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Okay, i've liked this guy for about 3 years, and i told him during this summer, he told me he liked me since the 6th grade, but now that this school year started, he says that i'm annoying and i should stop talking to him, at first i was pissed but i understood that you can't force people to like you, but whenever i see him in the halls or at lunch, i find him staring at me and whenever i catch him staring, he immediatly looks away, what does that mean? my friend says that he might just think that i'm easy on his eyes, but i'm not so sure he's right cause i don't think i'm very pretty, but i just don't know if he does or doesn't like me, i just don't know what he thinks?

Okay, I was in a similar situation like this when I was your age. I was just starting high school and I was good friends with this guy I had like since the 7th grade. We talked all the time online and told each other secrets no one knew. I told him I liked him and how long I had been feeling that way. He said he'd liked me too, but we didn't take it any farther. Then I found out the reason he wouldn't date me. A few other girls had been persuing him around that same time and it seemed he thought I would always be around since I had liked him for so long, so he decided to persue one of the other girls. I was hurt, but I realized that he really didn't care about me. It took awhile for me to get over him and I still relapse now and then, but I know it will never work out.
This boy blew you off and said some pretty mean things to you. Even if he does liek you now, would you really want to date someone who would hurt your feelings like that? He may be staring at you because he realizes what he's missing. I'm sure you're a lot prettier than you think you are. Everyone in this world is beautiful, and the most beautiful people are often the ones that think they aren't. Even so, you're too good for this boy. He will just play with your emotions and break your heart.
What I suggest is that you forget about the boy who can't stop staring at you. There's another guy in your life who I believe would treat you much better than him...your friend. He suggested that another guy might find you attractive and in my opinion I think he might find you attractive as well. Besides, friends always make the best boyfriends. They already know you so well and you know they like you for who you are. You don't have to listen to me, and I might be wrong, but it just seems like he might have a crush on you. Consider it. I hope I was of some help. Please just ask me if you need any more advice. And always remember...you are BEAUTIFUL!

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ok well theres this guy that im like friends with i guess and he likes me but i dont like him like that and he calls me EVERY day and more than once too and its starting to make me not want to answer the phone bc its most likely him and i dont want to hurt his feelings but i dont really like talking to guys that much on the phone unless we have something to talk about and me and him usually dont have anything to talk about so then ill try to get off the phone after like 30 minutes and he gets mad at me and tells me i always do this to him. i dont know what to do! please help me! -kayla

Have you tried telling him that you don't like him that way? I know it seems mean, but it's better than dragging on and on like this. Just explain to him that you think the two of you are better off as friends. Maybe once he realizes you aren't interested in a relationship, he'll back off a little bit. His feelings are going to get hurt no matter what. At least this way, you can save a lot of time and he can focus on finding a new girl to chase after.

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Well therfe is this boy that goes to my school that ik really like but one of my close friends like him also....what should i do.....my friend that likes him really thinks that they might have something togetherf......and i dont think thatg i am all that attractive.....please help!!!

Well, my friends and I often like the same boys, because we have similar taste in guys. The rule of thumb we go on is whoever liked him first is the only person who should date him. Of course, if one person likes him a lot more, that can be an exception to the rule. You don't have to go by that, but it works well for us. we usually don't fight over guys. As for your confidence, you are BEAUTIFUL!

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okay . i liek this kidd steve . . and he likes me and all but today like a hole bunch of people from my town went to this fair thing . . see the most poular gurl in my shcool likes him to and he only wants to go out with her is becvuz she hadd bigs boobs he hates her personality . . and stuff . . me and him were chillin and holding hands and i was sittin on his lap and we were makin out and stuff .. and she is one of my friends . . but she also like this other kidd jason . . and she got madd at me and then steve went up to her . . and said sry and he kissed her ryte in frount of me then he came back to me and he kissed me and i was like wtf i made this big scence and everything . . the gurl . . like that kdd jason a lot more then steve but if jason doent go out with her she going to go out with steve even though he will cheat on her with me and i always sneek out of my house to do shit with him and stuff . . i dont kno what to do becuz i really like him . . and i think he likes me or is he a playa hellpp mee pleaseee

Wow. Steve is definitely a player. If he kisses her right in front of you and then acts like it's no big deal, he's not someone you should be sneaking out of your house for. All he wants is to hook up with hot girls and have no obligations to spend any time with them. Trust me, this guy is no good for you. He doesn't care about your feelings at all. If he did, he wouldn't even be looking at her. And as for this "friend", if she was really your friend she wouldn't be trying to steal him away from you. It sounds like all she cares about is having every guy want her. She is probably really insecure about herself, but that doesn't give her any reason to want every guy for herself, especially the ones she knows her friends like. Find a new guy and a new friend. Those two deserve each other.

