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Um I have a really personal love life question and id rather not post it on public internet, so I was wondering if a couple of people could volunteer to answer it? (ill send you a question to your inbox)
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i just wanted to say two things:
you're anonymous, no one knows who you are.
and if your so scared not to post it on the internet - if these people answer it its going to go on their column anyways, so it is posted to the public.
but i'm willing to answer.
as long as it doesn't revolve around sex.
if you want you can email me at: dixiencoco@hotmail.com
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15/f i'm inexperienced at dating guys or even getting asked out and 2 days ago, this guy professed his love to me online and said that he wants me to go out with him. and he kept on flattering me and i was like whoahh, you know? too much attention.
i don't like him. he's sweet but just not my type.
i didn't know what to answer him when he asked me out, so I said i'll think about it. and now he's assuming that i meant that its a maybe. that he has every right to hug me or do stuff.
its not a maybe. its a no.
i just dont want to break his heart. he told me the last girl who rejected him broke his heart. and he gave me all this bs about how im the right one, and how he can't live without me.
and i'm like : you're kidding right?
he wasn't.
i'm really confused. how do i go about getting 'rid' of him in a nice way? i'm so new to this..
and i'm beginning to think maybe i led him on :/ (link)
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wow, you've just perfectly described my situation.
just tell him how you feel.
yeah, the last girl that rejected him broke his heart - but obviously he doesn't feel that bad 'cause he's already moved on to you.
life's all about living it, can you really do that if you go out with him and hold back all the time 'cause you don't wanna break his heart?
what about you? its okay to be a little selfish every now and then.
as far as doing this in a nice way? just say something like, "you've told me how you feel and i think its only fair that you know i don't feel the same. you're very sweet and all, so i'm sure there are plenty of other girls that would be willing to go out with you." and if he gives you more bs about there is no other girl than you, or no other girl will even give him a second look be like, "then you haven't looked hard enough."
and whatever you do don't say, "you're just not my type," just trust me.
and i think you know better, but don't do the cliche "its not you, its me" thing.
hope i helped.
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ok, I have a b/f. He treats me pretty good and stuff but he get so mad about most the stuff i do and acts like he never does it, although he does. we argue alot and truthfully he's not exactly the cutest guy ever. But this guy that went to my school last year and i liked him and he liked me but we never got together, started back at our school. we talk alot now and he really likes me and he's cute and sweet and funny and can always make me smile some way and i'm starting to really like him. all of my freinds think i should leave my b/f for him but i kinda dont want to but i'm scared that if i don't something will happen and i will never get another chance to be with him. HELP PLEASE!!! (link)
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let's ask the obvious here.
he's a hypocrite.
if you do break up ask yourself if you would actually WANT another chance with him.
if the answer is no, break up with him and go with the other guy.
if the answer is yes, just take a 'break' and see if it works out. either to just stop seeing each other for a while, or date other people casually. do you understand that?
i'm with your friends on this one. i would totally go for the other guy.
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why do boys hate it when girls cry? (link)
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the same reason i don't like it when girls cry [i'm a girl].
1. they don't know how to act. its awkward.
2. they don't understand and don't want to comfort you in case you lash out ['cause girls are emotional and have mood swings].
3. they want to comfort you, but don't want to imply that they like you [if they do, or don't].
4. they don't like to see you sad, they love your smile.
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ok the problem i wrote before bout a picture abd all..well at the rec. department tonight he came.. and i think he knows i know..so what do i do...cause it looks like he is made at me..and when i left i huged a guy in front of him and said nothing..so please help....and basketball season is starting and im cheering and he is playin so mabey we could talk then?? (link)
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um, well i don't know your problem. [you should give a link or something]
but from what you have here i'd just say to act normal.
if your cheering and he's playing you might not have a chance to talk to him, but maybe before and after the games.
if he gives you a chance, 'cause you said that you thought he might be mad.
i have no idea was you want to talk to him about, but i suspect it might be an awkward subject, so just be casual and break the ice.
