I'm the best at everything I do. Especially my girlfriend, she is better than all of you.
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i was wondering if actions always speak louder then words. you see there is this guy, i talk to him more often then i see him, and when i talk to him, he's really sweet, he says that he loves me, so on and so forth. My dilemma is that when i see him somewhere public, like school, he acts like he doesn't want to be around me, or get to know me; but when i see him somewhere that's a little more privet he's sweet and carries on about how much he loves me, and thinks we should date. how should i take this? why is he doing it? and how can i get him to always act sweet? (link)
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If you're younger than what I'd say is that he's probably just shy and doesn't want to show it in public. But he could be using you.
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I am 20/male in college, but I am having trouble approaching a girl in one of my classes. I sit in the back and she sits in the front, and we leave in different directions after class. How can I approach her and what do I say once I do? The only reason I mention that we leave different ways is because I dont want to follow her out and look like a stalker or something. But I guess my biggest problem is just knowing what to say. Thanks (link)
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The best way would to walk up to her and say "Hi I'm ____". :)
At least that's what I'd do. By the way, read this.
www.tuckermax.com
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This is long. Bear with me.
I'm a 14 year old boy in ninth grade.
There's a girl. I'll call her Jean. I've known Jean since the end of sixth grade, and over the years a mild "she's pretty" crush grew to what I at that point thought was genuine love. In eighth grade, Jean and I became very good friends. I was, and remain, attracted to her independence, creativity, deepness, and beauty. My major flaw would be that around her I've always had the tendency to grow quiet, becoming sort of a background lurker when her friends are around. I don't think that comes off very well -_- But anyway, back to the story.
In seventh grade we were writing a song together for our chorus, and I would often call her and talk to her online. I spent most of the day at her house once. My affections were also heightened by the fact that we were in the same musical, and the emotional level we were reduced to by the last few weeks (very, very stressful) eased things along. In those weeks of stress and difficulty, we were there for one another, and by then I felt that I was truly in love with her. Mind you, this whole time I had been a rather whiny bitch over my MySpace blog: "Oh, I'm in love with a girl but she doesn't know I love her." "Oh, being in love is so hard". Mind you, she was well aware it was her.
At the very end of the musical, one of Jean's friends (who I later found out was sent by Jean) asked me whether I liked Jean or not in private. I, being naturally paranoid and defensive, said no. This probably goes on my list for the top five mistakes I've made in my entire life, as this information was relayed back to Jean. She soon lost interest, and my guardedness and inaction proved to be my downfall. After that, everything turned sour. My feelings for her, barely changed, but she grew to find me more of an annoying background character than a friend or anything more. This hurt me deeply, and I froze myself up inside.
Luckily enough, I met a wonderful girl at camp. I'll call her Lindsay. By the end of the summer, I had nearly forgotten Jean and I was dating Lindsay. Lindsay lived 90 minutes away from me, but we talked on the phone for two hours a night and saw each other every other weekend. Things were going pretty well.
Meanwhile, the school year began and I started at my new high school. Jean was not in any of my classes (I was unsure as to whether this was good or bad), and every time I saw her there was a tremendous awkwardness between us. I could tell she no longer flat out disliked me, but how could we possibly converse as normal when she had read all of those MySpace blogs? I began to hang out with the losers and emos, while she hung out with her regular theatre crowd. But time passed...
As things between us became very, very slowly less awkward (the occasional nod or hello), I began to move away from the emos and toward the theatre crowd. I felt that the theatre crowd was where I belonged, regardless of whether Jean's being in it would make things awkward. All this time, I talked to Lindsay every night, and rarely mentioned Jean. Our relationship began to wane over time. Finally, I felt fully integrated into the theatre crowd. Although I still had my "annoying lurker" persona when around Jean, we made a lot of progress. It was soon that I realized that I had rekindled my old feelings for her.
Regardless of circumstances, I could no longer hold back my old emotions. Her beauty is captivating and almost hypnotic, and all the characteristics that I was attracted to shine bright once again. Not to fall into old patterns, but my feelings for her are and were some of the most painful in my life. Imagine standing there as an observer, standing behind a wall of ice... I think of it as one of the worst pains in existence.
Now, what happened recently was a naked picture of Jean was discovered. A junior who I am going to call Wanker traded iPods with Jean's ex-boyfriend, and proceeded to start showing people the picture. I specifically requested not to see the picture (yaaay code of honor!), and made him promise not to show it to anybody else. It was apparently sent to a couple other people... With Jean's understanding and support, I devoted the past two days (Tuesday and Wednesday) to tracking down each address the picture was sent to and then wiping it from their hard drives. I'm a bit of a techie in that sense :P
All the while, I felt bad because of my relationship with Lindsay... But I know that we will be over in the near future. We have been going for five months, and our relationship has simply run its course. It's only a matter of time now. In any event, today, Jean was called to the office. She was pulled out of last period gym, and I waited for her until the school day was over. She got out, teary-eyed, and told me she'd talk to me later. I wanted to hug her so badly... But the VP was right there.
