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I am 14. Im going to be a Freshman this year. But just becuase im younger doesnt mean im not super helpful. I am. Ive been through alot with my friends. More things then any one would ever know. I SPEICIALIZE IN: Self help like; Self esteem, Cutting, Suicidalness, and coping with a loss: Relationships: Boyfriend/Girlfriend problems, friendship problems, Family issues: People problems: Ideas for revenge, bullies, steriotypical people, and how to get more friends: AND ACUAL HELP; For Drugs, sex, and everything in between. Ive been through it all. I can really turn your life around. *I PROMISE* Ive "saved" 3 ppl from suicides, Ive helped someone get off drugs because her life was going down fast, ive made thee most depressed people happy for the first tim in years. If you ever want to talk like one on one my email is: Chicka376@aol.com.

I want to help you..

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alright so me and my boyfriend dated 8 months, broke up, and 3 months later got back together (which was about a month ago)...he said "i love you" after about 4 months. he hasn't said it yet since we got back together but we've been doing alot of ehh fooling around i guess you can call it, more than we did when we dated for the first time. so i need some opinions...should i stop fooling around with him and wait for him to say it? or should i just keep doing what i'm doing

and anyyy other opinions on any of this
he's my first bf i've been sexual with soo idk how guys work really haha
we haven't actually had sex yet though and i know he's not just in it for sex cause i was drunk one time and said "get a condom" and he said no i won't let anything happen.

If he makes you happy, keep doin what your doin. If you just really want him to say it then stop. ITs easy.

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Ok i have these two girls that like me and i dont know who to choose i was hoping to get some opinions or advice

girl number one: i went out with before but it ended pretty quickly because she still loved her old boyfriend but we have remained really close friends since and there has always been something. now she said she always liked me and broke up with her bf to go out with me and i said ok but im afraid it will happen again. but we get along great, alot in common, lots of communication.but im not sure if i can readjust to becomeing more than friends again. even thought i keep thinking this is my chance to get her back,what iv wanted for so long...but im not sure if i want it.

girl 2: a girl that broke up with me a month ago. because she thought it was for the best and didnt want to hurt me, but she did alot because of the way it happened because she is really bad with communicating. I like her more that girl one but im so afraid ill get hurt again and im pretty sure i will. but she said she would really try and it feels right with her, even though i think it will just be temporarily happy because shes so complicated. she only told me all of thise when she saw me with girl one and it hurt too much and she realised etc.(we live in the same house)

but now im still going out with girl one and i have to choose but im so afraid of hurting girl one because i value her so much as a friend and in general. and im afraid im going to lose one of them so im not sure what to do

thanks

you should keep dating girl 1 until you think it will work with girl 2. other wise you lose both of them. So just wait till the time is the right time.

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i say i like a guy but when another guy comes along and i start to think we are just friends. He tells me he likes me! i want at least one guy to be my friend (sounds weird). Then he'll ask if i like him. And some how i always have to say "maybe or i don't know" because im scared that if i say no they won't want to be friends anymore. How can i get over this? and do the right thing??

If you really like the first guy, like really like, and this other guy comes along and asks you if you like him (and you do but just in a friend way) say " Of course!" In a friend way...

Unless this guy YOU like isnt as kewl or doesnt like you back go for the guy who likes you instead of chasing one you cant get.

But if they both like you.... Either chose OR tell them you want to be just friends with both... Then you have two friends and no confusion! AWSOME RIGHT?!! ;)

Go for the guy YOU REEEEEEEEEAAALLLLLLLLYYY LIKE!!!!

-Shelby ;)

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See, my crush Kyle he's my age (15) & super ccuuttee! Where good friends now, I've told him before that I like him(a year ago) at the time he just wanted to be friends...All are friends & me think he likes me now, I wanna bring it up but I don't know if he knows he likes me...I see him once to three times a week...How do I bring up my crush on him again whith-out messing up such a great friend-ship we have now?(Names: Gabriella, Age: 15 & Gender: Girl).

