Hello Everyone. I am Kaci. I am 18. I may be young, but I can give some good advice. If you ever need anything at all, do not heistate to ask. I'll help the best I can.
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So at my school,there's this senior I really like.I've seen him around before,but he's never noticed me before,probably because I'm a freshman.
But anyways,I only see him when I'm in the hallway going to my next class.I really wanna talk to him,and tell him,but I can't.And the thing is I can usually talk to any guy,because it's like there's friends,but I get nervous when I try talking to him,so I don't.
When I see him in the hallways,our eyes always meet for a few seconds,but we keep on going like eachother's not there.He's stand offish,which is another reason I'm not so confident.
What should I do? (link)
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Leave him alone.
You are 14, he is almost 18- it won't work out.
Why would he be intersted in a freshman, when he is a senior?
Take it from me,
when I was 14, I was interested in this senior boy.
We dated for about 7 months, and once I gave my virginity to him, thinking he loved me, he left me.
Thats all guys that age want from girls your age.
Haven't you heard? Senior boys chase the freshman girls- because they are easy, naive, and unstable?
They know they can take control of you- so don't give in. Find someone your age. If he hasn't made a signal he's into you, than he isn't. Guys that age aren't heistant to let a girl know they like her.
So I'd back off before you embarass yourself.
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please help my boyfriend broke up with me the other day because he doesnt like somethings that i do and when i tried to apologize all he said was "mhm" and even though he MADE PLANS to date another girl.. i forgave him and he cant forgive me... i feel bad about what i did and i still want him back how do i get him back?! please help he is the best thing that has ever happened to me and we even made "forever and always promises" which means we promised each other we would be together forever.. but i guess not
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Obviously, you don't like to hear the truth, but darling, you're only hurting yourself. I'm telling you what I told you because I have been in your position before.
I know you really want him back, but trust me, some things are better left undealt with. Okay?
I'm going to explain why I gave you the advice I gave you before, and maybe you can relate to it?? :)
I was 14 and I dated this guy for about 7 months. He was my first boyfriend, and just like you, I thought he was the "one". When he left me, he got with another girl 4 days later! I couldn't believe it! Here I was, crying my eyes out; trying to get him back; and there he was all over some other girl after he told me he wanted to marry me. I felt sooo stupid for believing him, ya know??
After the pain healed, I realized I didn't love him. I liked the thought of him. I liked having someone who cared for me differently than family & friends. I've had plenty of boyfriends after him; and none of them lasted past 8 months.
I've realized that every guy I date is a stepping stone to lead me to my knight in shining armor.
But now I'm 20 and I'm happily engaged to a man of 2 in a half years; and I know this is love. This man is the one I've dreamed of my entire life.
I know what you're thinking "OMG SHE'S 20-I DONT WANNA BE THAT OLD WHEN I FIND MY TRUE LOVE"--I was 17 when I met him; and we're still together and I'm 20.
Plus another tip; when you're ready to settle down, you'll know it girl. I promise. Guys don't begin to mature until after their 18-25. Girl's mature SO much faster than boys; and thats why we want to settle down, before they do. :)
-----------------------------------------------Hunnie, you're 13. You will have plenty of other guys that you will think are the 'one'. I don't know any 13 year old's that are/were/have been with their 13 year old boyfriend 'forever & always'.
You don't love him. It was puppy love, which is common for pre-teens.
If he already had plans to date another girl, than he didn't 'love' you to begin with. If he truely loved you babygirl, he would've believed you and listened to your apology instead of letting it go through one ear & out the other. Boys this age aren't ready to be tied down-they want to date around.
I know it hurts, and I know you are confused, but trust me. You have your whole life ahead, and their will be another guy out there that will sweep you off your feet, and give you a TRUE definition of love.
Hang in there.
It'll get better. I pinky promise!
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I like this 17 year old, but my parent's won't allow me to date him. My heart is set on him and i can't just let him go.. I really like him and he really likes me... What should i do? (link)
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The user below me is completely wrong. You do not want to go behind your parents back!