I got on the bus to go home, and the busses began to leave. Standing there, I ultimately decided "fuck this". Tired of being the lurking bystander, I got off the bus and waited an hour and ten minutes with a couple of her friends until she got out. When she did, she was crying, and I held her. I had pretty much been needing and wanting to do that since eighth grade. It felt really good. I finally saw her off to her car... I know she appreciates what I've done for her, but I really don't know other wise. Then again, maybe I do know but don't really want to admit that she has no feelings left for me.
Long story short, the school isn't doing anything and everything is Wanker's fault. After I had him promise not to show anybody, he showed the pictures to his entire bus. But that's not really important.
My point is, my relationship with Jean is so ridiculously strained and complex, I'm wondering what I should do. Is there any hope for me/us at all? If it's any help, here's one of my old questions that tells a lot about me, my stance on things, and my life:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=465913
Thank you for reading this far. If you did, you totally deserve a cookie :) (link)
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Ok, I'm in 10th grade and a guy.
First I think you should try to be more outgoing, I was really shy like you're saying all through middle school, but then I made myself be more outgoing, and things just turned around. More girls like you, you get more friends, you find the courage to ask girls out and lots of stuff just works out. So first off, try to be more outgoing. Second, the long distance relationship isn't really practical in your situation, try to break that off somehow. With Jean, she should like you, I'd say just ask her out. With what you've done so far I don't see how any other guy could possibly be over you in the picking order. Ask her out and continue to be a nice guy, but remember be outgoing. If there's something you want to tell/ask her, do it. If you constantly be afraid of what she'll think then you'll get nowhere.
Anyways, good luck.
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I was having problems with my boyfriend of 2 years over christmas time. he was away for 2 weeks and i was going to break up with him when he returned. At work i became close to this other guy & we could talk about everything. once when we were working together i was really upset about my boy & after we closed, he wanted to make out & used me to get back at his girl for cheating before on him! my boyfriend has never *excited* me that much but when i hooked up w. my coworker, it was crazzy! when my boy came back from his trip, everything change & he was different & i fell for him all over again. Now every time i go to work & the guy is working he wants to hook up & i dont. every time i deny him he tells me all these mean things & that my morals shouldnt matter & i should lighten up. im now really mad at him & myself for getting in this situation. i dont no what to do...please help! (link)
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You shouldn't stay with your boyfriend because you cheated and he deserves better. I'm disgusted that you would cheat on a boyfriend of two years. Some people (you) aren't mature enough for relationships. There is no excuse to EVER cheat. As soon as you do it you aren't worth the other person's time. And all it took was him being gone for two weeks and you're off with other guys? Become a nun for the sake of all the men out there.
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ok so this week im going to florida. and i found out the guy im going wiht is also!!! and his room is liek right next door to me!!! what do i do to get his attention?? with out like walking outside in my bra? lmao. (link)
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Yeah that'd work, only instead of a bra, a bikini, since you are in Florida.
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so yeah i really love this guy. and he used 2 go to ma school but now he's in high school (I'm in 8th grade)
so i dunno if he remembers me - i hope he does. sometimes we talked and stuff
and i wanna send him a valtentines day card. so now i'm asking. what should i write that will melt his heart? so yeah ...help?
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I gotta be honest, if you write something that shows that you really love him or something he'll probably get a little creeped out, espsically if you're worried if he'll even remember you. I'd go with something short and sweet. And in it propose a date or something, like "Hey, _____ I really like you and was wondering if you wanted to go _______." Feel free to change the words, but I'd say something like that.
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Okay, my boyfriend and I have been going out since October, and have spent the whole summer of 2006 with this little crush on each other thing. He's liked me for a whole year before that summer, too. Basically, after he asked me out we've spent so much time together. I can't imagine not being with him, and neither can my friends. Everyone expects us to be the couple that will never break up, high school sweethearts, etc.
Lately, though, I've been getting bored from being in a relationship so long. I've started noticing all the little things he does that bugs me, and it really irritates me how he gets upset when I hang out with or talk about another guy.
I don't know. I feel like I want to take a break or dump him or something but I don't know what to do or how to do it, and I'm afraid that in the end I'll regret everything.
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I wouldn't be mad about him not liking you talking to guys. I'm a guy and I hate it when my girlfriend talks to guys. :-/ It's just natural. But I would tell him how you feel and try to change things up, do something to spice up the relationship. And tell him what you don't like so he'll fix them, or if they're too small for that, then you really should just learn that he can't be perfect and you have to put up with it.
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i like this kid on my bus, but i havent really talked to him very much. how can i get him to noitce me more and maybe approach me, rather than me having to approach him? he knows who i am, i just want him to notice a little more. so what are some tips? things i could do, ect. only things i could do on the bus though, because i dont have any classes with him and i rarely see him in school.
thanks! (link)
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Sit next to him and be caught looking at him, I guess. Not really much you can do to get him to approach you. Pass a note or get one of your friends to tell him you like him would probably get his attention.
