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im girl 17,i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him..two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels ,during school,i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him,he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him.then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church ,and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and then i deleted him from my friends on fb during summer holidays bc i was always checking if he is online.now is new school year and he found out i removed him from my friends on fb, and he texted me why i did that, and if he did something wrong he is sorry , i told him i did it bc it hurts me and that i dont want to be friends, and he said it´s ok, i thought it would hurt less, but it hurts me more ,now i ignore him bc i dont know how to act to him..he sent me friend request on fb but i didnt accept it yet..he was good friend to me before i told him about my feelings..please help me should i be his friend again or not? if yes what should i tell him,why i suddenly accepted his friend request on fb,and also today is his birthday, should i wish him happy birthday even i removed him from my friends??..thanks for help :)

Dear girl 17:

Yes, you should be his friend. He's a great guy who just isn't available right now.

If he questions you, say something like: "you're a good guy, I like you."

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hi,

I read your advice and thanks so much....he doesn't wear a ring, but seeing that he is a bus driver I don't think id wear mine either...the way he is extra giddy towards me when he sees me...I don't think he is with anyone...and the sighs to me is saying you still don't get it.....im attracted to him, not just his to his teeth...lol. if I was to say anything to him, id rather do it when the bus is empty...but I guess I could take a chance....when I see him again...well, I think ill take your advice and push it a lil bit further and see what happens...thanks so much!!!

You're entirely welcome. You must follow your heart but do it wisely. The eyes have it. Arrange a meeting of the eyes.

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22 year old girl.

Been in a relationship for the past 2 and a half years with a guy that is 24 and is great. Funny, intelligent, ambitious, and caring. And things were wonderful until I found out he was talking to another girl ..Texting, snap chatting, face times.. I talked him he apologized. He then went to the movies with a girl that he went to middle school with that he hadn't seen for years and used to crush on her to "catch up".. He then went out of the country and met up with the girl that he was constantly face timing and texting.. That bothered me... I started to get very fed up and stopped caring as much yet he still claims that they're both only his friends and that its all in my head... But my thing is if I were to be the one doing this, he wouldn't even be with me anymore. He constantly asks where I am, who9 I am with, what I am doing and always questions why.. I don't even get these questions for my dad and when I ask him why he's always questioning me he says its because he cares and if I was hiding anything it wouldn't bother me.Fast-forward - I recently went out with a friend and met this one guy who is a cop. We kind of have the same history and let me tell you that every time I see this guy my heart starts racing.. I love talking to him and how much of a gentleman he is and I just feel so safe around him.. My feelings for my boyfriend are starting to fade and I just don't know what to do.. Advice greatly appreciated

Dear Not sure:

As it appears that your heart is leading you in another direction now, I'd like to give you advice about what NOT to do. The guy you describe as funny, intelligent, ambitious and caring also has all the characteristics of a player. You really have little knowledge of the "cop" who you are presently infatuated with.

At your age, your relationships should be about having fun and learning. Don't get too serious about anyone right now. Let guys court you, take you to movies, dinners, events. Accept these kind of invitations from guys who appeal to you, including "your guy," and "the cop." Resist requests to just "hang out," which tends to lead toward - you know what.

As a young man, I was a player too until at the age of 28, I met a girl who couldn't be played. We've been married now for 47 years.

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I'm a senior in high school and I really don't have any friends. There are people that I say hi to once in a while when I see them but we're not very close. I do have one very close friend but we have no classes this year together and barely even talk anymore. I spend my free period and lunch in the library by myself doing work. Even in my classes I have no one to talk to and I feel really pathetic just sitting there. I'm a nice and friendly person but I can't seem to make any friends. I also have very low self esteem, which I know is causing me a lot of problems but I can't seem to change it. I'm always feeling like a loser. I do well academically but I can't even participate in my classes because I'm worried about others will think. I feel like no one wants me around and I feel useless and worthless. I just can't wait for this school year to end, I'm going to college this year and I really want to try to talk to people more and make some friends. I usually don't go up to someone and talk to them first because I feel like I'll be bothering them or they won't wanna talk to me. Anyways, I'm not really asking for advice, I just wanted to say this since I have no one else to really talk about it with. My life at home isn't really any better.