So....
You have two options
1.)If your friends with one of his guy friends ask him to "Bring it up" in a convo...

or

2.) If anything is brought up about relationships or something go for it.. in a sneaky way.. (and if there not talking about it then bring it up "Did you hear so n so were....") and then ooohhh speaking of "Whatever you were speaking of" i was wondering if you liked me.. in like a girlfriend kind of way... if he says yeeesss... THEN ASK HIM OUT
no.. then
1) you could tell him " I was just wondering" and go on with your friend ship
or
2) tell him what is EXCACTLY on yourr head.. if you want...

but if your heart is thomping and you just cant ask him, have a friend do it. a friend of his mabey...
:) itll all work out the way its supposed to be...
like if he says no.. u guys are still friends.. BUT good thing he said no.. because AN EVEN AWSOMER GUY came around.. yah know? it all works out ;)

-Shelby :D

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ok so I really really like one of my good friends. Im pretty sure that she likes me back, but the thing is is that I have no idea what to say to her when I tell her because I choke up everytime i try to say somethign to a girl that involves me liking them. Do you think it would be alright if I texted her or is that out of the question? I want to do something really nice but not embarrassing like flowers or anything and also Im going to my Junior prom with her. She is 19 and IM not sureif the two age year difference would be too much for her please I need you advice!

if you guys are good friends, then the two year age diffrence wont be "too much" for her. and if your going to the prom with her what are you trying to do? if you want to ask her out do it in a cute spontaneous way likkee.... write her a note... tape it to her locker.. yah know yah know..? or you could ask her while your dancing. be more spontaneous and nice, than think am i going to be embarresed type of thing.. JUST DO IT :)

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heyy
i like this guy, lets call him Pete. and we were at school camp last week together. okay well he is new at our school and hes really shy. we had a dance party there and he asked me to go to his cabin room with him instead, and i did. we were sitting down and then he goes "Can i kiss you?" and i was shocked because he doesnt talk that much and hes shy so i went all red and didnt say anything and just hid my face and then i stood up and ran away and sat on the top bunk, and he was leaning against the ladder, and then a teacher came in .. xD. we got put on 1 hour of after school detention and he got upset about it because hes only been new for a month and didnt want his reputation with teachers to be ruined, and i tried to cheer him up and then i said If you want to be alone then i can leave and he said Yes please, so i left. He talked to me the day after and said Sorry about ignoring you last night and then we talked for a bit and everything was fine. That night we got back to school and everyone was getting picked up, and my best friend Andrew came to meet me. I got him to carry all my luggage for me lol so we were walking and we walked past Pete, so i said bye to my friend and sat down with Pete. He didnt talk at all so i got a bad vibe and so i asked "Do you hate me or something..?" and he just shook his head no and didnt say anything. I felt abit weird so im like Okay what the hell so i got up and walked off. I didnt talk to him since then and today i had a double class with him, and my friend sat down next to me just do that Pete would have to sit next to me or there would be no seats left. Well that didnt work because he didnt talk to me at all. the next day we had detention for what happened at camp so as we were going inside i turned around and stood right in front of him and i was like "Are you gonna ignore me forever?" and he just shook his head no. and then after the detention i walked up to him and he said "Im sorry for ignoring you its just that im new and i dont want to give a bad image and teachers now give me dirties and everyone is making a big deal out of it" and i said "Yeah i know but you should ignore them because its just stupid rumours"
then hes like "Next term everyone will get over it so it will be better" and i was like Okay so you say you like me, then you ignore me for a week, and now you say next term we will be better for us?!!" and he said "Yeah i just cant talk to you this week .." so i just said Whatever then see you next term. and i walked off..
i dont know whether i should wait for him or if i should just forget about it during the 2 week holidays ? please helpp :)

sorry that its longg lol
thankss

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You should do what you feel fit. But on the other hand he does sound like he is getting that new guy shock. Most ppl do go through that. He sounds all right. but just do something.. like wave a guy in his face. make him jelous.. and then he will prolly talk to you bout it and then you guys could sort stuff out everything would be all good.

or mabey he isnt worth waiting for and you should just ignore him... that would probalbly drive him crazy also...
either way you guys do need to figure some stuff out.
but just give him a chance.. Hes new ;)

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well i know this is a typical everyday question that girls think about, and ask a lot but here is my story.
so ive liked this guy for a veryy long time and recently, ive gotten to know him a whole lot better. he's hilarious, sweet, and knows how to treat a girl. not to mention hottt :) its getting so annoying just thinking about him everyday and not have the confidence to do anything about it. ive been trying to invite him and his friends to movies and stuff too. but sometimes i get shy. its not like this with all of my other guy friends though! i really need to work on being shy around him, im really crazy and outgoing most of the time. so what im asking is what should i do to get him to notice me? how do i know if he likes me? and any tips on not being shy would help too :) thanks a ton!

