I always give honest answers and try my best to help. You are welcome to ask me any questions that you have. I never criticize people and I always try to look at things from other people's point of view before I answer a question.
Gender: Female
Age: 15
Member Since: February 15, 2005
Answers: 15
Last Update: June 25, 2006
Visitors: 3358
Main Categories:
Friendship
Work/School Relationships
Love Life
View All
Favorite Columnists
karenR
Mandee
HyperactiveMiss
|
| |
|
Ok, so right now I'm the "new kid" at my school, and making friends seems harder than I thought it would be. Everybody already has their little cliques and everything from last year, and it's so much harder for me to meet new people when nobody is intrested in getting new friends. Since the begining of the year I have acted really shy, just because I guess I still haven't really moved on from my friends from my school last year. I also just made cheerleading for my school, so I also need to start getting to know the hirls on my squad too. So basically I am asking for some tips on how to be more outgoing and really get to be able to express mydelf and meet people. Thanks in advance! (link)
|
Dear,
Now the most important thing at first is to be friendly. Smile and be kind so you look approachable so the people around you feel comfortable with you. Also try making some guy friends because believe it or not sometimes they are a lot easier to talk to and make friends with (be casual with them, listen to their jokes, they will soon get used to you) don't be nervous when you are in their company and don't be cold to them (many of my friends act really cold around guys and many guys just give up talking to them because they are shy too). One other thing, when someone asks you something or tells you something try to keep the conversation going do not just reply with one sentence. Now about the groups, usually most people have a group with good friends that they have known longer but do not worry about it, just chouse a group that you like and start hanging out with them, but do not limit yourself with only one group try and make friends with most people in your class (if not good friends than at least people that like you so you feel at home). Don't be cold to people because that makes them nervous and might even end up thinking that you don't like them.
Good luck!
|
|
i go to this really preppy biotchy school in dc (all girls, private, kiss kiss) but anyway, i used ta be a really sweet person and like really focused and dedicated in life, but my school has really changed me...i find that i am really judgemental of people in a bad way...and i spend way too much time deciding what to wear and i do alot of trashy stuff with guys...what should i do? (link)
|
Dear,
It’s nice that you realize you have changed. Now one of the reasons why you changed might be that you seek the approval of the people around you and you feel the need to fit in. Or it might be that your friends influence you and as Oscar Wild said “There’s no such thing as good influence”. We are usually influenced by significant others which means that we are influenced by people like our parents, friends, movie stars and so on, people we respect (it’s a sociological fact, I am not just making it up).
So now if you want to be more like your old self, you should start being yourself and believe me I know how hard it can be sometimes. Do not be afraid to stand up for what you believe in and speak your mind. If your friends are doing something you think is wrong then tell them and most of all do not do it just because they are doing it. Be who you want to be not who your classmates think you should be. It’s nice that you want to be a better person now you just have to get the courage to change.
Also about the judgmental part, try putting yourself in other people’s place before you judge them and try to find out the reasons behind their actions.
Changing takes time but that’s until it becomes a habit. So one day just say to yourself that you are going to be nice to people from that point on, so next time you want to make a remark that would hurt someone think how you would feel if you were in their shoes. Start being sympathetic, start making compliments and be encouraging even if you don’t feel like it and at first it will feel unnatural but after time it will become a part of you. There’s not a secret to changing, you’ve got to make an effort at first.
I hope that helps more!
|
hey
i have to do an essay on romeo and juliet
and the topic is....I have to pick whether I think the relationship is healthy or un-healthy and i was wondering if anyone has any prior knowledge (im leaning more towards unhealthy)...of points I could use for my essay.or quotes on relationships/love? If you could help ...that would be really great!
Thanks so much!!!!=) (link)
|
Dear,
I did an essay on Romeo and Juliet a year ago on a little bit different question. I see why you think the relationship is unhealthy but the romantic idea that Shakespeare is trying to put across is that the relationship is healthy, looking at it in general because the strive between the two families is ended because of their love. Even if we look at it closely the relationship between the two of them is healthy because everything follows in order, they meet, they fall in love, they get married, the love is consumed and they die together also the love between them is mutual and they are giving equally, each one of them is making sacrifices.
