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Hi everyone. My name is Drew McPhatter. I am 13 years old, but people have told me to be a very wise girl (yes, i am a girl.=-)) for my age. I live in North Carolina all of my life. Music is my life. I have been piano and keyboard(which is my signature instrument) for ten years, while I have been also playing saxaphone(any), clarinet, percussion/drums, bass guitar, and trumpet for a good two-three years. Being a musician, I believe that music of any type is good for the soul. It helps to mold you and make you, well...you. Feel free to send me a private message as well as ask me a question =-)
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so this person i am seeing says some of the most hurtful things to me. then goes out and does something all sweet, and thinks because he has done this wonderful thing it makes up for those hurtful things he says. is words i qoute " actions woman not words"
that is what he says when i confront him, what do i do? he never can talk serious when i bring up this stuff he starts acting like a child and making noises so he cant hear me! it frustrates me beyond belief! i have hadto tell him to grow up! wwhat happend to the man i met that was loving caring respectful ?
ps i am 21 female
I've been in your situation. Tell him that that may be true, but the tongue has the power of life, as of death. It can cause pain, or happiness. If you really love him, stick through it and explain to him how you feel. If he acts childish, leave it alone. Watch everything he does and see if you could put up with that if you both were actually married. 14/f
I hope this helps you. ;)
Let's start from the top, shall we?
He's perfect, in so many ways. He's the perfect height, and his eyes are the kind to fall in love with. And I have. That's just the start.
He's always one to make me laugh and smile, even when I've had the worst day ever. I found out my dog of 11 years died, and he still was able to help me forget, and I don't even think he knows that he does it.
He's the guy that shows up in my dreams. The one that always seems to know what to say, even if he doesn't say anything at all. And I know all this sounds super cliche, but it is so much true.
I don't know. You know how every now and then, there is someone that you can see yourself with for the rest of your life? Well, it;s just like that with me. He's that one. And, granted, he does know that I exist. After all, we seem to always be bumping into each other (figuratively, of course).
And I always somehow embarrass myself. I either trip over my own shoe, the flat surface of the school, fall down the stairs, fall out of my chair, or get super hyper so that I have no idea what I actually end up saying, and about every other thing that I could possibly do to embarrass myself.
Normally, girls tend to do this in front of people that are super hot, and super shallow. But he's not like that. You can see in his eyes that he actually cares about people. About what people actually feel. I've seen plenty of guys in my life, from every end of the spectrum possible, and yet I have never seen anyone like him. Never met anyone like him. Never had a chance at anyone like him.
And that doesn't even begin to cover what he does to me. Whenever he's around, I'm hyper-aware of any and every little movement he makes. I hear his name, and my heart double-times it. Talking with him usually leaves me light headed. And there is so much else that I can't even put into words. With as many words as there are in the entire English language, I have yet to find a words that describes everything about this whole situation.
Wow. Looking back at this, I have to admit: DJ does seem to be right. I seem to be in love with him. But it just doesn't feel right to say that I'm in love with him. Major like, definately. But love? I just don't know. This is one of those questions that more than likely won't ever be answered. At least not anytime soon. Oh well. I can't think about it anymore. It's just.....too hard to understand and think about.
Anyone have any kind of advice for me?
♥Dinky
Well darlin' it sounds like love to me by the way you're talking! Lol, but really, take a shot at em. What have you got to lose?? Keep me posted on what happens, and hope i helped! A.K.
me and my boyfriend broke up about a week ago and as shallow as this sounds, i'm positive that i won't be able to get over him unless i meet someone else, someone better. my ex is like my best friend now and i want it to stay that way but i need that love connection with someone and i know there are better guys out there. so i need to know where to meet a great guy and that will show me that love really does exist. any ideas? 17/f.
Okay.
Well it sounds like you've been so used to being in a relationship, that it's difficult to have someone around. That's okay. Just get out, and meet new people. Hang with the girlfriends.
A.K.
Well, friday I found out he is playing with my friend Lidia(13, mexacin).
He apperently Loved my outfit for the record I wear jeans 24-7, but I had wore a skirt... I think I scared everyone by doing that. As for him... I mean I've had this crush like almost 2 years... Did I menchin I don't crush much? Well, Dec '08 he was soo different he said on that painful day "I'm not ready for a girlfriend, I don't like you that way, I'm sorry. I only wanna be friends." He sure didn't spare my feelings then, but in March he started acting soo polite... He isn't so polite around me now but still. Do players change their attitude alot? I wish I could forget but my nature... I kinda hang on to the past... Now that I think about it... He seems to try so hard to impress my friends even if he doesn't know them... My love life has quite the quirl doesn't it...
