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My Name is Dan, i'm 23 from Australia!
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I work with this guy I like once a week and he seems to like me too. He's always teasing me about liking this other guy I talk to at work, poking me and looking at me. Even my boss pointed it out that he thinks he likes me. Long story short but he has a girlfriend that moved to the states and she called him today while he was at work and I felt stupid because we've been flirting a lot lately at work and I put a little effort into my appearance every Wednesday. Should I just give up? or should I just go with the flow and see what happens?
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It's a tricky one.
I mean he shouldn't be leading you on when he has a girlfriend already. But also love starts in some tricky situations, if you both decide at zome stage that you want to give it a try then honestly as long as he is willing to face up to his current girlfriend and be honest with her. Then maybe there could be something. But if hes going to keep you a secret and still string along his current girlfriend then that's where you will need to put your foot down.
All in all, just go with the flow and be yourself.
Don't over dress to impress him (unless you really want to) but he should like you the way you are :)
Hope this helps in some way!
-DanSkittles13
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I'm 15, almost 16, female in 10th grade. I want to be in a relationship really bad, but I keep seeming to have problems with this. I had 1 boyfriend in the past but broke up with him in a week, I was scared to commit. Every time I get close to a guy (not physically) I suddenly freak out and avoid them. I always seem to find flaws in every guy as if it helps convince me why I shouldn't date them. I want to be in a relationship but I'm scared to commit and I think I'm scared to fall in love. How do I stop that? (link)
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Hey there!
Don't be afraid to fall in love. It's only natural to feel certain ways about relationships, none of us would be human if we didn't have any reactions to things, just take it slow. Sometimes love & commitment can take time to adjust. Just be patient you're young and still experiencing different feelings growing up.
I'm not saying that you're not ready, but soon you'll feel more confident in how you feel about love and commitment. It took me a while too. It's natural. Don't stress about it.
I hope this helps!
Don't hesitate to ask for more advice!
-Danskittles13.
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I am a red head with blue eyes and was wondering why us gingers are turn offs for guys? All of my friends tell me I am pretty but guys seem to think different. Why??? (link)
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Don't be so hard on yourself, that's just some idiots opinion, you are not a turn off.
Just be more confident in yourself.
I'm sure you are beautiful :)
Hope this helps!
-Danksittles13
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Alright, I'm in my 20's and I'm having an extremely hard time meeting guys. Everytime I meet a guy I have an interest in, they shove me away and will never give me a chance, plus they turn out to be complete jerks. It's rather frustrating. On the other hand when guys approach me they end up stalking me on social media or harass me non-stop up to the point where I am completely suffocated. This may sound whiny, but SERIOUSLY what's going on? I meet jerk after jerk or extremely desperate ones. I'm extremely casual around guys because of all the nonsense I've dealt with. How does everyone meet guys? I've tried some sites and have gone out but don't seem to be meeting healthy men. Advice. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Where do you meet a caliber kind of guy? Thanks in advance.
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I guess there is no way to meet guys, it's all natural stuff. It all works like magic really (not trying to sound corny).
I do feel for you, but trust me, you will meet a few idiots before you meet the right guy, just remember.. You are only 20.. There's no rush :)
Just be yourself, be confident in yourself. You're worth a lot more than the jerks you get :)
I hope I could help in some way, feel free to get back to me!
-DanSkittles13
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Hi! Thank you for replying to my pervious question "should I tell her that I have a crush on her?"
I told her a few days ago that I have a crush on her...
I sent her message on Facebook
I feel like I can tell you anything, you're like my best friend! I want to tell you I have a crush on you.
She replied: Well I'm glad you've been honest. Who knows what happens in the future?!
And we still continue to talk everyday...
I'm nervous...I never had a girl that we both were interested in each other at the same time...
All I want to do is send her love lettters by mail! lol
What should I do from here?
This is new to me...I never had a serious relationship ...only been in love with my ex friend for 16 years...unrequited love. (link)
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Sorry! Got off for a while..
Well just keep talking to her as usual.
Don't tell her again and again, you don't want her to think you're needy.
Have some confidence in yourself.
If she likes you then that's a great sign.
I'm very pleased you was honest!
It takes a lot of guts to be honest about these things.
Keep it up and feel free to ask me any more questions :)
Good Luck!