don't forget to wish him luck for the games. [:
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okay so i like this guy and i told him i liked him and he lied to me and told me he was gay,,,so i tried to get over him and i thought i was until like 5 minutes ago...my friend said that he offered to help her carry out some boxes that were really big and heavy but she said no, and i dont know why but ever since she told me that i cant stop crying...i dont know why either. he lied to me i should be mad at him right? but im not i still cant get his picture out of my mind. but lil things make me cry. like that song by katherine mcphee-over it..i listen to it and it makes me cry...but im crying now and i just dont know why..can you help me please..? (link)
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maybe your subconsious jumped to the conclusion that he now likes your friend. which might have also been what your friend thought, and being the friend she is she refused.
you don't have to be mad at him. don't force any feelings.
i don't know really how to help, but it seems that you implied that he was the problem and your trying to conquer it.
the only way i know how to get over him is to be active. active enough to have so much fun, or you get so caught up with what your doing, you'll forget about him, even if its just for a moment. don't EVER mope around, that'll lead to even more problems. be productive, hang with your friends, and be active.
[: i really hope i helped. tell me how it ends.
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me 15/f
him 16/m
i have to go to summer school for an hour for math. through one of my friends i met this kid who we'll call joe. joe goes to another school but in my area all the schools come to my school for summer school. ok so everyday when i come into school joe comes up to me and gives me a hug and says hello. we've only known each other for maybe 2 weeks and we've only really talked over myspace. when i leave school he gives me a hug too. normally he just says "hey (my name here) how ya doin?" and then i say good an go to class. today when i walked in i gave him a hug as usual and then he said "you look really nice today" and i said thanks and walked to class. normally i would flirt back or something but here's the catch...he has a girlfriend. his girlfriend goes to my school, i think she's 14. she's my best friend's neighbor. she's not a friend of mine but i have nothing against her. on "joe's" myspace is says "i love(girlfriend's name here)" and its all over his myspace. so what is this kid doing? he seems like a nice kid. i can't tell if this is his way of talking to girls normally or if he's flirting. im so confused what's going on?! (link)
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i think he's just being friendly.
i knew a guy like that.
he was my best friend's ex-boyfriend who was at the time going out with this other girl.
we started talking over myspace and he sometimes, what might be called as, hit on me through picture comments.
he loved his girlfriend and had pictures of them kissing and everything, too.
so i think he was being genuinely friendly.
friends tell you that you look nice, that doesn't mean they like you in that way.
but, since he's a guy you can never be sure.
hope i helped.
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This year there was a boy at my school I love. The problem was that he was a bit older than me (I'm 11)and was my older brothers friend. When school ended I was upset because he was going to high school and I would never see him again. I also was upset because I never got to talk to himand my friends said he was perfect for me. Then I wrote him love notes and gave him a website he could talk to me on (I knew he had). He never is on though. He still doesn't know who I am what should I do? (link)
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if you never got to talk to him how do you, let alone your friends, know how perfect he was for you?
if you've never talked to him, how did you end up liking him?
& if he doesn't know who you are then i'm afraid there's next to nothing you can do.
but since he's your brother's friend, get him alone if they ever hang out at your house & start talking to him.
i'm guessing he's, like, fifteen or so?
& i'm also guessing you're in, like, sixth going into seventh & he's going into ninth?
maybe the guys in your area of the planet are different, but in my area of the planet high school boys go out with eighth grade and other high school girls.
so unless your uber gorgeous & an addictive personality, i suggest you get over him & move on to someone else.
answer the questions if you may, my curiousity needs to be satified.
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15/f. i kinda like this kid, well i do like him. but anyway, last night i was talking to him online for like an hour and we were actually having like a real conversation and it was cool. but in school, its so different. i'm really shy, so online i'm good, but in person i dont know what to say. i was going to atleast smile or say hi to him today in school but i never got the chance. and he didnt do anything either so i think he's also a little shy. so how can i end up becoming atleast friends or more with him? i need to take small steps i cant just walk up to him and start a conversation b/c im like really shy. and i need to atleast become somewhat friends with him cuz i only have 2 weeks of school left and he's gonna be gone like almost the whole summer. and who knows if ill have any classes with him next year. helpppppp! (link)
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you sound kinda like how i used to be.
make eye contact or something one time.
smile and mumble/say a hi.