Reall be you around him as much as you can. Then have a friend "ask you" and this guy and his friends er what ever to the movies so it wouldnt be so akward then insist on sitting by him with your friend on thee other side so it doesnt look so obvious and just bee yoouuu!!!! and you can tell if a guy likes you he flirst hes alwayz around you can tell hes thinking about you when hes staring across the room at you and you can tell at of the corner of your eye but when you turn to look at him hes quickly looks at something else and hes just awsome to you and if he doesnt ask you out soon ASK HIM!!!!!
and remember* your best girlfriend is your SECRET WEAPON*!!!!!!! if you know that you can do what evverr you want ;D


-Chicka376

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14/f (sorry this is long!)
okay. normally i'm really good with relationship advice, but apparently i can't help myself with this one. so, there's this guy at my school-we'll call him 'trevor.' so, i have liked trevor since the beginning of the school year. he had a girlfriend-let's call her 'jenny.' jenny is really nice and we talked a little bit. but anyway, i liked trevor but trevor was going out with jenny. well, we flirted a little bit and trevor and i became friends. then, we had a sadie hawkins dance at our school. i went with a guy friend. trevor went with his other friend that's a girl (she couldn't find a date, they're like bro + sis), and jenny went with one of her friends that's a guy. well, trevor had absolutely no fun with his date, while jenny flirted it up with her date. trevor breaks up with jenny. jenny comes to me and tells me everything. she says she's over him. he now flirts with me nonstop. it's just funny little things, sports things, or me making jokes (i'm the funny one =]) and him saying that i'm really funny/cute/cool. i want to go out with trevor more than any other guy. EVER. but still, i have this weird feeling that i would be betraying jenny. help ! what do i do ?

If you tell her how you liked him and he likes you that maybe shell understand... Id ask the guy out seriously girl drama can be over the next day... Do want your heart tells you... But I think you should ask him out cuz its sounds suuper obvious that he likes you so just go for it and "Jenny" should understand or shes not a real friend to you


-Chicka376

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ok so i really really really like this guy its been for a bout a yr now.... we are just friends right now but hes so cute and i want to be his girlfriend... but like he wont ask me out so like what are the signs that i can give him to show him i like himm. my friend told him i liked him allready but should i go tell him? any advice would be helpful thanks i will rate

You could flirt with him alot and give him a gift for the holidays but i think you should definatly just go up to him and ask him out when the time is rite (youll know- its when you both are having fun together and you just know...)Most people know if you like them or not its just that hes not saying anything so it should be you that does.
GO FOR IT :] ASK HIM!!!!!


-Chicka376

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I am 16/f. I feel like every datable guy already has a girlfriend, and I'm the odd one out. Every time I really like somone, they are already dating somone or are "talking" to another girl. Like yesterday I was sitting next to this boy I really kinda like on a bus ride to a feildtrip. He was talking to one of my girlfriends who was sitting in the seat in front of ours, and since she knows I like him she said, "Hey David, when are you going to get a girlfriend?" and he said "Well, I'm working on it." and she said "Oh who is it?" and he wouldn't say, so she said, "Is it one of the other basketball team managers?" (because he is a team manager) and he like blushed and got akward and shook his head yes. So the point of that story is he is not referring to me. (I am not a team manager). It is not like I'm upset about this newfound information, more like frustrated. I mean, I thought I seriously had a chance with this kid, because even though he is really nice and he's cute, he is just not really popular or anything... he is just normal. But even HE is already going for somone else. And really, Im not sad, just frustrated! It is not like I am ugly, mean, or anything, its just that everyone else is alreay paired up! No nice guys are single! And all the single guys I know or even am friends with... well, they are single for a reason. They have just got some trait or another that makes them undatable in my mind. (And please dont say consider them... trust me, I've been there- on instances when I needed a date for a dance or somthing, and I am not doing that again!) Im lonely, and my frinds keep going on group dates and stuff and I am left out. Why are the guys I like always taken? What should I do? I want a boyfriend but they are all taken!

YOU KNOW WHAT YOU SHOULD DO?!?
just go fer him!
when the time is rite...(you'll know when)
ASK HIM OUT!!!
just take a chance
what if he says no?
WHO CARES?!?
go fer a diffrent guy i doubt allll
the guyz are paired
try outside of your skewl
the mall... local hang out...
i dont know i just know you should deffinatly ask him even tho hes thinking about someone else
JUST GO FER IT!!!!
:D

-Chicka376

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