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Well, We have been together for 5 years and got married in November. He has been depressed since a week after the wedding.I think he is upset because I cant perform the sexual acts that he wants. He wants me to be with a girl so bad that if I dont "go out" with girls he will be silent for days.A week after the wedding it was all he talked about. I am quite a homebody. He is 45, I am 32. The fact is, I will never sleep with a girl. It was a thing of fantasy for us. He went as far as to text a girl from my phone for a coffee date yesterday behind my back and I cancelled, He is really dpressed now. And of course, everything is my fault. He downloads tons of porn,I have found 3 videocameras around my house, I know he is a sex addict,but he is in denial and wont get help. What do I do??Up until our wedding things were pretty great! He told me that he knows i am to "old" to be with a girl tonight and said young girls would do it. I think I am doomed. I am a very attractive woman I am not old, and very devoted to only him.He always makes comments that nobody wants him enough for him to cheat on me. I am so lost. HELP! (link)
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You need to tell him that you will never be sexually involved with a woman and that you married him because you wanted to be monogamous. If the monogamy of marriage isn't sacred to him, then you never should have gotten married. It is also completely unacceptable for him to imply that he would cheat on you if anybody "wanted him". Tell him that if you and this marriage are really important to him, then he will get help; otherwise, leave the selfish fool!
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i need some ideas of what to get my boyfriend for christmas/one year anniversary...i want it to be really special since its like a 2 in one gift, hence why i'm asking a month before christmas just incase it takes me awhile to save up for it or make it. he loves snowboarding and music and singing (btw he has an amazingg voice...like i want to get him a record deal haha but yea) i want to get something that kind of symbols our relationship too, so he'll never forget me, but something he'll love at the same time. so i guess something cutesy (not too corny) and then something he'll love. my main problem is the cutesy one...like if i make him something i don't want him to like it just cause its from me, i want to like melt his heart lol....so any ideas? (link)
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One year I made my boyfriend a jar of memories. I bought an inexpensive glass jar with lid and put our picture and a cute quote (I used photoshop to soften the edges and put the quote right on the picture) on the lid. Then I bought some colorful scrapbooking paper in small squares and wrote a special memory of us on each piece, then folded it up and put it in the jar. Think of some things that will make him melt and also ones to make him laugh. You could also give him something of yours that has sentimental value. Trusting him with that is like telling him that you trust him with your heart. :)
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There's a guy that was once interested in me but then he kinda jumps around and is interested in everyone ,because he's not good looking so he tries to get what he can.I'm actually out of his league,but looks don't matter to me.He is a really nice kid and we talk daily for like 3 hours and hangout all the time,but I don't know if he likes me because I think he knows I like him and he hasn't asked me out obviously.My friend is like best friends with him and he told my friend that he likes girls that don't pay any attention to him,and obviously I do.How do I go about paying little attnetion to him and still showing interest? Everytime we hangout he always tries to hit on new people or my friends and it pisses me off because he always talks to me soooo much and I just don't know why he's not flirting with me.I don't really flirt with him solemnly for that fact.Yet sometimes he flirts with me on IM and one of his friends always tells me to hookup with him,so i'm getting mixed feelings everywhere.help! (link)
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If you're clearly "out of his league", my guess is that he's intimidated by you. If he has self-confidence issues, then he probably wonders what you see in him and thinks he's not good enough. Make sure he sees that you're not interested in other better-looking guys and that you think he's a great person. Rather than bending over backwards for his attention, just find ways to compliment him when the two of you hang out. Being real and genuine is the easiest way to get the guy!
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Ok so i have a crush on a guy i know from work. im pretty sure he likes me too. We talk all the time, and i feel so comforable aroung him. how do i drop hints that i like him without being totally obvious?
also- i would love to hear some opinions- there is a significant age difference. hes 17 and im a 21/f. i dont think it is illegal because of the 4 year difference, but i lways though the guy wsas supposed to be the oldest. i would love to see some opinions. thanks so much. (link)
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Age only matters if your goals are different. Couples with age gaps sometimes have problems because one is ready to settle down and the other is not. If you think you want the same things, give it a chance... just keep in mind that he is young and may not be done playing the field. Don't get your heart broken!
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Alrighty then this is really freaking me out! I have had the same dream every few nights for weeks now and it is always the same and always about the same person. Yes I have a crush on them and yes it is that kind of dream that you want to have and at the same time feel bad for having. Does this mean anything?