& i know you said you "can't just walk up to him and start a conversation" but you can try.
'cause i don't know what else to do.
to start a conversation, ask him about himself.
then if you can relate what he said to something that happened to you or someone you know, tell him that.
& then that might trigger something that happened to him or someone he knows.
etc.
but whenever the conversation, like, dies, just ask more about himself.
unless you would like to just tell him more about yourself.
but shy people don't usually like to talk about themselves.
anyways, i say something 'safe' like, "you know what i hate? when you get gum on your shoe and stuff." etc.
or maybe just say hi, blahblahblah, and kind of walk with him a little.
i hope i helped.
ask more if you need too.
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this is from:falling in love Sux
i hate it when she is close to me as in leaning and touchy. becuase it messes up my mind about her, if she likes me too or just oddly close to me. i want to think of her as my other friends but my feeling dont let me to. Why is she still close?
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oh, okay.
i think in the other question you said you told her how you feel.
maybe you should tell her again and include the fact that her acting like that makes you feel like she likes you too.
even though she's told you that she doesn't.
mixed signals, you know?
she might be close because [if you've already told her your moving] she'll miss you and wants to spend a lot of time with you and such.
or, she's in denial about liking you back.
or, just like you said, she's oddly close.
instead of wasting time wondering, ask her herself.
i hope i helped & that this is was the type of answer you were looking for.
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There are days I wish I never meet her, and I wish I never help her from her issues.
But for some reason I was lead to this path to meet her and help her, but why!?
I am in love with my best friend that I know for 8 years. And I am a woman who found out that I am bisexual. I had past relationships with men but they never work out and I never got over her. It’s hard when I try to deny my feeling of her when she is a touchy close person to me. She leans on me and teases too. I know friends do that but she can go too far on being close. She is still very close to me after I told her ho w I felt about her. She was shocked about it and she told me she is fine with it and will still be my friend no matter how I feel in my heart. She doesn’t feel the same way about me and she not ready for a relationship and she isn’t sure what gender she likes her self. I ask her why that is and she said she doesn’t feel any towards to men.
When I try to get over her I just can’t! I cry because I can’t get over her. What should I do?
I am moving to Hawaii with my family and my plan was to never talk to her no more so I can get over her. But she is my best friend and I don’t want to break her heart. What should I do if I see her with someone elus? I won’t handle it well I know it I just wish I can find out what to do.
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okay, this isn't an area i'm very strong in, but i'll try.
first of all, you should never deny your feelings.
if anything embrace them.
second of all, you should get over her, but that takes time.
just go with the flow.
third of all, you shouldn't ignore her, 'cause that will only make you want to see her more.
let her know your moving.
but when you do move, hopefully you'll get over her faster because of being miles away with lots of new people.
if you see her with someone else, try being happy for her.
'cause even though you're not the one with her, she's probably happy.
they say true love is when no matter what you just want the other person to be happy, no matter where they are or who they're with.
and when you need to, cry it out.
crying is good for you.
hope i helped. :]
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ok so i have this really big crush on this guy thats in my class, tomorrow is the last day of school and hes moving to another country over the summer, i want to kiss him so bad but it would be awkward, i like him so much but i dont know his phone number and i want him to know that i like him
please help!!!
p.s. im 13, so is he =]
help fast, i need it by tomorrow
thanks in advance
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well, i would tell him i like him and that i want to keep in touch by asking his number.
but if you're shy, skip the confession and just say something like you'll miss him and want to keep in touch by asking his number.
like, i wouldn't kiss him 'cause you're right.
it'd be awkward on so many levels, you have no idea.
but he's moving, so it doesn't really matter.
if you're feeling extra confident, i think you should go for it.
hope i helped.
tell me how it results.
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how do you show a guy you like him. without telling him. & i dont mean this in a horny or perverted way.
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flirt with him.
excessively if you must.
boys are slow, and usually oblivious though.