I won't see him till our groups bowling thing (Wens.), Should I dress different? What should I do? When I do something like suddenly dye my hair he notices praticuly everything I do, including my behavior... There was this one time we where at the library I kinda kept to myself my face covered my DS... He just then decided to get close(like 3 inches) from my face, and ask if I was okay.... Am I in to deep? Seriously what do I do??
-Sakura Kaori
Okay, gurlie, now i'm back on...
One thing that players are known to do is look for something better. So this sounds like to me that everytime the person he finds isn't so great, he comes running back to you, because he thinks you're...what's the word...weak.
Yes, players have a tendency to change their attitude for the reason I just listed.
In conclusion, it sounds like for one minute, he wants to be your boyfriend, and the next, just friends with benefits. But like I said, just hold on and see what his actions are. I could have better judgement if I knew the guy....
Hope I helped!
A.K.
Heyy, so I been known as a prude girl and ya I am but I'm thinkin about acutally doing something with a guy but I'm so soooooo scared and don't know how to start doing stuff withguys once we start kisssing. I mean can u you help me through this and tell me how to loosin up a litte ya know?
Lol hahahaha! You sound just like me!!!
Well, it depends on how you were raised. And everyone's naturally nervous of their 'first time'.
Me, I learned a long time ago that I just wasn't ready for that step yet, no matter how much I wanted to. Around where I live I'm known as a role model to older and younger kids, so it all depends on one person, YOU. If you think you're ready to accept the consequences of your actions, then by all means, go ahead and have a little fun. But mind this: For every cause there's an effect. But if it's more of a want-but you aren't ready for it-don't do it. You'll regret it in the future.
I would love to meet you. You sound so totally like my twin right now. Lol.
Hope I helped!
Drew (the girl type) McPhatter aka Ayatame Kishatake
Okay so i was in a relationship with this guy and he was so sweet he was funny amazingly cute and would always make me happy and he told me he loves me,But we met online and i really liked him,but he just stopped getting online and i don't no if i should call him,But now im in a relationship with this other guy and hes really sweet and caring but no really cute and likes to talk to me,but i don't no if im just with him cause the way he acts reminds me of my ex,Please help me,What do i do?
Well, love, in long distance or internet relationships, people have a tendency to to that, so that question you're going to have to answer yourself. Start talking to the other person again and see what the deal is. Either you still love him, or you've moved on.
Hope I helped! Tell me what happens!
Drew McPhatter aka Ayatame Kishatake
My ex is talkinto me alot i ask her if she loves me she says yes and she says she is going to break up with her boyfriend for me and of course i love her and i wanna be with her but she is leaving him for me and because hes a jerk and i dont want her to get hurt bye me i love her to much pleae help me!!!
Okay, well you sound like you already know what to do. Just one thing though: when you say he's a jerk, do you mean he's abusive? If so, GET HER OUT OF THERE IMMEDIATELY. Go to an adult you can trust and tell them what is happening. But if you didn't mean it that way, well, have another shot at the girl. Try to fix whatever broke you guys up in the first place.
Have fun in love's paradise!
Drew McPhatter aka Ayatame Kishatake
Okay, me & my crush Kyle are good friends but recently I learned he's a player like 22nd I think he said to me "I 'like' alot of girls here." we were at are groups normal bowling day. After he said that he completely ignored me. Something else he said was "Guys think girls are cute when they mess-up, exspealiy when they like the guy." Uhg... He's a shy, player though... He acts like it, but I fear if he does am I just another girl or what? He's (almost) 15, shy, tall, blonde, smart & a player.
I'm 15/ female, shy, averge hieght, brunette(dyed red) & hardly crush.
Help would be awsome it's bad enough my enemy T is flirting with him. -_-'
Help? Please, I'm beggin.
-Sakura Kaori
I've been in that same situation just a few months ago, and if he has a reputation for being a player, than more than likely he playing you, too. And as for what he said, it is a possibility that he's trying to do a little 'window shopping' if you know what I mean. Just to be sure, wait it out, and if he says more stuff like that, then it's a good possibility his ways haven't changed.
Keep me posted on what happens!
Hope I helped!
Drew McPhatter aka Ayatame Kishatake