When people break up, it seems like the end of the world, even if they really did want to get out of the relationship. See, when people go into relationships, you being to become best friends with the partner, and it's like they always have your back. And when people break up, it's almost as if that friend isn't there anymore. You miss them because they were always there before, and now suddenly they're not.
Now, honestly, I didn't read the story that you posted yesterday, and I'll probably go read it after finishing this, but if all your friends said leave him, then girl, THEY love you more than he does. Friends are always there over relationships. And just imagine how it would be if one of your friends was in your situation, you'd be telling them to break up with the guy, too.
This is getting long, so what I'll end up saying is, people always miss the other person at first. But people always get over it. Everyone has been through this. So you are definately not alone. My best bet would be saying to hang out with your friends as much as possible. Get your mind off of him. Find some new eye candy if you have to, but don't think about him. It'll be so much easier that way.

Um...I actually have no idea who this is. But sure, keep believing that I do...
Anyway, I wouldn't try to move the "relationship" any further. I mean, you guys aren't even that good of friends yet. Do you even know anything about her? You should try to become closer with her before you try to make any move. Then, maybe after you get to know her, you should try it. If it doesn't happen, then it doesn't happen. But at least you tried.

How do you know her answer will be no? Can you like, read her thoughts or something?
And I mean, haven't you been dropping hints? If you haven't, then no wonder why she doesn't know.
If you're really that shy around her, then yeah, drop some hints, I guess. But I'd say just try it. You never know what you're gunna get.

Personally, I have no idea what you want to hear, so scrath out that part.
Um, well, it seems like a lot of girls like him, seeing as though he has a girlfriend, you like him, and I'm guessing that Brooke girl likes him. But he does have a girlfriend. Maybe he's doing this because he likes the attention.
Or maybe he does like you. But if he liked you more than his girlfriend, then he would've dumped her already.
If you guys are friends, then I'd hold off until he dumps the girl. That way, you don't spoil the friendship. But after she's gone, you could try all you want to get him back, if you'd like...

Make them understand how you feel about them. I mean, if they don't know, then how do you expect them to realize it, and act back? So what I advize is to tell them in the best way possible.
Oh, and don't try to get to their best friend, either. That'll just piss them off.
Hope I helped

Um...flowers, candies, maybe a little inexpensive charm bracelet.

DEFINATLY not a diamond heart necklace, for obvious reasons ;)

I'm guessing that this was Bob, and if not--then I'm screwed. But because you and Ashley haven't been together for too long, then I'd say either flowers or candies...or both, if you really want to.

Hm, you might want to try getting back together with him. Only because I agree with you, and everyone deserves a second chance. But if he does do this to you again, then forget him. You deserve better. But, try it our again first, if you truely do love him and know that he'll respect you.

I say you talk to him about it first. Because if you really liked him, then you wouldn't wanna put him in a position where he's uncomfortable. And if he doesn't wanna do it just yet, don't force him to. But hey--chances are he will, just because he's a guy--and all guys are kind of like that.

Hm...This one's hard. Because you hate seeing the guy that you like with another girl, it kind of deprives the brain of any thinking. I think you should tell him that you fansy him, only because life is made up of risks. I know that if I was in your spot, I'd rather be disappointed now because I told him and he MAY have let me down, than be disappointed later at knowing that I never took the chance at talling him. And who knows, he may fansy you back. It's a 50/50 chance. And just remember, he could have told you that he still had the girlfriend, but there's obviously a reason why he calls her his ex around you. So I say go for it.

I say you stay friends with her. Because there's just nothing better than a great friend. And you know, if you two went out, that might break up the friendship. And then you may never be able to get it back.
The most important thing to remember is that boyfriends/girlfriends may not always be there. But friends will.

Hm, I'm in a situation much like the one you're in. I say talk to him before you tell him. Make him promise that no matter what happens, or what you have to say to him, nothing will ever break your friendship. Then tell him. Unless, of course, he doesn't promise to still be friends after you tell him. Then it doesn't seem worth it. But most likely, he'll say that he does still wanna be friends, so it should work.

I believe that the only way to get over someone is to find someone else (or to find the evil in him). And seeing as though you've already found someone else, it should be a done deal, right? Yeah--It's not that easy...
I think it's good that you've found a new guy, because that keeps your mind off of the ex. But I also believe that you shouldn't ask him out right now. My reason for saying this is because if you date your new guy before you're completely over the ex, then you might compare the new guy to your ex. And comparing those two would lead to a fight, and then the whole relationship would go to hell.
So my best advice is to keep your mind set on the new guy, until you feel like you just don't care about the ex anymore. And then, ask him out. It'll give you something to do in the meantime, right?

