex did that to me except he slept with another girl.. ouch, but what you need to do is maybe just ignore him for a while. If he does that to you he doesn't deserve you, your way better then he is. So I suggest go find another guy that you can trust well, or ignore him. When you have new boyfriends its just a good feeling, and you don't need to be going through this crap that this other guy is doing, he's growing up and being a typical guy but not every guy is like that so I hope you find the perfect one dear! Hope I helped you!

Much love && sunshine
Neely

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okay so i have this boyfriend. i like him a lot...but he lives one town over from me. i only get to see him like once every 3 months. what should i do?

Well if you love him enough then I say wait for him. If you don't love him in that kinda way then long distant relationships dont work because all it is is worries and heartbreaks but I dont know what this guy is like but Stay with him just dont forget that there is a chance that he could break your heart because i was in the same issue and I got cheated on! I hope I helped you out girl! Much love && sunshine! Neely

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I have a real problem. Their are like ten boys that like me, and want to go out with me, and their all really nice. Idk what to do. Which one should i go out with?? I REALLY need help!!!!

YOU go out with the guy YOU want, you don't have to go out with the ten guys that just like you. If choosing one, choose the one you think is best for you, trusting, sweet, funny, etc. Good luck girl!! Much love && sunshine!

Neely

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im 13 and i like my friends brothers friend named eric. hes like what 16 is he to old he for me. cause i really like him. i live in tn. and he lives in ky. i go to ky to visit my bff (kaitlyn). this summer i went up there for a three day camping trip wit my bff family. eric was there. we didnt talk at all but he looked at me alot. i dont know what to do. ive never had a boyfriend and not even my first kiss. its easy to give advice. but i can never fall through with my own. i get scared. so help me please

Okay first off, no he's not too old for you but here in TN the llegal age difference is no bigger than 3 years. Haha I live in tennessee too but anywho, you may visit your friend a lot but trust me long distant relationships do not work and they are nothing but heartbreaks and worries. I had a boyfriend who lived in Arkansas and all I worried about was what he was doing and I was also VERY lonely. Obviously he was too because he cheated on me but I suggest that you find a boy that lives where you are and who is your age. But if you are willing to take a risk on getting ur heart broken or anything of that matter and if you trust him well enough then go for it! Good luck!! Much love && sunshine!

Neelz

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My boyfriend cheated on me one week after we got together. Now I have taken him back (about 2 weeks after he cheated on me). All of my friends thinks it's a misstake but I believe in second chaces and I like this guy...All advicenators out there do you believe in the term- "once a cheater, always a cheater"??
Was it a big misstake to take him back, should I dump him for what he did to me?

Well, some guys when they cheat they realize that the girl they cheated on really wasnt what they thought and will want to come back to you.I say give him another chance, if he cheats again then bye bye to him!! Hope I helped a little bit!! Neelz

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13/f

i have been friends with this guy for about a year. he's really cool and all, and i consider him my guy best friend, and i guess he considers me his girl best friend. we have a lot of things in common, and we talk about all anything. from sports to music to girls and all that stuff. one time we talked in AIM for 8 hours straight! the last time i talked to him, before he left for vacation, we talked about how we talked for 8 hours straight. [[it's always been random things that we talk about]] and somewhere along the line of conversation, i said something like, "well, i wouldn't wanna waste your time talking to me."
here's a quick scene from that conversation::
HIM: oh come on. you're one of the only people i could talk to for 8 hours and love it
ME: uh-huh
HIM: yeaah. why do you think that it would be a waste of time for me?
ME: i don't know... maybe you have better things 2 do?
HIM: now why would i talk to you for so long if i had better things to do? i talked to you for 8 hours because i love talking to you
ME: i guess... lol... this is turning into one of those "aw" moments
HIM: hahahahahaha. sure i guess. just being
honest

i thought it was REALLLY sweet of him to say that. since then i've been feeling like i like him more than a friend. i heard that he kinda likes someone, but i'm not sure who it is. i don't really wanna tell him that i like him, because i don't wanna put our friendship in jeopardy. i'm thinking of just waiting to see if he'll ask me out. maybe not anytime soon, but hopefully when i still like him. should i? we don't go to the same school anymore. we used to, but his parents wants him to go to this other school so that he has a better chance of him getting into this high school that i'm hoping to get into, too. i really miss him, and even though i talk to him more than anybody else, i still feel like it's not enough. what should i do?

Aw, thats cute, anywho, he really actually kinda sounds like he likes you! All I gotta say is flirt with him as much as possible, maybe give him some hints!Ask him who he likes! =] Good luck! Much love && sunshine! Neelz

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Hi. My name is nickie. I'm 13 yrs. old and still haven't had my first kiss yet. There's this guy i really like and i'm goin to his b-day before the summer's over. I really wanna have my first kiss, and I'm pretty sure he likes me because we flirt all the time. Do you think I should go for it?

I say go for it!! Just make sure he likes you for sure and when the moments right give him a kiss!! Good luck I hope you get your first kiss!!