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I really like this guy, and he says he likes me too or atleast he did. Well the other day, he didnt talk to me at all. I called him and he didnt pick up, i texted him and he diditn answer, and then i talked to him online and he said he was goin to some party when actually i saw him at our schools football game. When i saw him he just smiled at me and walked right on by. I dont understand it, last weekend he wanted to be my boyfriend and then this weekend he doesnt even talk to me. What should i do, call him and ask him whats goin on, or just wait for him to call me since he didnt pick up his phone last time i tried.
Please help,

don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds like you're being a bit clingy. Guys don't like clingy girls and it could be driving him away. My neighbor was dating this girl he really liked and broke up with her after four hours because she was being too clingy already. Guys are scared of commitment. They want to know they are still going to have some freedom and some space if they date you. Believe me, no matter how much they like you, they don't want to be around you 24/7. That's just the way guys are. What you need to do is back off for awhile. Go spend time with your friends and live you lie. Have fun. If he really likes you he'll see what he's missing and come around. You've got to show him you don't need him as much as you're acting like you do right now. When he sees that you've got your own life and you won't need him there for you every minute of the day, he will probably come around. Guys need girlfriends who understand their needs. Just let him do what he wants for now and see what happens. If he doesn't come around, forget about him. He's obviously not the type of guy you are looking for.

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well..i just went to the movies with alot of people last night (friday) and i was there with the person i like..and we were holding hands and stuff.. then right befor the movie ended..he made out with me..i didnt know what to do..is it true that it comes naturally to you? cause it didnt to me..i know i did terrible..and he is much more advanced than me..this was my first kiss..it was so embarrising cause i know i did a very bad job.. will i ever learn? and why didnt i know what to do right away like everyone told me i would? please help me..

Well, don't stress out. It's not the end of the world if you aren't the best kisser. And for the people who told you it would come naturally, maybe it did for them. Kissing is different for everyone just like everything else. Take it like sports. It comes naturally to some people, takes practice for others, and still there are some people (like me) who will just never be good at them. The same thing goes for kissing. All you can do is learn from your mistakes. If you feel self-concious about your "performance" last night, just explain to him that you'd never kissed a guy before and it's kind of new to you. You can't expect to be perfect the first time. Everybody kisses differently and different people enjoy different stlyes. There is no "right way" to kiss. Just do what feels comfortable and that's all you can do. If kissing came naturally to everyone, then it would get boring really fast.

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Tomorrow I'm meeting up with my boyfriend. It will be the first time I have seen him properly out of school since we started going out and I want to make a big impression. I need to look nice and casual. How should I do my hair/makeup and what shall I wear???!!!

PS. If this helps: My hair is dark brown and comes to around my shoulders. I have blue and eyes and pale skin.

It depends on what your normal sty;e is usually like. You still want to be yourself. If you normally dress girly, I'd go for the flirty skirt paired with flip flops or sandals of some sort to dress it down. If you don't normally wear skirts, I'd dress in nice pants (no jeans or anything with a million pockets) and a nice shirt (not too dressy, but no holes and not one of those graphic tees). The simpler the better. Solid colors are always easier to match and then he can spend more time looking at your beautiful face rather than the busy prints on your clothes. Have a great time!

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ok i went out with this one kid last year and i still like him very much! well yesterday my friend went up to him and asked him out for me and he said he has to think about it. so today we were talking and making jokes and shes like ur should do this... and it was dumb so i was like yeah the day _____ likes me is the day ill do that. sp she went up to him again ( against what i said ) and asked him if he liked me. he said yeah kind of. so i dont know i was going to ask him out today but after that i just dont know! is that good that he admits to liking me somewhat or bad and i should forget about asking him out!?!? maybe its stupid that im asking a guy out but its hard to do so dont think im dumb! lol thanx!

I don't think you're dumb. It's not stupid to ask a guy out, it's brave. Not many girls have the courage to take that step. Anyway, if he only "kind of" likes you, I'd take a step back. You may want to let this one come to you. It doesn't sound like he's ready to be your boyfriend. For now, just be his friend, nothing more. The best thing you can do is have fun and show him what a great person you are to be around. In his own time, he'll decide whether you are what he wants. And if you play your cards right, he'll see how great you are and ask you out. If he doesn't, don't be discouraged. There are plenty of other guys out there just waiting to catch your eye, :).