Hey, sorry I didn't answer this right away, I've been at camp for the past 3 days. Alright, so basically you're saying that you're "always the friend, never the girl", right? Well, if that's true, then don't worry about it. Every person needs a really good friend, and I guess that's you. You have an attitude that guys can relate to, and are instantly attracted to you as a friend. Be glad, because not a lot of girls can do that. But if you really want a boyfriend, then just wait. I mean, if all those qualities are true about you, then guys'll be lining up in no time. Maybe you just havta expand your horizon and look for some more guy friends (?). Or, maybe the guys that you're friends with do really like you, but are just too shy or don't wanna fuck up the friendship cause it's too special to them (e.m.f.). So no worries, I'm sure at least one guy falls asleep at night dreaming of you. You just have to get out there and find him ;-).

Why are you so afraid of sleeping over her house? Are you afraid that she'll rape you while you sleep? I highly doubt that anything will happen, but if you're THAT concerned about it, you could always go up to her and just say, "I support your sexuality, but just to let you know, I'm straight." Something like that...I'm thinking you can put it in better words. Anyways, I'll bet she'll laugh it off, because I doubt that she'd want to push the best friend thing over the limit. And if she does try to, all you have to say is something lik,e "Sorry, but I value our friendship too much." And the geting changed infront of eachother thing...What's so hard about going into another room and getting changed? But if you don't want to do that, then just turn around while you're getting changed.
But chances are she won't want to make anything happen, because hopefully she values the friendship too much.

Alrighty--Just to get things straight, I don't remember ever giving that kind of advice about the shaving. Maybe I did, but I'm just a psycho loser who can't remember things. Moving on--The guys. First let's start with the drug dealer. Now, I know you like Mr. Dealer a lot, but I don't think you'd really enjoy spending all that time with him if you guys got caught doing something (like selling). Now, if I were you, I'd voice my concerns to him, something along the lines of "Man, I love you very much, but if you get me involved with anything that you do, then I can't be with you anymore." Something like that. It's not really a threat, more like a promise :). Yes, you will wanna be with him through thick and thin, but you havta look out for yourself, as well. Now onto the little thing about your virginity and the other guy. You're right, I do think that you're too young, but that's not my place to say. It's your life, your choices, and I will fully support you with whatever decision you make, just because that's what we were born with, Free Will. Now, to me (and I'm hoping to you), virginity is something special, and you'd want to lose it with that special someone. The guy that lives 4 hours away may be that special someone, but I don't want you to have any regrets. Like, if you guys do have sex, you won't be able to see eachother that much because of the distance. That's basically the only thing that I'm if-y about. But, if you do choose that you want Mr. Dealer, then maybe you should try to get him tested before you really do anything with him. Better safe than sorry, right?
Hope I helped!

I reframe from using the term goth, because the people that think they're gothic today are basically idiots. The "Gothic" cult died way back in the 1800's. So, no, Joey Jordison is not gothic. He's more like hardcore. And me? Hahaha. I'm probably the farthest thing from gothic. Well...not the farthest. Cheerleaders are the farthest. But I'm NOT gothic. I'm a morbid loser :)

Sweetie, just listen to what you're saying. 1) Those are his EX girlfriends. Why do you think they broke up? Maybe because they were tooo popular? That's a possibility, right? And 2) He already likes you! I don't think he wants you to change into someone that you think he'll like, when I bet he likes you the way that you are. So if I were you, because he doesn't like asking girls out, maybe you should go up to him and make the first move. What do you have to lose?

The same way you flirt with anyone, I guess. I don't really know, I don't flirt with people. So I'm not the best person to ask about flirting, sorry.

He won't be able to tell if you don't make it obvious. Don't give him hints that it's your first, and maybe everything will go smoothly.

Personally, as someone who's been in that kind of position, I don't think you want a "friends with benefits" kind of relationship. If you say you love this person, do you really think you can pull it off? That's the whole point of friends with benefits, not having a commitment. But it seems to me that you want a commitment with this person, because you're "in love." So I don't think that that's the way you want to take if what you really like this person.

So, I decided to start this up again after having it idlized for over 2 years. I would have made a new site, except I really like the name that I had. So yeah. Here I am now. A.Good.Lie is back.


I'm a cosmetology major. I love art. And music. And..yeah...

I'll update this later.

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