When I was 14, I really liked a guy that was 17 as well. Of course, my parents were against it.
I didn't blame them. The age difference is a lot. It may not seem like a lot, but truely, it is.
I did what the chick below me said to do, and I went behind my parents back. It wasn't a secret for long, and than I got busted. My parents found out. I lost their trust, and I wasn't allowed to do anything for a while.
You don't want to lose your parents trust. Trust isn't something that can be gained over night. Once you lose it, it's hard to gain it back. Trust me.
I know you really like this guy, but I am probably 98.9% right when I say that he is only interested in you for sex. Thats what the guy that I liked wanted from me. I was young and naive, and when he said he loved me, I beleved it. Than he began to say "If you love me, you will do this." and I left him.
No boy is worth ruining the relationship you have with your parents, sweetie.
Your parents don't tell you "No" or "You aren't allowed to do that" just because they can;
they do it because your their babygirl; and they love you; they've been in your shoes before and they know what its like to be in your position. THey are doing it to benefit you, and to help you.
When I was growing up, my parents would tell me something, and I ALWAYS thought they were wrong.Than when something would happen and it was exactly like they said it would be, I felt stupid. If I would have listened and realized they were doing it for the right reasons and not to be jerks, I could have saved myself a lot of heartbreak, regret, and embarassment.
Just be wise about your decision. Boys come and go, but your parents will always be there for you. Don't let a silly boy ruin the relationship between your parents and you.
Good Luck!
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17/f. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half but theres a guy in my class that realllly likes me. We have always been good friends but now hes like in love with me and its sooo uncomfortable. He raps and he actually wrote me a song and rapped it in the middle of class, & in the rap he asks me to be his valentine. I dont know how to turn him down without ruining our friendship or make it awkward. Please help! (link)
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You have to be straight up with him. He obviously doesn't get the fact that you are in a serious relationship.
You just need to be like, "I appreacite your effort of asking me, but you know I have a boyfriend; and I only see you as a good friend. I love the friendship we have, so please don't put me in the middle like this."
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I like this boy in my class. I don't know if he likes me back. We are friends. And chat on bbm. I want him to like me coz he is really cute. I don't want to flirt. Plz help me (link)
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You can't make someone like you. Either he does, or he doesn't. No if, an's or but's about it.
If you really like this boy, than you need to tell him. You can tell him in a note, on BBM, or in person. It's up to you. He could already like you, and is just shy to admit it.
If you want him to realize that you like him, than your going to have to flirt. Flirting is an easy way to show someone your interested, although it can get read wrong.
So since you don't want to flirt, than either tell him you like him, or ask him if he likes you.
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I have been talking to this boy on facebook for a while and it is my friends, friend. We both like each other and live about 3-4 hours away from each other. We really want to meet each other and want to become in a relationship as soon as we meet. I dont know how to tell my mum or anything.. i really need advice please! (link)
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I wouldn't persue a relationship with him. Long distance relationships never work out. Your mom will more than likely be against it, and if she isn't than how will you see him?
With the way gas prices are, I highly doubt you guys will be able to meet up all the time, like a good, healthy relationship would.
I'd stay friends with this dude, but nothing more. Your setting yourself up for heartbreak, and you don't deserve that.
If you wanted to, it would help to know the ages of you guys; it would be a little different than.
I would know if you guys could drive, or if your at a reasonable age to stay together at each others house for a weekend;
so if you would like to send that information to my inbox, I can help you out a little more.
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Hi ... I am working in MNC and their is 4 member in our team I am the Team Lead their my three members is not capable that enough as company wants. now my manager want to promote from two member out of four in our team so I am confused I am sure that I am one of them and my manager ask me to recommend one name, so which name I should give I don't want to give any name because they are not capable for the work. so should I give a name to my manager or should I not? (link)
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I don't think you should. You are the leader of your group. There is a reason why your the leader, and not them. Your boss sees more potential in you. If you were to give your manager a name and they do not exceed up to the expectations than your boss will look down on you because you help nominate someone who isn't there yet with that certain job.