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I am sooo confused right now....okay(im a 17 year old girl by the way)
I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years now and i thought i was in love with him until recently. He is a jerk to me and doesn't care how I feel about anything. He hurts my feelings and I dont know what to do.
Another part of this question(it goes along with that) is that i met this guy online about 2-3 years ago. WE have been great friends online and we are practically the same person. Welll, the other night(this was the first tiime weve ever said anything like this), (he lives in Alaska, me in ohio) okay, well, the other night, i asked him "If we lived near each other, do you think we would be more than freindS? " He told me"I definently think we talk and think exactly alike...we even finish each others sentences". HE told me that he would be moving out of Alaska soon because his friends arent really good kids(he wants to go out in the real world). He told me also that ohio was a choice in his list and me being here puts a plus on ohio. He really doesn't seeem like the stalker guy that you imagine everyone to be online. Hes actually really nice and hes never said anything sexual to me, which helps me realize that hes not a pervert. He is 19.(2 years older than me) and I just don't know if I should break up w/ my boyfriend because hes being a jerk and all he wants is sex, orshould i stay with him and possibly miss out on the chance of a lifetime to meet a guy who seems amazing. (he said hes going to be moving out w/in a year or so)....so please help me.. This is the most confusing situation I have ever been in.... (link)
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I would say tell your boyfriend what you think. Honesty is key in a relationship. Tell him how you feel and why you feel that way. This will do one of two things, A: He will change and you will be back in a happy relationship with someone you have been with for two years, B: He will not change and now knows of your discomfort so now you'd be free to break up with him. As for the guy from Alaska...if he does actually move down make sure you meet him in a very public place first, while people know where you're at and what you're doing. Nobody ever meets an online predator and thinks, "Well he sounds like one, but oh well." Always be aware of the fact that he could be one. And even if the first meeting goes well, still be cautious because you really don't know how he is in person, make some more meetings and if all goes well, good luck. But I'd try to fix it with your boyfriend now.
Hope that helped.
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Last night was a school dance. I didn't have a date (not for lack of trying), so I went stag for the day-date with my friends and the dinner. After dinner, we had an hour until the dance was supposed to start, so we went to walmart, where another of my friends works. He couldn't go because he had to work, but it turned out he got off work at 9, so I talked him into coming tot he dance when he got off work to be my date. After he got to the dance we danced every song except one and we held hands when we were in line for pictures or waiting for the rest of our group. When we went for ice cream after he opened my doors and put his arm around me when we were walking. I had a good time, and he said he did too, but I was wondering if I should ask him to go out with me again, and if so, how soon? 16/f (link)
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Just because you had a good time don't rush into anything. 16 is an age where guys will act very nice just to get some. He sounds nice, but find out his history first. DO NOT rush into anything. Hang out with him, ask him about himself and previous relationships. Anywho...good luck.
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I really need help maybe from someone whose done scavenger hunts or something along the lines of that. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while and friends for a year and we are finally officially boyfriend and girlfriend. I really want to suprise him with something super cool possibly a scavenger hunt. Only problem is he lives about 20 minutes away but we go to the same school. I don't know where to do it or how to make it really special. Since we have school that day maybe after school around my town. I really need help if anyone has good ideas whether its a scavenger hunt or something else cute. HELP please, thanks! (link)
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Scavenger hunt sounds really time consuming for little benefit. I'd say just go to movie and dinner. OR, might be hard, but you cook dinner or something? Or just watch a movie both of you would like. I'm not a fan of the scavenger hunt.
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So i did stuff with my ex boyfriend who has a girlfriend then i told her cuz i felt bad about it but i still really like this guy but anyways she wont let him talk to me anymore now..how can i get him to talk..ive tried emailin he wont write back he doesnt see them cuz she deleted them first or he just doesnt write back he knows my voice on the fone so he hangs up wen he knows its me and hes always with her wen i see him ..i really need to get some answers from him, but i cant get him to talk..any idea? (link)
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You need to be more responsible about who you do stuff with, know their status. But if I were in your situation I would try to befriend his girlfriend, IF your goal is to talk to him, NOT to date him again. If you're trying to get back with him then try to make it in person.
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I'm a girl by the way.
How can I separate my relationships from me being horny? My last relationship ended because of my sexual desires. Even though the guy tempted me.
I'm a virgin, I just meant making out, etc too much.
How can I stop being so horny? (link)
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Masturbation. Works wonders. I do it too much. :( Then again I'm a 16 year old guy.
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ive been with my boyfriend almost 7 months and i have him very much. but is it bad that if im out like at the mall or something and some hott guy starts talking to me like he has some interest in me i almost dont want to tell them i have a boyfriend because i dont wanna stop the flirting and make him lose interest? by the way when i do this i have no interest in hanging out or dating them, i just love that feeling of being pursued haha but i feel kind of guilty about it. (link)
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How dedicated are you to him? I have a girlfriend and I'm the type that gets really jealous. I know I shouldn't but just knowing that she's talking to other guys gets me jealous. :-/ I would hate it especially if I had been going out with the girl for seven months.
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