- DanSkittles13
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I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together. I never have enough courage to go up to him...I'm so shy and I feel awkward in social settings
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance? (link)
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Well, this all makes sense, I see your issue!
Obviously you've heard the saying always be yourself, so just do that, you can never be wrong for who you are inside. We are all wired the same way, we all have feelings, we all laugh, smile, love, dislike and hurt. Nobody is perfect, nobody is a loser despite what people may say. I guess the point i'm trying to make is everyone is equal so you shouldn't worry about people being better or out of your league. We are all shy about something, especially when we meet someone new for the first time. I can be very shy at times! I'm 23 and still suffer the occasional shyness, so sometimes you ever grow out of it. Have you thought about hanging out after school if he lives so far away? That way he's in the same area that he has to get home from but just at a later time. Don't worry about what your friends say, if they laugh at you then clearly they don't understand what real feelings are, (please don't take offense to that).
I believe you have a chance, if you're honest to yourself about how you feel then you should totally believe in yourself :)! Just talk to him, be yourself around him, find common interest', music, games, whatever you're into. Good Luck! DanSkittles13, 23, AU
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So I'm 19/f and I have an amazing boyfriend. He is literally so amazing to me and loves me and I love him too. But throughout our relationship, which has lasted for almost a year now, I think about this other guy I used to like. He's been my friend for a few years now and a little over a year ago I started to like him. He was negative sometimes, and he did somethings that I didnt like but I still felt that there was this light in him and I thought about him all the time and just liked him so much. But I always thought that it wouldnt work out cause I didnt want to ruin my friendship with him and I didnt feel he was mature enough to be in a relationship. Then I met my now boyfriend and hes just been so amazing and surpasses my friend tenfold in everything. But there are times that I miss him so damn much. And that ive thought about being with him and how i just want to hangout with him again and talk to him more. Even tho we didnt even talk a whole lot even before I got with my boyfriend. I dont think he even likes me in that way at all. But sometimes I just cant shake thinking about him and missing him. I barely talk to him anymore now that im in a relationship cause my bf wouldnt feel comfortable with it and I dont think itd be right of me considering I still have feelings for him. But I do talk to him sometimes still on holidays and birthdays. Anyways I just feel bad, I cant tell my boyfriend at all. Not at all. But I have these feelings and I just dont know what to do. Im not going to leave my bf and im not going to tell him either. Ive lied to him too when hes asked me if ive ever had thoughts about another guy or if I ever feel unhappy in our relationship. And I just idk Im not sure what im asking. Maybe I just want to get this off my chest and have someone tell me what to do or something. I dont want to give up talking to my friend, i dont want to break up with my bf and I deff do not want to tell him. Am I a horrible person? I love my bf and I dont have these feelings all the time but sometimes I do and I just dont know what to to! Anyway sorry for the babbling, and thank you to whoever took the time to read this. Please help me! Tell me something, give me some advice! Thank you! (link)
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Hey there!
Im a newcomer to this website, so I hope I can help!
That's a sticky situation!
Firstly, before I start giving advice the first think I would like to say is do not blame yourself, do not be angry at yourself, we're all human, and we can't control out feelings, neither can we choose who we fall for.
If you feel this way, you should sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him, you should hold his hands and explain to him that you never want to hurt him and he means a lot to you, it wont be easy of course, but it's not fair on either of you to keep this going if you don't have feelings for him. It's kind of lying to him about your relationship.
Tell him how you've been feeling, and that its not his fault, you still care about him, and you're really sorry.
Or I could be wrong, these feelings could pass, if you are sure about your feelings and you love your boyfriend then you will make it work, you will work hard to follow your heart on how much he means to you, like I said you're not a bad person, you just need to work out how you feel, I understand that you need advice with this, it's a tricky situation. But nobody can tell you what to do. Its a decision that you need to make. I will be more than happy to listen to you and give you as much advice as possible. I hope in some way i've helped.
DanSkittles13, 23, AU.