I'd be honest and tell your manager that you cannot give him a name because you don't see them reaching the goal for a promotion. Tell him/her why you believe they are capable.
Honesty is the best policy. He/she will respect you so much more.
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so there was a school dance a couple weeks ago and i was thinking about asking this boy to go with me so i watched him and it seemed like he really like me he was staring at me through all of our classes and flirting so when i got the nerve to ask him to the dance he said "i will get back to you on that" winked and walked away and he still stares at me but doesn't flirt as much so does he still like me????? (link)
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Are you sure he really liked you to begin with? Like did he ever just come out and say, "I like you"? Because just because a boy looks at you, doesn't mean much of nothing. I look at boys all the time, and that doesn't mean I like them.
As of flirting, are you sure it was flirting? Like he doesn't do it to other girls?
To me, if he really wanted to go to the dance with you, he would have said yes. He probably didn't want to be mean, so he just came up with that. But than again, I'm not there, and I don't know how exactly he acts towards you.
I think your best bet is to ask him. That way you can know for sure if he likes you, and if he doesn't you can move on and find someone else! (:
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Hi.
I'm depressed now because the girl i like doesn't like me back. I'm not very cool, but i'm not a nerd. I think i have my own category. I go to catholic school, 13/m. How do i get this girl to like me? She is jusr like me. She juts doesn't know it. We have tje same interests, but she doesn't know. (link)
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If she doesn't like you, than she doesn't like you. You can't make somoene like you. You need to stop wasting your time with this girl, and spend your time finding someone else who likes you for who you are. There are plenty of girls out there that are probably more than willing to have a chance with you. Opening up your options and don't settle for less that what you deserve!
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So there this guy I liked and he asked me out, of coarse I say yes.The problem is that my friend has had a crush on him since like forever she won't let me near him.My boyfriend never really liked her more than a friend.Like whenever me and my boyfriend are walking together at school she'll come out of nowhere and squeeze in between me and him.She also stares at me and my boyfriend when where sitting and holding hands.I am getting sick of her always doing that.How do I tell her to stop. (link)
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You tell her like it is. She doesn't seem like a good friend to me. Either tell her to get over it, or stop being friends with her. I guarentee that if you tell her to stop, she will just continue to do it, or get mad. If her friendship means more to you than your boyfriend, than I think you may have to let him go. It isn't fair at all. I don't know why girls have to be so vicious and catty. I'm sorry you are going through this. Its like all you want is to be happy, and the one person your close to doesn't accept that. She is jealous. She needs to understand that he didn't like her, and he likes you; and that shouldn't stop you from following your heart. There are plenty of othre guys out there. The time she's wasting trying to come between you and your boyfriend, she could be finding someone else!
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so there's this guy his name is jake. I don't know jake personally but I do know that he used to go to my school before he moved and that he has mutual friends as me on facebook. About 4 months ago jake commented on one of my pictures and put "youre cute ;)" a couple months after that he messaged me on facebook and asked how I know him when I put I don't know you added me, he replied back with telling me that I was cute again. We started talking through messages on facebook I thought he was cool, so when he asked for my number I gave it to him now he will NOT quit texting me. And he's one of those people that if you don't reply he resends it. He says the same thing everytime too. He simply just puts "hey what are you doing gorgeous?" I would be flattered if it was a guy I actually knew calling me gorgeous but the fact that I don't know him creeps me out. There have been a few times that he has asked me personal questions about sex, and asking me if I party alot. I told my brother about the text messages because he's actually met jake before and he got really upset he told me that he would be okay with me talking to any other guy but not him. I went through jakes facebook and on one of his statuses his ex girlfriend commented on it and put "once a cheater always a cheater" 3 people liked it. Oh and i forgot to mention the whole time started texting me he had a girlfriend even had it posted on facebook that he was in a facebook. Now it just says that he is single on that status where his ex girlfriend called him a cheater he demanded that he had changed. Jake is now trying to hang out with me, should I hang out with him and give him a chance but not do anything intimate with him? Or should I just ignore him for the simple fact of what I've heard about him? Do you think jake is just using me for sex, or do you think he's just being a typical 18 year old boy? (link)
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Hm,
Well, that is up to you. If you would like to give him a chance and make your own impression of him than I would. You can't always believe what people say, and you shouldn't judge someone off of other peoples opinion. Hanging out just as friends would be something you could do that will allow you to get to know him.
