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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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why is it that most of the time when my boyfriend fingers me and i go to the bathroom after that it burns when i pee, does that mean there is somethin wrong with me. please tell me am scared
nothing's wrong with you.
i'm not 100% sure why this is happening to you. but it think maybe he is cutting your vagina with his nails while he's fingering you, unless it becomes unbearable, i would worry about it to much.
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my friends were talking about clits and i was wondering.... WATS A CLIT?
i feel so weird that idk!!
Is an organ above the opening of a female's vagina and above the opening of the urethra. It is located where the folds of flesh come to a point in the upper/top/front/ part of a female's pubic area, between the labia. It is a very small, sensitive bump, about the size of a pea. It feels good when it is rubbed or touched.
[EDiT] Don't feel stupid. I knew where it was & that it felt good to be touched, I had no idea what the medical/scientific purpose or whatever was. I actually had to look the anser I have you up. Haha. [/EDiT]
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Where in the bible, new and old testemant, does it say you should believe in abstinence,or it is a sin?
10 commandments says not to commit adultry.
i'm not a big christian, so i couldn't tell you anymore than that. maybe this helped a little though?
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okay so my bestfriend and her boyfriend were together on friday right? and i hung out with her after she left his house. she tells me him and her both got naked and that stuck it in for like 5seconds she doesnt think he came but she is still a little confused and the day after[saturday] she got her period. do you think she can still be pregnant.. please answer soon... chelsea is anxious of knowing.. :]
-Melissa!
she's not pregnant.
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The other day I went over to this guys house because I have been in love with him for almost a year. I have dated him two times before but my mom band me from him because he is eighteen. He wanted me to come over to finish a video that we had watched once before. But he had promised me that was all we were going to do. So I told my mom I was going to a friend's house and would be home by six. Well I went there and all I meant to do intentionally was watch the movie. Well I laid back on his bed then he laid back by me and put his arm around me. Then he pretended like he was asleep but I knew better so punched him in the side. Then he rolled over and held my arms down and licked my nose because he knows how much I hate that. Everytime he did it he laughed and kept moving closer to my face to the point my nose was touching his and our lips were practically touching everytime we talked or laughed. Then he just kissed me and we like made out for half an hour. Then he started fingering me for like ten minutes. Then I gave him head until he cummed. After that we had sex. When we were done he went to take a shower and I went down there to fix my hair. He said don't try to get in the shower with me, prostitution is bad. I told him I wouldn't have to try and asked him if he just called me a whore. He said no, if he called me a whore he would have said it to my face. So when I was in the bathroom he took off his clothes and kissed me. He then told me if I wanted to join then I could, then he got in the shower. I stood there not sure what I should do. I sat there and thought about what I should he stuck his head out and told me to come here. So I did actually thinking he was going to pull me in but he kissed me. After about 5 minutes I finally broke and just got into the shower with him. After that I started thinking I was a slut. I mean I had slept with three guys. Him, one of his friends, and this one guy I had dated at my school. I had slept with him about 8 times, his friend once, and that one guy 3 times. So now I don't know if I am or not. So I'm actually kinda confused. SO PLEASE respond to this. I'm really confused!!!
You should already know the answer to that. Being a slut is like finding someone pretty. One person may think someone is butt ugly, while another thinks they are beautiful. Some may call you a slut, yes. But does that mean you are one? No. Do I think you are? No.
I think you should be more careful about who you have sex with though. Loving someone and having sex with them is one thing. But to continue to sleep with multiple people will give people the motive to call you a slut. Don't give them that motive.
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sorry i keep asking you all these questions!
WHAT/ HOW DO PEOPLE MASTAURBATE? LIKE HOW CAN YOU?
what question(s) did you first ask?
haha. i get confused.
Guys basically just jack off. In otherwords, just slide their hand up & down their penis.
A girl can masturbate in many different ways. Some finger themselves (insert your finger in out of your vagina) and others insert different objects. (dildo, vibrator) Some play with their clit. I think that's much more pleasurable than just fingering yourself. Since i've started having sex, I don't find it that great.
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i read your advicenators profile... and the part about your virginity. anyways, i was wondering if your parents knew or if you told them or like... told them before? and where they ok with it?
im trying to relate my problem to yours, trying to decide what i should do....
thxx.
My stepdad doesn't know I have sex. He thinks i'm still a virgin. I suspect he knows deep down in his heart, but he just doesn't want to accept the fact that his little girl has finally matured.
My mom does know. My boyfriend and I are both really close to her, and we ended up telling her together. Before we had sex, she asked us both if we had been having sex. We both told her no, because at the time we weren't. We did tell her that we were thinking about it, so she went to put me on birth control. We started having sex a month or 2 after that. She doesn't like the fact we do, but she accepts it.