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I 'm confused about my situation... I don't know what to think and I'll like to ask for someones opinion. I have a online crush...We've met on a support website, she was my listener on 7 cups of tea.com an anxiety and depression site. At the time I met her I was going through a break up and I needed someone to talk to. She was very helpful and a good adviser with my situation. Few weeks later we exchanged our Instagram and then later our facebook. One day I told my crush:
I am grateful that I've meet you. You understood me from the beginning and knew exactly what to say. I like that! Lol I love to talk...about anything! And if someone can keep up with my Gemini side it is a major plus! It is nice to share many things with someone who would listen and communicate. If we lived near each other I would totally ask you out lol
Her reply:
Me too. Haha well I am always here to talk, to share things, even when things aren't going so well.. I'm always here haha!! Well it's a shame I'm on the other side of the world!!
She lives in the UK...
When she sent me her reply I had to ask her what is her sexuality...
she said "Well, so far I've been In two relationships with guys. But I haven't met anyone who I know I want a future with. And I wouldn't mind if it was a guy or a girl, as long as they made me happy. Does that make sense?"
Although, she doesn't lable herself and she is finding more about herself...
We've been talking everyday since I sent her that complement. I asked her that we should video chat sometime and she was willing to face time asap.
She and I face time twice, I called her first and the next day she called me. There were alot of shy smiles and laughing. Giving each other complements and being kind to one another. We clicked very well, talked about anything that was on our mind. As of now we've been talking everyday.
I have no clue what are her intentions with me, as far as I know now we are just friends.
I really like her but I don't know what to think of this...
It's a shame that she lives in the UK. And btw she is 18.... i
I'm 28 year old lesbian moving on from my first love and ex best friend.
And my crush is aware of my past heart breaks...because I vented to her before we befriended on facebook.
Should I tell her that I like her or is she just being a kind friend?
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Hey there!
Be patient with me, i'm new to this!
I'm sorry about your past experiences, break-ups are always hard even if they are for the best.
I'm glad you seeked advice and help with your anxiety! Nobody should have to deal with that alone.
From her response to your message, she seems pretty happy with what you said about her and wishing she was close to you, and obviously noting that she would be happy with a male or female that could make her happy. She sounds pretty interested in my opinion, obviously the time difference sucks, my family live back in the UK, I live in AU.
And a long distance relationship can be hard, but if you are committed then you will make it work together.
Seeing people face to face is a great way of getting to read people, it sounds to me that it went well, if you're still talking to them then that's and amazing result. Be confident, she knows a lot of your past, if she didn't care she wouldn't still be here.
I hope I could help.
DanSkittles13, 23, AU.
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I met this guy at few months ago and the next morning he texted me, saying that he wanted to get dinner. So the next friday I invited him to my house which was empty because the rest of my family was out of town. After that we kept talking and hung out at my house one night and we did homework. However, he began being very unresponsive in texts so I assumed he was't interested in me, but he'll occasionally message me saying he wants to hang out soon, but never really making any plans. Like he'll text me late at night saying he's free then and I don't know what to do because I do kind of like him but I don't want to be lead off if he isn't actually interested. From your point of view does it seem like he actually likes me or is he just messing around. Because I think if he was completely uninterested then he wouldn't message me at all. (link)
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From what I've read it could be one of 2 things, and I dont want you to feel disheartened.
1. He is interested and he is really shy, if he wants to hang around with you then clearly there's something there.
Or
2.He doesn't know how he feels, I mean we've all been there right? We've all had feelings for someone and tomorrow it might feel different because we're unsure.
Just because he's unresponsive, doesn't mean hes not interested, he might just be shy or doesn't want to say the wrong thing, just don't feel like you're doing something wrong.
I hope in someway this helped, im a first timer and really want to help people.
I hope it works out!
- DanSkittles13, 23, AU.
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Ok me and my friends were talking about this cute guy when all of sudden a couple of boys come up to me and they say the boy over there thinks I'm cute and he likes me. So I walk over I didn't say anything because I was scared he didn't say anything either but he said I don't like her and he tried to run away but his friends wouldn't let him they keep saying that he liked me one of them said he had a girlfriend but I don't know. Do you think he likes me or nah? Or do you think they were messing with me? (link)
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Well, they would be pretty immature to be messing with you. Sometimes these things are pretty easy to tell from body language, and attitude. Or he could've actually said something about liking you, but you know young boys these days, I was the same, if I like a girl my friends would go tell her and make fun of me, and I would deny it. If he had a girlfriend then he should be being faithful to her.
Don't let it dishearten you though, there's someone out there for everyone :)
- DanSkittles, 23, AU.
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