Since he feels like its okay to ask you personal questions, how about you ask him some? Not talking about sex or anything, but more like his past relationships. Like his last girlfriend, why they broke up, and even what the whole cheater thing was about. Get his answers, and if you feel a connection with him and you are cautious with being with him; thats when I'd kinda snoop around and maybe ask one of his ex's how Jake is as a boyfriend. There will be a good chance she will feed you lies about him, but you have to make a good decision about what to do.
Not sure if he is using you for sex, you will know when you guys try to hang out; if he's pushy, all over you, or is constantly talkign about it; than that throws up red flags.
After all this goes on, you can decide whether you want to continue with talkin to him, or ignoring him.
Good luck,
if you need anything else, please dont heistate to inbox me!
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Theres a girl I work with for a year and a half and that whole time she had a boyfriend (they were together for 3.5 years) until they broke up two months ago (they both decided to end the relationship together and overall had a "nice" and mutual breakup). I never thought of her as a girlfriend material and always saw her as a good friend, but for the past three-four weeks we started to get closer, phone calls, text messages etc and last week it really seemed like she had something for me - came to seat with me more, flirting, touches etc, it came to a point where people started asking if there is something going on between us and that I should make a move...(for the recored, I would date her if given the option).
Yesterday I caught her for a talk and asked her if what I see is true and if she wants to "take it a step forward". Well, she said that she doesn't want any relationships with anyone right now and that "there have only been 2 months since the breakup", I asked her if she still has feelings for her ex, she said yes, so I asked if she would get back with him if she could, then she said "yes, but he wouldn't..."
So, What the f**k?! I understand you had a 3.5 year relationship, but common, that dude obviously doesn't want you back (he's really nothing special at all and to be frank he is **a bit** ugly, I don't know what she found in him in the first place, but thats non of my business), and you have this opportunity now, why not jump on it? Her answer doesn't have any influence on me except for a "wtf is wrong with you" reaction, I told her it doesn't change a thing and we're still gonna stay good friends (although it seems that what I said [I think] had some influence on her because she doesn't act like a week ago for example, but we still talk normally etc), but hey, I really don't understand this, enlighten me... (link)
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You should be thrilled she said she wasn't ready for a relationship. She could have jumped into one, using you as a rebound, and than left you a couple of weeks/months later. She's being smart, not complicated.
She has been with her ex for 3 in a half years; it's only two months. Some people need longer times to get over their ex's. She is still going through the rough part of the break up. Just give her time. She is watching out for your needs and hers. She knows she can't give you what you need right now because of how she feel for her ex. And he may not be anything special to you, but he was to her or she wouldnt have been with him for almost 4 years.. She was probably leaning towards you after the break up because thats how girls are. We become really close to someone to help ease the pain of heartbreak. When you hinted to her that you had feelings it probably scared her a little bit. You probably need to let her now that you care about her and you dont want her to feel like your rushing her. You only mentioned it because you wanted to know if what other poeple was saying was the truth. And you still wanna be good friends. And to not let it affect you guys friendship;
Godd Luck, if you need anything else don't heistate to send me a message to my inbox
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There is this guy I like and I thought he seemed interested in me to but as I'm now realizing he talks to many other girls too. He calls and texts me a lot but I'm not the only one. Maybe I'm over reacting but I don't like that. I don't want to waste my time if he's just going after everyone. What would you do? (link)
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I'd let him go as a boyfriend material type of guy. He obviously isn't ready to be tied down. He's enjoying talking to other girls. If you feel like he may like you, bring it to his attention; if that doesn't work than that will show you that his intentions are far more different than yours.
I hate it when guys waste a girls time. They could have the respect to let a girl know "it aint like that". But they don't. He's only keeping you as "another girl", wouldn't you rather be "that girl", "his girl"?