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i know i already ask this quetion again and some of you probaly had all ready read the first part and stuff and for some who didnt well my freind has a boyfriend and she is talking to this boy on the internet and yes they be talking about sex like you making me horny and all that stuff and i just want to know is it cheating. (link)
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i didn't see the other question, but i wouldn't consider it cheating unless they are actually doing something besides talking.
but that doesn't mean her boyfriend wouldn't be jealous if someone told him.
um ... yeah.
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I like this guy and e's not cute but he's really nice. I like I mean LOVE this guy cuz he's sweet and sensitive. I really feel bad for him because he can't EVER see his mother again and he's my friend, whome which i LOVE! Wht should I dooooo!?! (link)
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you can love people even if they're not society's definition of attractive.
if you really love him you wouldn't really notice that he's not cute because he's so sweet and such.
like the person below said, if you wouldn't mind people knowing you were with him and maybe being teased about him, give it a go.
hope i helped.
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age:13
sex:female
ok so yesterday was my first time makeing out. The kid i madeout with is more experienced. and it all just happened so fast. It was SUCH a blur. like i only remember the tongue and i dont remember where I put my hands! i know he put his around my waist! Do you think he thought i was bad?! can boys tell?! could he tell that it was my first time?
and to top that off. 3 of my friends madeout with him the SAME day and didnt tell me. i wouldnt of cared if they told me. should i be slightly mad?
Please help! thanks.
love, Briiiii (link)
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okay, so the first question i'm not an expert on.
but i'm pretty sure you did fine as long as no one got hurt.
the second question is more my territory.
okay, so i can't tell you what to feel, but if i really liked this guy and told those same three friends, then yes, i would be a bit pissed off.
especially about the fact that none of them told me afterwards.
but again, i can't tell you what to feel and it really depends on the details of the situation.
ps. i think it might be good that you don't really care 'cause then there would be no fighting on account of your anger and you can think more clearly if there are [any fights] because you don't have any anger to blur your thoughts.
i really hope i helped.
give some feedback?
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ok so my friends ex boyfriend likes me. and i like him. we never met. its along story not going into detail. well were meeting sometime this week. and well i was just wondering what do i do? like what should we talk about? where should we go? and i hope my friend doesnt leave. because im gonna be so lost. what do i do? and my friend is cool with me going out with him because well i mean just in case we get to that point. so dont say i shouldnt. (link)
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i have a some what similar situation.
i'm going to have to assume that you have spoken online or on the phone to have gotten to like each other, like i have.
if you've talked to each other online or on the phone, you must know something about each other like what they like and/or dislike.
go from there to make conversation.
and remember that people love to talk about themselves, and use that to your advantage as well.
hope i helped. :]
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I am 14 and i have never had a Boyfriend or my first kiss!!! i want one so bad, but no one likes me!!! (link)
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don't worry, i'm fourteen and haven't had a boyfriend or a first kiss either.
just put yourself out there, flirt a little.
and most likely someone likes you, but usually they're too shy to say it.
a lot of the people that like me are like that, and i've found out through their friends, etc.
don't rush it though, 'cause if you want it to be special and mean something it'll come when you're ready for it.
hope i helped. :]
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ok so tomorrow i HAVE to talk to the guy i like. because i do have a chance if I talk to him. so like were not friends. he knows i like him. so what can i say to him? i see him at lunch. (link)
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okay, so if your outgoing that's great and all, but if you're asking this question i'm guessing you're normally shy like me.
golden rule: don't act. be. be friendly, be casual, be natural.
i have a few cute friends at lunch that i normally don't talk to. but when i want to flirt or something i just ask for food. but that's just me, you could try the same thing since you have lunch with him or you could go, hey! i like your shirt. gimme. but of course with your personality.
this might not have made sense but i hope it helped nonetheless. :]
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I just got out of a breakup after a year and a half with my boyfriend that I am absolutely in love with but it just cant work out. I'm 17. Any ideas of getting over him?!?! (link)
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Well, don't avoid him. Think of him as just some ordinary person.
But seriously, think happy thoughts. If you ever find yourself thinking of what you had with him or something along those lines, think of other things. Like some other guy, like some really hott celebrity or and new guy that you feel attracted to. If you can't just have some song, that will not get you thinking of him, in your head all the time. It works for me.
I hope I helped!
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