Much love! Neelz

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ok so i have a boyfriend and i really love him but i want to go out with another guy but i don't want to cheat becuz i have done that tom many time and i haven't been doin it for like almost 4 months and im pround but which guy do i choose?
Thanx>3

Okay remember, which is the most important to you, the one you love and have been with forever and hurting him again, or some guy that you just like. Just think if it's really worth it.

It's your decision, choose well and good luck girl! Much love Neelz!

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13/f
okay well i always end up bumping into this guy and he is always looking at me and he never has the courage to talk to me my friends say that it is obvious that he likes me. does he like me! i really want to know. they say that he is super shy. and that i should go and talk to him. what do i do?

Well, haha listen to your friends and go talk to him girl!! Just be yourself and maybe tell him that y'all should hang out more!! Good luck girl! Much love, neelz

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i like my nieghbor chris...but im not really sure? i mean....i love him soo much but i feel nervouse to do anything because im not sure if he likes me back..he said to my stept bro (hes my stept bros friend..and im friends with chris's sis whos a year yunger than me [im not using chris's sis mckenzie though]) that he doesnt want a girlfriend...but he said he doesnt want to say he likes me. one tiime (a week ago) we played truth or dare (t.o.d) and they dared me to kiss him.... before i go anyfurther, may i mention i have never kissed anybody in my life before him.....

it was embarasing. its the best way to describe it. first we leaned in and he had his eyes closed and i wraped my arms around him...but as soon as our lips touched i backed away quickly. its embarasing becaouse i backed away so quickly, but theres more to that....


i thought i also liked this guy correy...im not sure. i like correy but i love chris.

i need help about my kissing or sexual life and between correy and chris????

Well, when you kiss someone you have to let it go on naturally. Maybe the reason why you pulled away from chris so fast was because you weren't ready to kiss him! All you have to do is not be afraid to kiss him, because once you've done it , you'll feel a whole lot better about it!Just do it when you think your ready and go for it!

Now, about Chris and Correy, maybe you need to work more on Chris before you do Correy. Since you love him as you said. All I gotta say is just keep talking to him and be yourself, flirt with him! He'll come around to it! If there still isn't any hope with him then maybe you need to move on to Correy. Thats life, there are plenty of guys out there for you, if one doesn't feel the same about you the way you want them too then accept it and move on, soon there will be someone for you!! Good Luck with Chris and Correy!!! I hope I helped you out!! Much love! Neelz

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hi...my best friend in the whole world paul likes me and i like him!! But the problem is he has a girlfriend, tamarah, and we are best friends!!! If she finds out that we want to lip lock at this local club, she would kill me!! How can i keep my emotions with paul and keep my friendship with tamarah?
from confused connie

Oh gosh has this happened to me! The best thing to do is don't do anything with paul, your friendship with tamarah is more valuable then some guy's friendship. Besides, there are plenty of other guys out there for you. If you do something with paul then it would be a huge mess. What's better, you getting some guy, or you hurting hurting your best friend while she is completely furious at you. Good luck! Much love, Neelz

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I met a guy (steven) through my cousin when i visited him last week...they are friends and he was over there when i came over. Well it obvious that he was into me..he was overly nice..always complemented me..and we hit it off. Well my cousin was mad when he found he out we were kind of into eachother. I guess he was being overprotective. But this guy lives an hr away and i miss him already..i really started to like him. And that was the first guy i liked in years! i dont have his number but he has a myspace. Should i forget about him or what?

Ah, trust me you don't want to get into a relationship like this. I've learned from experience that long distant relationships aren't the best. My boyfriend ended up cheating on me... anywho, I think that if you and him are willing to see each other A LOT then maybe it would work out. Just get to know him first. Make sure he isn't the heartbreaking type. Because I didn't and I ended up getting hurt for a while. GOOD LUCK! Much love! ♥ Neelz

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i'm trying to get to know this girl i recently met and i'm having trouble finding things to talk about. does anyone have any topics or ideas of things we could talk about?

Omg, tip, dont let the girl do all the talking. I once had a boyfriend who was a very quiet kind of guy and HE WAS SOOO BORING! Here are some topics to think about: Pets, favorite things, movies, music, family, interests, hobbies, sports, shopping, dislikes, likes, etc. omg theres a whole lot!! GOOD LUCK! ♥ Neelz!

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so today my boyfriend came over to my place and wanted to see my myspace. he doesnt have a computer and cant see mine so i showed him it. there were to comments left by two guys both were my cousins friend and i only have talked to them once and he got mad about them. they didnt even say anything bad just\" hey life is good thanks 4 askin..
oh thats cool your coming to our skool i like that trust me your going to have alot of fun there and no im not going to summer skool.
but are you going to summer skool?? \" and the other one said\"hey how you doing? hows things going wich ya it was a pleasure meeting you last time ^_^ hope your doing great! \"

nothin bad but the first thing he said was i knew you talked to guys online and that you cheat on me.

someone please help me out!

Haha, omg guys are so overprotective!! My last boyfriend was like this as well. Just let him know that first off, you were just asking those two guys how they were and all that jazz. It's really annoying when guys do this kind of stuff really but he's definitley jealous. Don't worry, just tell him about those guys and if he still doesn't believe you then get those guys to proove it! hope I helped you!! Any more questions?? Leave me one in the box! ~ Neelz! ♥

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