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Q: Well, there is this girl that I'm okay friends with, but now don't really like her that much anymore. My boyfriend is starting to hang out with her more and talk to her more. Sometimes talking to her more on AOL than me. While I was away for two weeks my boyfriend went on a choir trip to Six Flags. Ashley (the girl that I'm okay friends with) and my boyfriend hung out the whole time. IE. Rode rides together, walked together, got food and ate it together. That doesn't make you're girlfriend feel very good, but now she's in his info. It's an inside joke with her, but surprisingly it's about the same lenght as me in his info. Well, my whole info is about him. Am I being stupid to be mad, that's what he said.

No, its not stupid at all. But you should be the perfect girlfriend and trust your boyfriend. I know its hard for you to see him with another girl, but maybe you're just with him so much that he's starting to kind of suffocate. So allow this to happen, play it cool.Again, it's not stupid, it's normal. Next time he says that to you, why dont you say "what would you do if you saw me hanging out with a guy?"

Q: I like this guy at my school and he flirts with me and stuff but my friend likes him too so i asked for her and he said he likes her!!! so now i am depressd do u think it is true or he is just saying it??

-heartbroken

you shouldnt jump to conclusions.Does he "like her like her" as in "would love to go on a date with her" ? or just "shes really nice and I like her, as a friend" thats what you should find out.
So next time you talk to him, ask him "why dont you ask "X" out since you like her?"
If it turns out he realy likes her, you have to accept it, im sorry. I dont think you can force him to like you :(

Q: One of my best guy friends who calls me all the time (like literally every 2 minutes) well my best friend told me that he likes me but i didnt believe her and then he told me he did and i just thought of him as my friend so i was like no and then he got a girl friend and it hurt me and i think i'm just in denial cuz i do have feelings for him. Do y'all think I have feelings for him?

yes, I think, no...Im sure you do. If you didnt have feelings for him then why did you get hurt when he got a gf? Right now yu cant go tell him you like him cause it would be selfish. If he breaks up with his gf, wait for the right moment to tell him that you have feelings for him.

Q: Okay my little sister asbolutely refuses to go to school she wants to drop out thing is shes not 16 is there anyway she can drop out before shes 16? My parents and I have tryed everything even bribing her to go to school and it doesnt work. So is there anyway she can drop out before shes 16? If so please explain in details. Im really worried for my sister and its hurting my parents bad because they dont want to get in trouble. Thanks!

Well, your parents should find out "why she doesnt want to go to school". Maybe she's facing a problem there. You can't quit school just like that, talk to her about the consequences. But first find out why she doesnt wanna go. Im sorry to say this, but if she wont talk to you, you have to take her to a counselor and it better be a good one.
My school councelor was facing the same problem, a girl refused to go into the class. I dunno how she handled it, but the girl has no problem with the school now.

Q: hey yall ok i give great advice to friends about girls but i cant give me any. so... i like this girl she nos it i told her she imed me and said i like u more as a friend but i wrote a letter to her saying i understand but should i give it to her and after i give it to her should i ak her out plz help

You should definately give her the letter, to let her know that you're taking it like a gentleman. And she already told you she likes you more as a friend, so you cant ask her out cause her answer is obvious. Really sorry, I dont think she's playing hard to get or anything.

Q: I am 14 years old, and i like a guy that goes to my school. He is going out with the biggist slut ever.. & I like him alot! Everyone thinks they are wrong for each other. I need a way to win him over. I donno what to do cuz me and the girl hate each other. He won't listen to any of his friends and i know he wont listen to me. We would be the best couple ever! So if you have any advice please feel free to give it!!

ok! I'm free! anyways, I dont think you can sorta force this guy into liking you. You like him and you think you make the perfect match, but does he like you? He likes the slut hes going out with, thats his problem. All you can do is give him advice. When you do, your job is done, it doesnt matter if he listens to you or not.

Q: Ok so I'm 15/m, and I was at a school function, and some girl that I didn't know danced with me. So after I left she got my AIM screen name from one of my friends and went home and asked me to the prom and and asked if I would go over to her house Friday to have dinner and a movie and all that stuff. Problem is, I really don't like her, and I don't really know her at all either. What should I say?

I think you should tell her youd like to get to know her first. Go over to her house and get to know her, maybe shes pretty cool, but tell her that youre not sure about going with the prom with her.

Q: Why do guys always have to date popular girls?Why cant they date a regular girls?

Are you sure? Anyways, I think its because you notice popular girls more than regular ones. A popular girl is known by everyone, but how can you meet a regular girl or know what her name is?
And I guess that popular girls appear to be more confident, guys like confident girls.
If its not because of that, its probably some shallow guy thingy "oh man your so lucky! youre dating the most popular girl in school!" something like that.
Hope I helped! Rate me plz!
Sarah f/16

Q: how do i make people laugh... how can i becomea comocal person?

this is a rather 'funny' question, no offense.
But its really not that hard to make people laugh. Just dont work your brain too much on it.
A joke just comes out of a persons mouth, without thinking. Just when the 1st thing you think is funny crosses your mind, say it.
There are different types of people:
- people who enjoy making jokes about people (criticism)
- people who just say jokes they read
- people who transform a daily life issue into something funny,like Seinfeld.
cant think of anything else
hope i helped, PPLZ RATE ME!

Q: How do you become confident

Well, Im a pretty confident person, but it would be hard to teach a person how to become confident. Its more like an instinct:
1- POSITIVE THINKING! => When you do something, you always have to be positive. Dont always think you're going to screw up, that is so not confident.
2- In class, most people are scared their answers are wrong. When the teacher asks a question, just answer it! Its not like a person' life depends on it.
3- Wear confident clothes: I know it sounds weird, but you have to wear outfits that show you are confident.I know they say "you are what you eat". But I think its "you are what you were".
If you're a guy, wear a suit. If you're a girl, wear anything elegant and trendy, not ragged and baggy clothes.
4- Walk the walk: If you want people to look at you and say you're confident, you have to walk confident! Walk shoulders straight, and chin up.

Hope I helped, RATE ME PLZ!
Sarah

Q: Heres whats going on...see theres this guy I really like and we go to school together and we have known eachother for over 3 months now and we went out on dates and everything like that and when we went on our first date afterwards he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes and then the next day he told me it was a mistake and that he came on to me to fast and well we hung out some more and everything and we hang out everyday at school because we have to classes out of 4 together and he gets mad whenever someone asks him if me and him are dateing because we kinda act like we are like by flirting and everything and well on our second date we held hands and then the next day he told me once again that he thought it was a mistake and that he was just trying to make me happy by holding my hand and like one minute he says that he likes me more then a friend and then the next minute he says he only likes me for a friend "For Now" I mean I dont know what I should do...because he is playing all of these childish games with me and if anyone could help me out with this it would help me out so much...If any guys out there who reads this knows whats going on with this dude and why hes doing me like this please help me out...Because I dont know if I should stick around or move on and find someone else...thanks to anyone who answers this for me...sorry its so long!!
Signed:Sad, Hurt, And Confused

it seems like this guy doesnt even know what he wants, every time he makes a move, he says its a mistake, just ask him what he wants. Does he want to stay friends or does he want you to become gf/bf but later and not so fast?

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Hi, I'm Sarah and I'm 16 years old. I really like to help people and give them advice, so never hesitate to ask me any question about guys, crushes, friendships, ANYTHING!
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