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2 guys and confused
I am sooo confused right now....okay(im a 17 year old girl by the way)
I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years now and i thought i was in love with him until recently. He is a jerk to me and doesn't care how I feel about anything. He hurts my feelings and I dont know what to do.
Another part of this question(it goes along with that) is that i met this guy online about 2-3 years ago. WE have been great friends online and we are practically the same person. Welll, the other night(this was the first tiime weve ever said anything like this), (he lives in Alaska, me in ohio) okay, well, the other night, i asked him "If we lived near each other, do you think we would be more than freindS? " He told me"I definently think we talk and think exactly alike...we even finish each others sentences". HE told me that he would be moving out of Alaska soon because his friends arent really good kids(he wants to go out in the real world). He told me also that ohio was a choice in his list and me being here puts a plus on ohio. He really doesn't seeem like the stalker guy that you imagine everyone to be online. Hes actually really nice and hes never said anything sexual to me, which helps me realize that hes not a pervert. He is 19.(2 years older than me) and I just don't know if I should break up w/ my boyfriend because hes being a jerk and all he wants is sex, orshould i stay with him and possibly miss out on the chance of a lifetime to meet a guy who seems amazing. (he said hes going to be moving out w/in a year or so)....so please help me.. This is the most confusing situation I have ever been in....
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Maybe it's just me, or this really is as simple as it seems.
Ohio, you are in a relationship with a person that has certain character traits that you don't agree with. Being 17 years old I know that one person with the right words, hug, etc...becomes what feels like the world to you. As a 20-something grown man I will tell you that there is more out there than a selfish jerk/sex monger. It's time to pull him to the side and get yourself back. Now, about Alaska...
LOL...at least he knows that Alaska isn't the end all, be all of existence; that shows promise! Really, though, it seems as if the two of you have created a bond, that believe it or not, is commonplace in our world today. People have a million and one complaints about the net and pedophiles, stalkers, etc..etc...but what people really don't hear about are the "success" stories. I met my fiancee online and I've never been happier in all of my days.
Know who you're dealing with; know their intentions by listening close, and asking the right questions.
You may just realize that your current isn't good enough, and that there are other fish that want to be caught, right next to you. Alaska is in Alaska. Unless he can fly to you right now and prove his worth, keep it on the chat line.
Have fun, be young!
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I would say tell your boyfriend what you think. Honesty is key in a relationship. Tell him how you feel and why you feel that way. This will do one of two things, A: He will change and you will be back in a happy relationship with someone you have been with for two years, B: He will not change and now knows of your discomfort so now you'd be free to break up with him. As for the guy from Alaska...if he does actually move down make sure you meet him in a very public place first, while people know where you're at and what you're doing. Nobody ever meets an online predator and thinks, "Well he sounds like one, but oh well." Always be aware of the fact that he could be one. And even if the first meeting goes well, still be cautious because you really don't know how he is in person, make some more meetings and if all goes well, good luck. But I'd try to fix it with your boyfriend now.
Hope that helped.
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you should break up with your boyfriend, not just because of this other guy, but just because he's being a jerk, if all he wants is sex tell him that he has hands lol. but if you do break up with him then there's also the plus of you trying to be more then "friends" with your dream guy.
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