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This is going to sound really lame. But here we go! Ok I like this guys and we were talking once and he said I was the only girl he wanted to go out with and that made my day cuz I really like him in all. (when we were talking it was yesterday) today at the pep rally I saw him with another girl and he looked like he was flurting with her. What should I do?

First of all, don't jump to conclusions. You have no idea if he was really flirting with her or not. Being jealous will not help you in this situation. Some guys are just naturally friendly and he could have just been talking to her politely. Or he could have been flirting with her. Either way, if he said you are the only girl he wants to date you need to make a decision. Do you trust him or not? If you do and you only want to date him, then just get it over with and ask him out. If you think you are going to get jealous every time he talks to a girl though, I'd lay back for a bit until you can learn to trust that he only has eyes for you.

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i really like these kidds one of them is punk and the other is kewl!! I want to get to know the punk kidd he is really nice and we kinda of fool around like he'll hit me so i hit him back!! and people are like "stop flirting" what should i do?? and also this kewl kidd i am friends with but he is like kind of full of himself and whenever i ask him 2 come hang out with me and my friends he aslways has something else to do!! any suggestions??

I'd say go after the kid that has time for you. Don't waste your time chasing after a guy who doesn't want to spend time with you. This "punk" guy seems like he wants to spend time with you. And if he's really nice, I'd say go for it. As long as he's not denying the fact that you two are flirting. If he is, then it's not definite that he likes you back. However, if he doesn't deny it, that's like an open invitation. Check to see if he blushes. If he does, he likes you even if he denies he's flirting.

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Well, I have a boyfriend. And, when we're around eachother, I just don't feel anything anymore. I like him a lot, but he calls EVERY day and is always telling me how happy he is with me, and how important I am to him, and how much he loves me. I'm not that into hima s much. How do I break up without breaking his heart? :(

I know how you feel. It can be hard when two people in a relationship are not on the same level. And I know how overwhelming it is when the other person seems to want to be with you all the time and you just want your space. It's a strange feeling. The only thing you really can do is tell him how you feel. If you aren't in the same place as him emotionally, then it's just not the right time for you two. If you think that you just need some time to yourself, then explain to him that you are just not ready for such a committed relationship. However, if you don't think there is ever a possibility that you two will get back together, don't give him false hope. Trying to cushion the blow like that will just hurt him more in the end. It's best to just be truthful. Make sure you tell him yourself and get it over with. tell him in person, because any other way will just be more painful for him.

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omgggg!! ok i can never do ne thing with my bf he invited me to the mall tongiht i cant go and i wanna but cant and i feel bad tellen him cuz the reason we broke up last time was cuz i was always too busy. then my mom prob wont lemme over hus house tommorow cuz he doesnt trust me..helpppp im stressed out in the dumbest way

Well, do you have time for him? What other things are you doing right now that makes it hard to spend time with him? Before you stress yourself out, you need to sit down and evaluate your priorities. what's more important, these other things, or your boyfriend? If it's him, then you might want togive up a few of your obligations to make time for him, but if you realize these other things are on the top of your list for now, you need to stop stringing your guy along and let him know that now is just not a good time. Don't committ to a person if you can't committ the time for them.

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Ok I love my boyfriend to death but the problem is that some girls come up to me and tell me stuff that he might have done. The thing is i dont kno who to believe. I mean i trust him but he has cheated on me in the past so that kinda makes me think twice. I just dont want to accuse him too much b.c i dont want him to break up with me. Sumone please help me i really need advice.
thanks

If he cheated on you before, there's a pretty good chance he'll do it again. That's just the way things seem to work. It's great that you trust him, but are you sure he's trustworthy? People need to earn your trust and it doesn't sound like he has done anything to earn it from you. Anyway, what you need to do is consider where this information is coming from. Do these girls hate you or him for some reason? Do they have a reason to want you two broken up? If not, and if these girls have always been the ones to tell the truth, then they might just be trying to keep you from getting hurt. Whether the information is relevant or not really depends on who is giving it. If you think they might be telling the truth, then confront your guy and see what is up. However, if you think he is faithful and you don't want to screw things up, then just wait it out. If you keep getting these accusations, especially from people you trust, you might want to have a talk with your boyfriend about what people have been saying. Even if you love him, you deserve better than someone who is going to cheat on you all the time.

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