If both or one of your parents is understanding, I would suggest mentioning it. If you want to be put on birth control, it's easier to have your mom.. or dad I suppose to be there with you.
Good Luck. =]
you can ask me anything else if you would like. i'm free to answer any & all of your questions.
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what does ...eating eachother out mean??????
i like HAVE to know...
thx
When a boy/girl licks another girls vagina to get them off.
It's oral sex on a girl.
Basically the same thing as giving a guy head, only for a girl. =]
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Hey, Im a guy, still a virgin and i was wondering how reliable a condom is. Is it a recommended Idea to double up. I know the chances are like 2-3 in 100 but would doubling up make it like.001 percent chance. Thanks answers are appreciated
Don't double up. Ever.
That makes the condom more suceptable to sliding off. Seriously. Just, don't.
Condoms are 95% effective when used correctly. Sadly, they hardly ever are. Condoms are relibale, just make sure you get one to fit your size, and know how to put them on before hand.
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I'm 18 and a chick, my best friend is 17 and male. I'm not in love with him or anything, nor do I have a crush on him. But there's a sort of awkward thing going on.
There are some days that he just REALLY turns me on. He doesn't even have to try. I mean, not even exaggerating, he can smile at me and I'll be horny for like 10 minutes. And I'm pretty much screwed if he dances. I'm NOT interested in him romantically at all, it's just, some days... hot damn. And seriously, it's just maybe 9 days out of the month (I see him almost every day) And its not just a little tingling, I get a girl version of blue balls, basically.
What do I do to:
(a)control my crazy hormones
(b)convince him to bring our relationship to the "friends with benefits" stage, or
(c)something else.
girls get turned on easy. we can't control it. we just get over it. masturbation.
amen.
(a) control my crazy hormones.
don't try. there isn't anything you can do about getting turned on. it's just a part of life we have to live with. i think someone already mentioned excusing yourself to go masturbate when you get horny like that.
(b) convince him to bring our relationship to the "friends with benefits" stage.
don't convince him. it's just going to end in disaster. if you ask him that, there is a good possibility he'll take it the wrong way and mistake it for you liking him.
(c) something else.
there is nothing else. this feeling will eventually go away. promise.
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Hello. I was just pondering this for quite some time now. When a woman has an orgasm, What happens? Thank you!
It's really hard (almost impossible) to describe the female oragasm. You would really have to experience one first hand before knowing. People will probably tell you that "you'll just know" when it comes to orgasming, but it's really not that easy to scope out, for me anyways. I did some research to help my answer along a little and I discovered some interesting facts.
When a girl gets turned on, her heart will start beating at a faster pace & her breathing becomes quickened. Sometimes, some will tighten up various muscles while the nipples become hard. Others may experience reddening of the neck, chest, or face. Almost always, the clitoris swells slightly.
Secretions (fluid) occurs inside and at the opening of the vagina during arousal. The labia (lips) become flat and then open slightly. The vagina will expand itself making it easier for the man to insert his penis into you with less pain. A lot of girls are nervous there first time, making it hard to get horny. This results in pain, because the vagina didn't expand itself.
As a girl continues to get turned on, her vagina keeps increasing in size as does the other changes I mentioned. The clitoris however, doesn't expand. It actually decreases in size by 50%. This is usually a sign of an orgasm.
The actual orgasm begins with stronge muscle contractions. These contractions can finish within 4 seconds or continue for 15. They usually occur every 0.8 seconds.
During the orgasm, the skin flushing usually reaches the maximum. Muscles continue to contract, and blood pressure, heart rate, and respiratory rate continues to rise.
If you would like to confirm an orgasm, look for these signs:
- A mild orgasm may have contractions of 3-5 while an intense can be 10-15.
- The redness becomes more vibrant and convers a greater portion of the body.
- Muscles all over your body may contract.
- Some girls even emit or spray some fluid from the urethra during orgasm. This is called "female ejacualtion".
- A woman may make painful facials when enjoying a great orgasm.
- At the peak of an orgasm, you may become momentarily rigid.
All of these signs or just some may occur.
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Hey, i'm ashlee
you seemed like you knew a lot of fun things to do with guys...
i'm hanging out with my best friend this weekend.. we havent had all out 'sex' yet, but we're up for pretty much anything else. do you have any ideas , like a list of a bunch would be great.. we;re spending the weekend together:) thankyouu
spending the weekend with each other? wow. =]
if you haven't had sex yet, & you haven't quite reached that level there is still plenty of things you can do.
mutual masturbation.
you can do this by itself, or followed my oral sex or whatever else you want to do. this can inclue fingering yourself or letting him finger you or vice versa (him jacking off or you doing it for him)
oral sex.
once again this can be followed by mutual masturbation or whatever. give him head or let him eat you out. then swich. or try the 69 position, this is awesome fun (but i've only done it once.)
dry humping or dry sex.
let him get on top of you or you get on top of him, and then pretty much have sex with clothes on or off without actual penetration. my boyfriend & i do this a lot without actually realizing it.
if i left something out or you have any other questions just let me know.