Am I going insane or has this happened to anyone else? (link)
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Your dreams are composed by your recent thoughts, both conscious and sub-conscious. If he/she has been on your mind lately, it is common to be having dreams about them. Nothing to worry about.
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Heyyy. Okay so my boyfriend is fifteen (sixteen in a month) and is a sophomore. I am fourteen and a freshman. We haven't been dating long. Like, about a month and a half I think and almost everything is perfect. He's adorably cute and totally awesome. The one problem is he gets really protective of me around his friends. I guess you could say his friends are... bad? Hahah, I don't know... My bf isn't bad but his buddies are all sophomore boys and they you know, I guess, don't really respect me? Like one of them hits on me all the time and one like smacks my butt. They mean it jokingly and I know they don't actually like me, I think they just do it to make my boyfriend mad. And he gets mad... But he loves his friends and they really are nice but this is just how they pick on him. He like actually gets pissed at them and won't let me out of his sight if we're at like a party that they're at too. And I don't know, I feel bad for him. I don't know if there is anything I can do to help... Like is there any way I can help and make the situation better??? Just wondering. Thanks! (link)
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If their behavior makes your boyfriend uncomfortable, then he needs to explain that to them. You probably don't want to risk causing a conflict by bringing it up yourself, and it's not your responsibility to. They are your boyfriend's friends, and he should ask them to respect you both. If they don't, then maybe they're not such good friends afterall.
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To sum it up my whole high school career I experienced love. My first love and then the one who stole it.I was with both guys for roughly a year and a half each. The 2nd guy and I ended a little over a year ago and that was still the last time I had real feelings for someone. I've never experienced such a harsh and hurtful breakup as I did with him, not even when I had to break the heart of my very first love. Now this 2nd guy still crosses my mind especially on my lonely days. He hasn't spoken to me since we broke up a year ago. Sometimes I get scared that I won't be able to find someone to fill this hole. I'm 19 and finally living the single life which I haven't really gotten to experience growing up. There has been hopefuls, people who start falling for me, but I just can't. I can't find the right person to fall for. Recently I've been more into checking girls out rather than guys and its making me so confused. I think I've just been feeling so alone this past year and getting so sick of these boys that I want to be open minded over who I fall in love with. I've been feeling more spark in me over girls then I do in boys. I don't know whats going on with me. (link)
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Well I don't believe you can "consider" being a lesbian or bisexual... you are who you are. It sounds like you may not know who that is yet, but in time you will figure it out. Many girls your age are curious about their sexuality. Just be open minded and experiment if you feel the desire to. You will know if it feels right or not. In the meantime, don't dwell on finding the love of your life; you have plenty of time and he/she will find YOU!
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My relationship with my ex was incredibly stressful and destructive. We argued constantly and even though we loved and cared about each other, we couldn't make it work. We were together for about a year but split up at least twice during that period. Eventually, I ended the relationship. He claimed to be heartbroken and kept calling and texting me with angry and hurtful messages.
About a week later, it turned out he was seeing a girl I'd always been suspicious of. He is now having a relationship with her. Although he admitted he was still in love with me, he said he had moved on and refused to discuss it with me. Now he won't talk to me at all.
I know I broke up with him and he has every right to do what he wants but I can't help being hurt and upset. It feels like a betrayal. Although it could just be a rebound thing, it's like he's chosen the one girl he knew would hurt me the most. I can't help but think he didn't really love or care about me if he can move on that quickly. I assumed we had mutual respect for each other and after he tried so hard to guilt trip me and upset me when we split up, I'm surprised that he immediately got into a new relationship.
I want to just forget about it, but I can't stop thinking about the fact that he's with her. I've avoided going out because in case I bump into them and because the girl lives just round the corner from me, I'm scared I'll see her. My ex also goes to my college and is in one of my classes, so I can't avoid him. How can I forget about this? It's making me angry and upset and affecting everything in my life. (link)
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While it hurts that he so easily moved on, the best thing you can do is act like it doesn't. Either he really didn't love you, or he wants you to believe that he's fine without you. He wants to make you jealous and think you made a mistake by leaving him. Don't give him the satisfaction of "winning"... Show him that you could care less who he's with now, or rather, that you feel sorry for his new girlfriend and you're better off without him (even if you don't feel this way yet, you soon will realize that you are!). Good riddance!
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