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Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl who will be a sophomore in HS in the fall. I honestly think that I wasn't meant to have friends. As long as I can remember, even back in kindergarten, I've been bullied. Growing up, I would get invited to birthday parties by the parents, but when I got there the kid would say they didn't want me there. :( I've had years where I would come home and cry for hours every day because I was so miserable. Fast forward to the present. Everyone at my high school is so shallow that it drives me insane. Don't tell me to join clubs to meet new people, because my school has 300 people and everyone is exactly the same. I had a lunch table of people that I sat with this year, but I have nothing in common with them. They barely said anything to me at all this entire year. People think that I'm a nerd. I get straight A's without even trying because I've basically given up on myself. Plus, everyone likes to pick on me because I'm younger (in my town for some reason, freshmen are sixteen years old, but I was thirteen). I really hate my life. I WANT to be able to go out and have fun with friends, go on dates (I've never had a boyfriend and probably will never have one), and do stuff, but I'm just so depressed. I don't even feel fulfilled doing the things I used to like doing. My entire life revolves around regurgitating A grades to keep my parents happy. I don't want to live like this... Last year I started cutting but it didn't make me feel better. Thanks for reading this far. Help.... (link)
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Don't let these people get to you. Obviously none of them are worth your time and you just havent found the right person or people that are good enough to be friends with you yet. The truth of it is is that a lot of people are shallow and jerks and its right of you to not surround yourself with those types of people. What you need to do is just relax and stay positive. Everything happens for a reason and maybe this is suppose to a learning experience for you..(okay now wait just keep reading, this might not be total crap just stay with me)..this could be the time for you to really get to know yourself, try new things and become your own bestfriend. I know it'll be hard and theres always gonna be that desire to be with people and experience those things you do with friends as a teenager.. I know, I'm 15 years old and I'm alone most of the time with few friends and I dont really get to experience those things either. So dont feel alone and miserable. Stay positive and use this oppurtunity to become your best friend, build up your self confidence by focusing on the positive things about yourself and trying to improve or change the things you dislike. Don't let other people get to you because theyre not worth it and dont change for other people. Be yourself, be confident and try new things, experience things on your own. Go out for a walk, take in all the beauty around you, exercise, learn about new things, listen to music and sing and dance your heart out. Write about your feelings, draw, do photography, volunteer somewhere, pray, cook, just live and be you and enjoy life, you dont need those assholes to be happy. If you be you and love yourself and are confident, youll attract the right people into your life and will find someone. Itll be okay and if you ever need to talk, you can inbox me, ill always be there to listen. So yeah I hope this helped, stay strong!
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Ok, so bascially I get on really well with one of my teachers, to the point that it borders on a crush. He's never actually taught me but he is the teacher who knows me best at the school and has done so much for me during my time at the school.
I'm 15 and he's in his late 20's so I know nothing can happen between us, but I genuinely love him as a friend and person. Things at school have been going really well lately and me and him have been getting closer than ever.
The problem is he is leaving at the end of the school year and I don't know how to cope without him. I was getting to the point where I was beginning to deal with it but then another bombshell hit today. He's not just moving to a different school, he's moving really far away and I will literally never see him again.
I really want to talk to him about it but I don't know what to say - he hasn't announced to the school that he's leaving yet... Please help! (link)
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Maybe you could find a way to keep in contact with him, like on facebook. I'm friends with old teachers on facebook and it's not considered innapropriate. You could talk to him about how youre going to miss and ask him if theres a way you could still keep in contact or see him, in a friend/mentor sort of way. You could email or message each other on facebook, asking how one another is once in a while and I wouldnt consider that innapropriate, ive done that before. Just talk to him openly about it and if you can find out ways to talk to him thatd be great. I hope everything works out okay and that you can still keep in touch. And maybe when you're 18 your relationship with him can be more casual and you could talk to each other more, like on the phone etc. Alright well good luck!
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I am deeply in love with my teacher, I am obsessed with her and crave her immensely. She is such a beautiful and perfect lady and I know she likes me as a person and student.
She is about 26 or 27 and I am 16. I fantasize about her all the time, I go out of my way to walk past her room or see her, check out her Facebook page all the time to see her pictures, and I can't stand the thought of not being with her.
