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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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are there any other things to do besides masturbating, looking at porn, etc. to make someone horny?
Yea. You can look at porn.
If you want to look at free porn that won't crash your computer, go to livejournal.com & click the search button. Then type in any sexual phrase, thing you can think of, and click on a community. erotic_fantasys is a good one.
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im not pregnant or anything but how come after your pregnant like after 3 months into your pregnancy you cant have sex anymore?
It's actually like 6 I think.
Usually because it's not good on the woman's uterus to have sex while she's that far along. It can damage the baby in some ways.
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alright i probably know what your going to say but i'm asking anyways. Me and my boy friend ahv bin having sex without condoms for about 8 months now, but i'm on bith control, is it still a bad idea to continue with this.
My boyfriend ejaculates in me, we don't use condoms, & I as well am on birth control. There is always that small chance of getting pregnant, though it's highly unlikely if you continue taking your pill correctly.(everyday at the same time) If you forget a pill, I would suggest condoms for the rest of that month.
- Do as I say, not as I do =]
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ok like now..im not sexually active but when it comes to the time .. i hear that fingering is a good way to get loosened up, so when your bf finger's you..like where do u look? wont it be awkward if you look at him while he's doing it? do you lay down..what?!
It is a great way to lossen up.
there are many different ways to go about fingering. most likely, he'll be on top of you & you'll be kissing. if you get into the whole thing, your eyes will most likely be shut- & it really won't matter where you look. you probably just won't care when the time comes.
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please help! okay so 2 nights ago i masturbated for the second time and again felt absolutley nothing. i mean i felt it but it didnt feel good or bad it didnt feel like anything. i stuck my finger up there and nothing happened. whats wrong with me!!
my way of masturbating really taht feels good is making a fist and doing a hitting pounding motion on my bladder lower area. it feels really good.
whats wrong with me. any ideas why i cant feel anything and why the "hitting pounding" feels good!!!!!
Your blatter is located near your G-spot. This is somewhat like the clitoris, in that when a woman gets touched there, it feels amazing. That could explain the pounding/hitting. Nothing's wrong with you. All women experience sexual exitement in different ways.
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this is kind of a stupid question, but i've never really known exactly what an orgasm is. could you tell me?
An intense sensation that occurs at the climax of sexual excitement that is accompanied by rhythmic muscle contractions and intense pleasure, followed by release of sexual tensions.
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okay so my boyfriend wants to finger me and so far hes felt me through like sweatpants.. but next time we hang out.. he wants to go in my pants and i dont mind.. except.. what does he expect to find as far as pubic hair goes? we never talked about it because i dont want to bring it up.. should i shave it or trim or what???
16/f. thanks
he won't know what to expect.
do what you want. then after he fingers you, ask him if he minds if you do/don't shave. he won't care, because it's your body.
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no guy has ever really seen my boobs, even though many have asked. i'm afraid guys will think 'ew that girl has ugly boobs' or something. i dont know-i'm very self concious. like is therea a certain way boobs should look? thanks.
All boobs are different, & none will look exactly the same. Any guy would be happy to see boobs period, they won't/don't care how they look.
I wouldn't suggest going around & flashing people though. It'll end up getting you into trouble =\
trust me.
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haha i added you as my fav. columnist!! haha saweeeeeeet. oh i love the new pic! GANGSTER GANGSTER hahhaaa
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thanks.
yeah, i was a gangster for Halloween. i thought it suited me, so i decided to put it on here.
anyways, i appreciate the add.
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when people talk like that, it absolutely kills me. i have to say something. i'm guessing your new here, and i'll go ahead & warn you, if you correct people, or you don't tell them what they want to hear, they'll give you a 1. but i have to say something. it's a pet peeve of mine.
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my friend had sexy last thursday night. her boyfriend prettymuch skeeted all in her because he THOUGHT that the condom was on but she kind of was playing with his dick and it fell off-but YEAH. thats beside the point
does anyone know symptons of pregnancy at a first stage? or anything at all that you might get if you may be pregnant.
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!
it's nice you are so worried about your friend. i think you should try proper wording next time asking a question on this sige though.
Skeeted- Ejaculated. Cummed would have been better, even.
Sexy- Sex.
Dick- Penis.
if this is a serious question, than try being serious.
some women know they are pregnant the moment they conceive. this is a very strange thing, and it's usually for women who have had children before and are very in tune with their bodies.
don't worry about her being pregnant until she misses her period. when she does, then you can panic. that's the time to invest in a home pregnancy test.
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what does it mean when somone says they are trying their best at life?
basically that they are trying to get by on what they have. they are implying that their life isn't that great, but they are doing the best with what they have.
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This may sound silly but, I just got a new hamster.. He is black and has a white line on his tummy. I was just wondering if anyone has any cute names for a black boy hamster that are unique.
Thankz! :)
Pepe La Pue. (PEP-A-LA-PUE )
I'm not sure how to spell that, but when you said he was black with a white line, i automatically thought of the old cartoon show with the little french skunk that was obsessed with romance.