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My boyfriend and I are both virgins. we are in love and ready to have sex. We tried to have sex last night but the problem was he just couldn't get his penis inside of me. I guess I was just too tight. is there anything i can do to make it easier for him to put it in? and is this abnormal? what position is best for sex the first time and would be easiest for him to get it inside of me?
make sure you are well relaxed & lubricated enough before he trys to put it in you. if you can't get wet, buy some KY Jelly. that's what i had to do. it's easier to get in if you are on top, but it hurts less if he is. it's not abnormal.
[EDIT] Lubricant CAN be a big problem when both are virgins. Someone said it will just 'naturally glide in' If you are relaxed, than yes. That may be the case. A lot of women are just naturally nervous though. Meaning they will tense up and that's completely normal. They were right, don't let someone pressure you into sex, but if you say you are ready, than you are. YOU don't let anyone tell you that you aren't. KY Jelly is sometimes needed, or else it wouldn't be put on the market. Some girls are just tensed up because of nerves. Also, some girls are just petite, making it even harder. Even the girls that are having a hard time lossening up, can be ready for sex. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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well yeah. i just started taking birth control last sunday.
and i just went to take one and while i was getting a drink of water from the faucet to swallow it i dropped the pill into the focet and it went down and i couldnt grab it.
so what do i do.
my boyfriend and i have planned to have him ejaculate in me on christmas eve so do i really have to worry about it. and just go on taking them or not?
if your parents know you are on birth control, let them know right away what happened.
don't take any pills since you dropped the one designated for today. keep taking them regulary like you normally would and wear a condom every time you have sex this month. Your period should be back on schedule by Christmas Eve, so he can still ejaculate in you. By then, you'll be on a new set of pills.
be more careful next time so something like this doesn't happen again. don't feel bad though, i did the same thing last month.
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im so sorry, i know im like stalking you lol. but since you seem to know a lot about this stuff, im going to ask you one more question. when your doing all this stuff like head, him eating me out, and whatever, whats the like position for it? i know basically nothing about this kind of stuff and ive always wanted to try it. ive just always been afraid of doing everything wrong. thank you so much for putting up with me.
it's perfectly fine =]
no problem at all.
i'll warn you now though, the links aren't school/work safe.
position wise, the best thing for you to do is go to wikipedia and type in what you want to know. if you'd like a wide range of sex positions type in something along these lines depending on what you want to see:
"69ing"
"sex positions"
etc.
When I give my boyfriend head, he usually lays down on the bed and I straddle his calves. (His penis is right at my fact if I do that.) I then lay down and get comfortable, and then go.
When my boyfriend eats me out, it's the same, only he's on top and i'm laying down.
I've only done the 69 position once. And I was on top. That one was hard to position myself in, because I felt weird with my ass in his face. Oh well though, it was still awesome!.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Image:69ing.png
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I feel like I'm more spiritual than Religious. My family is of the Christian faith. I'm not sure that I'm that religious. I believe in horoscopes (don't judge me) and the power of herbal healing and I feel like I'm more intouch with my spiritual side. Then again, I feel bad for being like that because I'm afraid I'm going to go to hell for not being that religious. I just feel guilty.
What are y'alls opinions on this?
What should I do?
You can be a christian and still feel spiritual. A lot of christians read horoscopes and believe them. I'm not sure where exactly I stand religious wise, but that's a different story. I was born and raised christian which sadly, seems to be the easiest way to go. This isn't right, and i'm very much aware. Anyways, i'm off topic.
What you are describing, (herbs, nature, etc.) sounds a lot like the religion Wicca. No, it's not all about witches casting spells on people and what not. It's a wonderful religion that's all about Karma. As in, you do good things and good things will happen to you. They as well believe in herbal powers and things.
If you pray and ask God for guidance, that my dear is a religion in itself. I would advise you to look into the Wiccan religion. It's not 'devil worshipping witches' no matter what you've heard. Just google it. I'm sure you'd be very suprised. =]
EDIT- TAROT CARDS: I honestly don't know enough about the religion to tell you. I'm sure if you'd look it up like I asked you too though, you'd get loads of info off google. try typing in,
"tarot card reading and wicca"
or something along those lines.
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im from before. im thinking about giving my boyfriend head. how would i go about doing that?