I was thinking of one day staying after class at the end of the day for help and then when no one is around just grab her and kiss her on the lips and caress her body. I will also have my sister and one of my friends stand outside near the door so he can look out if anyone is coming. Also to immediately close the door when I go for it and then open it again after.
another way of doing this is this way. Disguise myself with a mask and change of clothes. Rush in and blindfold her and then start kissing her. However, this seems like more of a risk than the first way since she won't be so surprised if I come in as myself and talk to her normally first
some reasons why this can work
If she tells anyone about it I will just say she did it to me and they will likely believe me since I am the young one and still considered a child so what could she possibly do?
I hear just a claim from a student would immediately cause a teachers career to be over.
And would she really want to spend money on lawyers and crap with her teacher salary? And also have to go through a whole investigation and her name being everywhere?
. She can also be kind of flirty sometimes with her male students so therefore it won't be hard for people to believe she is the one that came on to me if I need to tell that story.
I'm also not the type of person people would believe would do anything so rash.
Also, if she goes against me without any proof she might look like a bully.
Also, I won't tell anyone anything unless I can tell she is thinking about telling someone first
some have made some counters saying the plan won't work, I think though these criticisms have no weight
-they say that they would believe her and not me. But the thing is though she will have no EVIDENCE, or witnesses. So I find this hard to believe they will automatically go after me just on her word. If this was true, what is to stop any teacher from telling that a student did something inappropriate and getting them in trouble?
-they say the police will be called in to question me and make me take a lie detector test. First, I don't think it will have to go that far since again there is no evidence. Also, I already know that lie detector tests are considered unreliable and are not used in court.
-they say she will be more than willing to go through with pressing charges and getting lawyers and stuff to defend herself. But the thing is if she doesn't tell anyone then she won't have to in the first place. And it is not just the money, she will have to deal with the whole investigation and publicity and having this all being gossiped about
I will also make sure there are no cameras or anything in the room in advance, and if there are I will call this off. Also, I will make sure there is nobody else around so there will be no witnesses. We will take a look at the area and plan everything in advance. I think this is a fool proof plan. I wish it didn't have to be this way but I am too obsessed with her to the point where it is affecting my life and can't stand the thought of not doing something with her, it is killing me, my heart pounds just thinking about her (link)
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Wow so youre going to force yourself upon her and then get her in trouble if she wants to get out of it. How is that love if youre threatening her or if youre thinking about all the ways you can get her in trouble instead? Wow just wow. Maybe you should talk to her about it, tell her youre feelings.. I mean if she doesnt wanna be with you she won't but geeze at least give her a chance to tell you so. Instead of making things difficult for her by giving her no choice or else she gets in trouble. And blindfolding her ? Are you serious. Bro c'mon , be a gentleman and tell her your feelings and let her decide what she wants to do instead of forcing her into it. Thats real love, being considerate to their feelings not to just your own. And not to making it look bad on her if things dont go your way. And maybe you should wait till your out of school and of legal age to approach her. You might have a better chance then, and then you wont have to be worried about all the legal stuff. Ya know? Well good luck I guess..
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Im really tired of people being so fake. And I try to be cool about but but it's pissing me off. I want to ditch my friends who are fake without any drama or any fighting. If u have any ideas I would love that. Also I feel like sometimes I'm not being myself either. But I don't know how to be myself sometimes when I'm around people, like friends and stuff. I also I'm scared to be myself cause there are this kids that say their my friend( I didn't believe them) but never talk to me or anything and they talk behind my back. What should I do about theses things??? (link)
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Just stop talking to them less and less and slowly and quietly drift away from them. If they do notice and make a big deal out of it then just refuse to be bothered with it. Don't answer their texts , and just ignore them. Don't even say anything, just stay out of it and eventually theyll take the hint and go away. I had to do this last year with a fake friend, the closer u were to them the hard it probably will be. However itll work, just cut them off completely. And if u HAVE to talk or work with them then don't seem overfriendly. Just make it vague and er..businesslike I guess, so they don't get the impression you guys are still friends. Just continue to ignore them and eventually they wont bother you anymore. As for being yourself..well you shouldn't be afraid to be yourself. If you be someone your not then youre just wasting time and trying to impress people that arent even good enough to get the real you. If they make you feel uncomfortable about you being yourself then maybe you should look for other friends. You don't deserve to be bothered with fakeness and people stabbing you in the back. Just get away from all that. Get to know other people who seem genuine and accepting. But be careful people could be deceiving. Just try making new friends, being yourself and all that and see how they react or if theyre fake and talk behind your back..and if they do, go on to someone else. And don't ever feel lonely, just because these people are fake doesnt mean everyone is and it doesnt mean you wont find a true friend. Just keep trying, be yourself and dont settle for less than a good friend who accepts you for you. Hope that helped
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