However along the way many people die and Romeo and Juliet are going against their families in the name of their love. That is why you might think it is unhealthy.
And the third major thing is that they die in the end and one hand they die because of their family strife, their love is impossible, and on the other hand they commit suicide because of their strong love for each other, the bond between them is so strong that they cannot live without one another. Their death even proves that their relationship is healthy, again they are in a way giving equally. You might think that because they die their relationship is unhealthy but if it were not for their families they would not have done it and it would have been a classic fairytale where they would have lived happily ever after. If their relationship was unhealthy the love would not have been mutual or one would have given more then the other.
Here is an idea how you can make your essay and some tips
1. A short introduction
2. Then you look at the different Acts and give examples of the healthy or unhealthy aspects of their relationship
3. In the end make a clear conclusion
Also do not tell the story but try making your points. The best way to do that is to say what you think then give a quote as evidence and then explain the quote. Keep going back to the original question that you are answering.
Unfortunately I cannot think of any quotes right now. I think there should be some nice quotes during the balcony seine, when Juliet finds out Romeo is Montague, during their marriage and comments about it and also when they die.
I hope this helps! If you have any more questions please ask.
|
|
at school, there's this boy who's been bullying me for ages. he's nasty anyway, but he always picks on me. it's stuff like hitting me on the head with his folder, hitting me with a ruler, putting things like selltape and pencil sharpenings in my hair, calling me a minger, and saying stuff like 'your hair is nice, *ahem*'. my hair is horrible, but he has to say something nasty about it. i've spent loads on products to sort my hair out, but nothing worked. sometimes in the corridor he just pushes me into a locker, or into someone, it's embarrassing. if i'm happy, he will do something like that, and i'll feel really depressed, like i want to die, 'cos i'm worthless. i can't tell a teacher, 'cos 1. it's embarrassing, and 2. his twin sister and mum will hate me for getting him into trouble, he's from a rich family and he thinks he's better than everyone, he always gets his own way =/ sorry it's so long, but please help? thanks xo (link)
|
Dear,
I am sorry you are being bullied. Do not feel bad about not being able to stand up to that boy and put him in his place. He is the weak one, no matter how unreasonable that sounds it is true. Bullies are usually the once that are the most weak and scared people, scared of being bullied. Bullying is a way for some people to fit in and look cool, a way of preventing people from bullying them. The best thing is to go to a teacher, there is noting to be ashamed of, that boy should be ashamed of what he is done. It is very nice of you to consider his family’s feelings but it will be better for you and for him if a teacher sorts this thing out, he might really change and realize that what he is doing is wrong and stop doing it in the future. You should not have to put up with this.
As for the hair, try gel or hairspray, it will help keep it in place.
|
ok theres this guy lets call him Brandon that i go to school with. Well ive had a crush on brandon for like a couple days now and up until like january he would never say anything but then we started talking little by little and by february we have been talking alot but besides that..
Hes always talking to me now whenever he comes around hes like "whats up Melissa" and stuff like that and always compliments like "you look hot today or that outfit is hot." When im around a group of people he always talks to me first and doesnt really say anything to the other people except maybe hi and then talk to me or leave. Today he stole my agenda book thingy at lunch and hes like you have to kiss me to get it back and im like no and he grabbed my ass. I know thats pretty much what every guy does but do you think he likes me? sorry for it being long ill rate 5's to anyone who answers!! THANKS!
(link)
|
Dear Melissa,
This boy does like you. There is no question about it. He even had the guts to ask for a kiss, which makes the whole thing obvious and he probably took it back making it look like a joke because you did not respond the way he expected you to and was most likely embarrassed later when he thought about it. And about the comments and compliments boys as friends usually do not make this kind of comments they are most likely to joke about your looks in a friendly fashion but not really mean it, whereas that guy doubtless meant it.
|
|