Dear I feel pathetic,

Self esteem is all about how you estimate yourself and the hard truth is, if you don't rate yourself very highly, others won't either. You may even anticipate rejection and expect to be ignored or mistreated. People with low self esteem tend to be very sure of themselves and that's the problem, it manifests in their conviction that they are worthless or inadequate.

My advice to you is: Redefine failure and keep trying. The fact that you do well academically is proof that you're intelligent and I'd be willing to bet that when you want to, you could regale people with interesting stories that would crack them up. You could be the perfect partner or friend and I'm sure that you possess a genuine good heart.

However, no amount of intelligence or humor can give you the same sense of personal gratification or a sense of purpose as a genuine "thank you" from someone that you've helped in some way. As soon as you're willing to stop being so wrapped up in your own worries and start being a part of the bigger picture, with a role to play in this universe, your sense of self worth and self esteem will get a whole new definition. Give of yourself freely and help others whenever you can. You'll get more than what you thought you ever needed.

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How to get a boy to like u without telling them u like them

Actions speak louder than words. When he notices that you are seeking out his company, paying attention when he speaks, touch him at every opportunity and so on...He'll get the idea quick enough.

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Hey sorry there wasn't really a category for what I need help with right now :(so I was caught masturbating by my dad tonight, but it was on omegle. I explained to him what it was and I didn't show anyone anything, but he's not sure if he's going to tell my mom or not, and it would be sooo embarrassing if he did. They're probably take all my electronics away! He's now acting really suspicious and mad at me, but he just says he's "really concerned" I don't know what to do and I'm really close to freaking out right now, I need advice quick. Please help me!

To punish you merely for masturbating would be wrong. Almost everyone has masturbated and that probably includes your dad and your mom.

However, punishing you for masturbating on Omegle is another matter. Your act may have already made you an involuntary porn star and you'll never earn a nickel from the cretins who will take your video and post it all over the internet on numerous porn sites such as XVideos, Pornhub and XHamster.

You should realize that everything you post online is there forever and is available to absolutely anyone for whatever purpose they decide to use it for. If you don't believe me, just Google "masturbating on Omegle."

My advice to you, is to approach your dad in a very contrite manner and candidly confess that you realize that you done something very wrong and that you understand and appreciate his concern. Tell him you're very sorry and if he will accept your apology and keep the matter between the two of you, you will solemnly swear never to misuse your electronics again.

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Thank you for your advice to my question concerning my credit cards. I appreciate it.

Thank you mother. You've been dealt a rough hand but as Kenny Rogers' sang, "Every hand's a winner and every hand's a loser." It all comes down to how you play your cards.

From the clear and concise way that you expressed your question, I've every confidence that you will overcome every one of these roadblocks.

Best wishes, with hopes of success in all you do...Grandfather.

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Ok so me and my bf officially broke up on tuesday. We broke up because he said he wants to live a single life right now. I love him so much and i dont want to lose him. I knew we were going to break up along time ago but i just didnt want to accept it. He kept showing me signs like whenever i text or call him he sometimes takes along time to text or call me back. Sometime he just wont call me period. on tuesdat i told him that i still have feelings for him and i hope that we do get back together. He said he hope that we do get back together also. We never really had any problems in the relationship so i just dont know why he wanted to break up. His decision. I asked if when he'll want to pick up his items. He told me to hold on to them because he dont need them right now. I also told him to hold on to mine. That same tuesday he promised to also buy me a teddy bear when he gets paid. We go to the same college but i barely ever see him these days. Yesterday i saw his car around campus when i looked inside i noticed he was using my car seat cover that i gave him to keep. Idk why he's using it at all and i also noticed that now he's looking at my snapchats everyday. He never looked at then when we were together apart from the private snaps i used to send him. Its been three days now since we didnt talk. To me i was thinking maybe no contact for a while will make him really miss me and then he'll come back to me. Idk but im trying to use no contact right now for a while. I really love him and i never want to break up with him. Does it seem like he'll eventually come back? Opinions please. Thank you

Men bond with women who make them feel good. So, whatever you do, don't put any pressure on him. Spend your time becoming the woman that no man can ever leave; playful, lighthearted, patient, kind and compassionate.

Then, all you can do is sit back and wait for whatever happens. You can hope for the best but don't become too saddened if it doesn't work out the way you want. Believe me, if he isn't Mr. Right, you'll find the true Mr. Right soon enough.

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What is the meaning of subject of special study or research work

Basically they want to know what special skills you have obtained that would help you in that line of work.

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