You know what you need to do, and I agree its the right thing. Don't waste your precious time anymore than you already have! Your too good for his games!
Good Luck!
If you need anything else, don't heistate to send me a message to my inbox!
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lol, yeah we are in highschool! and what i meant by a schedule was to put like a playful schedule like we have school from 7:20-2:20 and he has practice until 6 so i wanna put that he can only play from monday-friday 7am-6pm lol. and well, hes turning 16 and im 17, and we just recently started dating but weve been talking for 6 months already! (link)
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Sorry it took a couple of days to get back to you. But now that I understand it, I think that would be a great idea. I mean, its sometihng he wants, plus something with humor, and playfullness.
I know this may sound a little girlish, but surprisingly majority of guys like it;
you could get a picture of you and him and put it in a cute picture frame. Guys, just like girls, like to be reminded how people make them feel, except guys don't express the want or need like us females do. How about a cute little love letter, to let him know from the first time you saw him, you knew things were only going to be great with him by yourside?
If you drive, you could always take him to his favorite place to eat, and than wrap the gift up and surprise him. My momma always told me, the way to a man's heart, is through his belly!
haha.
If he likes cake, you could ask one of his parents what his favorite one is, and you could bake it for him?
These are just a couple of ideas, you don't have to do them, but I remember from your post, you said you wanted a couple of ideas.
(:
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Well im 15 f andim a sophmore. I just got my plan(act) results back and i got a 16 which is like kinda below average! Ok and my family is really smart everyone my sisters and my mom but me i didnt get the smart gene. People in my school got at least 19 or higher. I feel stupid and im not pretty so im not smart enpugh for my family/ what i want to be when im older. I want to be a dentist or dental hygentist. Also my friends are super smart. Im crying i have to show my dad in a couple minutes. Its not fair! Im not a bad person and yet i get terrible qualities. I told my sister and she was like are you serious that goes on your transcript for colleges. But the plan test is just a practrice!!well my point is i feel like i shouldnt be here like i dont belong i kinda want to just die and not just bc im not that smart. No im not gonna kill myself but im not happy i havent been happy for a long time! (link)
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Girll! Making a 16 on your ACT isn't terrible. I made a 13 on mine, and I'm already in nursing school! Yes some colleges do look at your ACT scores, but some just go by your GPA.
Now this may make you feel better.
When I was in highschool, you were allowed to take the ACT as many times as you wanted, but the catch was, it cost money. If you aren't satisfied with your scores, talk to your school counsiler and ask her when there will be more dates to re take the ACT. While your waiting for that date to come along, just study. Practice the things that you didn't get so high on, and I'm sure you'll do better. ACT the first time is very itemmidating, your timed, and there is SO MUCH TO READ, and do, so you become overwhelmed. Just relax, and breathe. Your not suppose to be exactly like your siblings, you are your own person. Your parents are going to love you unconditionally. I promise.
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so i kinda like my best friend (hes a guy) and he doesnt know i do, although people say all the time tht we look like a couple. but one of my friends likes him too, she told me she doesnt like him much tho and tht she would nvr let anything happen. but she wont back off, he and i always sit next to each other in class even if we hav to move people, and we always walk to class together, we r super close, but she always tries to find some way to come in between us. since hes my best friend idk if i should tell him i like him (ther might b a slight chance he likes me back but idk) or should i just accept defeat and let her hav him? please help (link)
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Well you have to ask yourself if the "what if's" will turn out to bother you. YOu don't want to wonder for the rest of your life if you guys could have been a couple. I've heard from many adults, that the best relationship's they have been in was with their bestfriends. It wouldn't hurt to inform him with how you feel. If he's a REAL bestfriend than he will accept it and won't let it interfer with ya'lls relationship. As of your bestfriend, I wouldn't worry about her. I'd follow your heart. You never know, he could like you too. I'm sure if he really liked your bestfriend, he would have already told her, or informed her.
If you need any more help, feel free to email me at xxbbyxitsxyouxx@aol.com,
good luck girl!
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