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if a person who is HIV positive get a belly peircing or tatoo does it affect his health, does it kill?
does his body reject the belly peircing because he has a bad immune system or it doesnt have anything to do with that. please help
If someone is HIV positive, their immune system is weak, making them more prone to infections. If they got a piercing or a tattoo, it probably wouldn't affect their health to the point of dying, but they would probably have to take extra precautions in cleaning it to rid themselves of infections. Having HIV shouldn't make their body reject a piercing though.
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ok i have heard of sexual turn ons like biting of necks n kissing of necks and others but blowing ears? i mean i heard of it but how does that do anything? any reason? so...and rubbing of bellies..ye haha what does that do, i mean how does that turn someone on? i have heard of it so um...help?
There are certain nerves in the ear that are very sensitive. The more sensitive the area, the more likely it will turn you one when that area gets touched. I've never heard of the belly rubbing, but all people are different. It's fetish, and they can be strange sometimes.
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How can i get on birth control with out my parents finding out? When i have sex with my boyfriend we use condoms but i just dont want to take the risk of getting pregnat.
The health department.
You don't have to have a parent with you. You can get put on any birth control of your choice, get checked for stds, take a pregnancy test, go to a planned parenthood, or just about anything else you can think of without your parents knowing.
The only problem is getting a ride there. If your boyfriend can drive, get him to take you. If he can't find someone trusted that can.
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Do you have to be 18 to buy condoms?
You sure don't. All birth control is free, & you can get them just about anywhere. =]
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Ok well everytime i get fingered or have sex i never orgasm. The guy does but i dont any ideas how to fix this problem? I dont want to make my boyfriend feel bad about it so i dont really mention it what do you think i should do?
Tell him to play with your clitoris while he fingers you. I can't get off when my boyfriend just fingers me either, or try fingering yourself to find out what you like. Then tell him how you want him to do it. Most likely, he'll like you being demanding.
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Well me and my girlfriend have been together a pretty long time now and we both care for each other more than anything. Well we are BOTH virgins but we are sexualy active with one another like not oral but with hands and stuff lol. Well the only thing we are worried about is when we do actually "do it" that i will hurt her and i want to know how i may NOT hurt her or just ease the pain of hurting her. Please help me. Thanx
You can't make her be relaxed, as the person below me stated. Any girl that's having sex for the first time is going to be nervous and tense up. There is no way of getting around it.
Some find the first time painful, others think it's just uncomfortable, and then some may think it actually feels good. This usually depends on the girl's size. Petite girls usually find sex more painful, while bigger girls may not think it hurts at all.
If you want your girlfriend's first time to hurt less, there are a few things you can do.
- Wear an extra lubricated condom.
- Use a lot of KY Jelly.
- Finger her before trying to penetrate.
You can do all or some of the above tips. Try each one by itself and if you are still having a hard time, stop. Ask her to masturbate when you aren't around to loosen herself up a bit. Everytime you see her, finger her. Eventually try sticking two fingers in her. If you can do that and it doesn't hurt her, try penetrating again. Eventually it will go in. It's frustrating, but it will get easier.
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ok so people always say that condoms are like 95% effective or whatever "if used correctly"
well what it is the right and wrong way to use one?
and what are the different kinds of condoms? and which ones are the best?
A lot of people don't check for tears in the condom when they first buy them. Others don't check the expiration date. Others use 2 condoms at once (double up) thinking this will make the pregnancy & std risk lower. That's very, very wrong. When you double up, the condom is more suseptible to slipping off or causing friction and tearing.
If you want the condom to be effective, follow the instructions on the paper in the box very carefully. Make sure there is a space at the tip for the semen to go into and also make sure there is no air.
A lot of people say Lifestyles (what they give you at health departments) aren't effective. They wouldn't give them out at the health department if they WEREN'T effective. Duh. I use them, and i'm not pregnant. I've never experienced any rips or tears or anything of the sort. They do dry out easily though.
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Okay, well, I used to have a boyfriend (let's call him Nick), but we broke up about a week ago. Now, we are just really good friends. But, a couple days ago, Nick invited me over his house to watch a movie with some other friends. During the movie, he started getting close to me, and he hugged me when I was crying (for the movie). Then, while he was hugging me, he touched my ass, and started kissing me. Finally, he told me to go into his bedroom. Knowing me, I was so gulliable, and I went. We started making out on the bed. Finally, he took out a condom, and we started having sex. During it, we stopped for a couple mintutes when I hesitated. Some how, we fell asleep, and the next morning, I woke up, but it wasn't him! It was his friend, Steve! I went to the other room to tell Nick what happened, but Steve acted like nothing happened, and denied it. What should I do?
the person below me automatically assumed that Nick is an asshole. this could or could not be the case. seeing as how you were both hurt by the breakup, he was just as vulnerable as you. having sex with him without actually taking into account the situation was very dumb. but that doesn't mean just he was at fault. he didn't rape you, you willingly had sex. you are just as much responsible as he is.
i think this guy, Steve is the asshole. seeing as how you didn't agree to sleep in the same bed with him, and when you woke up he was laying down beside of you. if you were intoxicated or on drugs, you may have been raped. i doubt you were though. ask Nick about it, get both sides of the stories and if you can't figure it out, the best thing to do is drop it and not to put yourself in a position where that can happen again.
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