I'm bored, so i'm going to go full on, in depth about what I do. It may not be right, it could be completely wrong, but my boyfriend loves it, and that's all that matters to me. =]
When i'm not in the mood for sex, or I haven't gotten wet enough to start having sex, my boyfriend and I usually fool around. (handjobs, fingering, eating me out, & head) When I give Jordan head, it never really is planned. It starts off with making out, and when I get the urge to go down on him, I kiss is stomach all the way down usually. After that, I really just go wild and get totally comfortable with myself. It's not that hard when you know he's enjoying himself. Moaning, arching hips, pulling my hair, etc. Don't be afraid to let loose. Then, slowly grab is penis in your hand. Suck on the tip and move your hand up and down on it. I think my boyfriend gets more pleasure this way then when I just suck on the tip. I've tried putting the whole penis in my mouth, but I end up gagging. My boyfriend thinks it's hot, but I feel like shit so seldomly do it. I then quit sucking and lick up all the precum if there is any at that point. Then I blow soft kisses all the way up his member. I cup his balls in my hands and start gently licking my way up. We start making out again and then we eventually end up having sex. If you just plan on letting him cum in your mouth, keep going. Suck as fast and hard as you can going as far down as you can, without gagging. Then play with the tip and give him a handjob while you are still down there. These are just some things I do. You can do whatever you want really, and most likely he'll love it. Wow, this makes me want to do stuff. lol.
annyways, before I get to off topic, when he finally ejaculates swallow every bit. It doesn't taste to wonderful (warm, creamy, & salty) but you can always get something good to drink afterwards. Lick your lips to get it all off & then lick all the excess cum off his member. He'll love it. Don't think about all this when you are doing it either. Just do it and enjoy yourself. 69ing is very embarrassing and your exposed quite a bit. I did it for the first time the other day, but it's absolutely awesome! Deffinately right under sex.
Give it a try.
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16/f
i'll just get to the point..
so pretty much exactly a year ago i went out with this boy named johnny, whos a grade higher than me. we went out for a while like two months, but we both kinda mutually realized we still liked our exes. Since then we had been great friends, but neither of us did end up going with our exes. durring the summer we were talking and he asked if i wanted to hook up some time, just for experience, because ive been kissed and everything but i dont really make out with just anyone, so i never have before. well then i was like , friends with benefits? and he was like yeah, i guess, so i said sure why not. a week later a boy named chris asked me out, and we went out for four months, but he was kinda an ass, so we broke up. then a couple weeks later johnny was like how are you and chris, and i was like ohhh, we broke up a while ago.. sorry i didnt tell you we never really talk any more :( and he was like i knoow we should hang out next weekend, and i was like deffinitly . then he was like so do you want to do that friends w/ benefits thing now :) and like i guess i want to for experience, but i told him i like someone else, and hes like thats deffintitly not a problem. lol, so we arent going to go past second , but can i have either some advice on what to do since we dont even like eachother like that, like how do i let him know to start making out with me? or like can i have advice on what else to do besides making out, like where to put my hands to tease him or other places to kiss :)
thanksss for advice, i apreciate anything
Hookups= Disaster.
You didn't ask for my advice on the topic though, so I won't give it to you.
If you really want to do this, you shouldn't be nervous. You both obviously are comfortable enough to say yes to this, so just do it. If it happens it happens and if it don't it don't. He brought it up, so let him be the one to make the first move. You just show up and be prepared for whatever happens.
Let me know what happens.
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15/f
so i just found out the love of my life is goin away for 6 months. we were together for a month then we broke up but we still acted like we were together u know kissing and everything. he told me today that he was goin away. he wants to have sex and so do i but do you think this is rite?? so you think im gonna git my heart broken? all my friends think so but thats just because they dont know him. by the way im a virgin so this will be my first time. PLEASE HELP!!!!
I understand your pain. I would be very upset as well. Being gone for 6 months is a huge deal, and I know I would have a hard time excepting if my boyfriend left me for that long. Though, obviously you and this boy aren't dating. Though you may not realize it, but that changes a lot of things. Including my opinion on this question. Which is strictly an opinion.
Do I think you should do it? No.
Whether or not you do it thougn, is completely up to you. The reason behind my response is that a relationship is hard enough as it is without the added pressures of sex. And in your case, the boy isn't even your boyfriend and he's getting ready to leave. Be realistic here and think about what you are asking. I really don't think you should. But if you want to, go right ahead. Just be prepared for the consequences and the heartbreak after he leaves. Which most likely, he will not only leave town, he'll leave you all together as well.
Harsh? I'm sorry. But it's the truth.
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im not going to be too graphic or harsh, because i dont want this to be too inapropriate for the site. this is a serious question, and im not trying to be wise or anything. when you give someone head, do you have to stick his whole penis in your mouth?
No. You don't.
There are millions of techniques to giving head. From kissing to full on sucking. If you would like advice that may be too graphic to post publicly, leave me an inbox question =]
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