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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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I had sex with my boyfriend. When he went to go to the bathroom he saw that the condom wasnt on anymore we looked all over for it then he suggested it was inside me. I checked and it was it was really deep but i pulled it out. I didnt look at it or anything i just flushed it but now i think there a possibility im pregnat. What do you think?
there's always a possibility of pregnancy, and the fact that the condom slipped just makes the odds even higher. don't panic until you've missed your period though, once you've missed it, buy a home pregnancy test.
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i am 16 years old, and my boyfriend and i have been dating for 8 months. we have both performed oral sex on each other, but i have one question .. can girls cum? and how do you know if you're having an orgasm?
yes. they cum.
some 'spray' or 'squirt' and others just orgasm.
no one can explain to you what an orgasm feels like. that's like trying to explain what a yawn or sneeze feels like.
not easy is it?
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Ok i had sex with my boyfriend we used a condom but when he pulled out it wasnt on anymore it was inside of me. What are the possibilties of my getting pregnat? I'm really scared.
There is a high risk of pregnancy because you didn't use the condom correctly.
We can't be sure if you are pregnant or not, we aren't mind readers.
I don't think you're pregnant.
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Can a girl get pregnant if she is on the pill and you "let go" in her the first week after her period?
Girls can get pregnant ANYTIME.
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i hung out w/ my boyfriend and he tried to put it in w/ a condom on but i stopped him, he ended up just fingering me. it was really weird because the next day i felt sick and the next 2 weeks i had back pains, cramps, headaches, my breasts hurt. but i got my period 2 weeks later. could i in some way be pregnant?
No.
you aren't pregnant.
sheesh.
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Okay so, I'm 15 and female...and I've never had sexy before.
I always thought your hymen was a few inches into the vagina but I recently found out its on the OUTSIDE O_O
If thats the case then I dont have one...and I dont remember it ever being broken...I've used tampons since I was 11 and I never broke any kind of barrier..I dont remember any kind of bleeding down there that isnt period related...
Is this weird? It isnt possible that I just never had on is it? LOL I'm just really confused, can someone explain to me whats going on? I dont remember any kind of pain down there either...its just doesnt make any sense to me. Do most girls my age already have it broken without knowing?
Your hymen isn't on the outside of your vagina. It's on the inside, and it's pretty deep in there.
Having or not having a hymen isn't a big deal. I don't think yours has been popped yet, and you'll know when it has been. Mine was popped when my boyfriend fingered me one time.
All things are possible, and even if you were born without one, it isn't a bid deal. Promise.
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i heard a girl can only get pregnant 2-4days out of a month. if it is true? how does someone tell when those 2-4 days are?
It's not true.
There are days that you are most fertile. You can get fertility beads to figure out what days they are. Go to a health department to get more information.
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I've recently started dating this great guy. The problem is, he's black and I'm white. I'm against racism to the full extent and so is my mom, but my dad and brother don't feel the same. I know they won't accept this guy and I'm afraid to bring him home. My dad will look down on me and I hate feeling bad for liking such an amazing guy. What am I supposed to do? (18/F)
There is no reason in hell you should feel bad. This is your choice and your boyfriend. If he's this amazing than the color of your skin or his shouldn't matter. If your brother & father don't accept him, that's there problem. Be happy that you've found such an amazing guy. Talk to your family and explain to them how awesome this guy truely is. Maybe watch "Guess Who". It will give you an idea of how it feels to be in a color mixed relationship. Hopefully you'll realize how he feels.
In general, if your family doesnt' except them. That's there fault and there missing out on their daughter's happyness and life.
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ive been fingered, ive masterbated, and ive worn tampons. so my hymen is most likely broken right?
most likely.
but you never can tell.
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so .. this might sound stupid but i know its natural it just seems that most guys have there penis's circumsized.. i dont.. does this effect anything at all .. it would be sweet to have a girl around my age to answer this question because iv look this up on the internet so many times and i still dno what to think and i stress about it ALOT thanks :|
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It wouldn't bother me any. My boyfriend's cousin isn't circumsized. A lot of guys are these days, but not getting circumsized is getting more and more common. If it bothers you, you can still get it done. It's never to late. It doesn't effect anything, so don't worry.
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is it okay to like.. touch yourself and have a sex toy or something at age 13?? my 13 year old younger sister does it.. and has been since she was like 6 or 7 with like a teddy bear. ew. and she got her period at age 10! a year younger than i got mine. ew. is this er.. normal? or should i ask a doctor or something.
Hormones start kicking in around the age of 13. Perfectly normal. Actually kind of good in ways, because that may stop her from having sex.
People start periods at all different times. Some start at age 9 while others start at age 18. It's normal. Seriously.
As for the teddy bear, she was only 7 so I doubt she was actually masturbating. She was possibly pleasuring herself without realizing what she was doing, but it's normal also.
No need for a doctor.
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Do you have to be a certain age to purchuse a vibrator im 14, and if so...where can i go to get one?
You usually have to be 18 to buy a vibrator, because the only place you can actually buy them is at a sex store. In some states, vibrators and other sex toys are illegal. My advice would be to buy a hand held massager at Walmart or something. Basically, that's all a vibrator is.
Talk to a trusted adult when it comes to stuff like this. Tell your mom or whoever that you are growing up and your raging hormones are starting to kick in. Then explain to her that you aren't ready for sex and you were wondering if you could purchase a vibrator.
If this is out of the question, try talking to a friend you have that's over the age of 18. Joke around about it and around your birthday or something, tell her to get you a vibrator as a joke and laugh your ass off about it. If (s)he does actually buy it for you, then use it.
If worse comes to worse, order one of the internet. adamandeve is a great website. You would have to have a credit card & lie about your age though. I would NEVER advise this. It's just one of your options.
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i love my boyfriend a lot and i lost my virginity to him, its just that when we have sex he only lasts about 5 min! EVERYTIME! and its usually always the same position, i want him to last longer and be more spontaneous/wild in bed.. yet i cant say anything or else ill make him feel bad!! how can i get him to loosen up and try different things!! please HELP!
If you and your boyfriend are in a mature enough relationship to have sex, you should be mature enough to talk to him about your sex life. Explain to him that the sex is wonderful, but you would like to try some different positions. If you are like most girls you can tell when he's about to cum. When you can see he is, push him off of you. Wait and tell him you want to keep going as long as you can. Make a game out of it, and ask him to see how long the both of you can go without stopping.
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I didn't know what subject to put this under so yeah. I have to go to the ob-gyn and i shave already down there but I don't know if i should shave or not before I go to see her. I don't want to look stupid or for her to be like eww you're hairy or dang you shaved too much. I know she's mature about it and won't say anything, but I don't want her to be thinking this.
She won't care either way.
She's seen just about anything you can think of involving vaginas. It's her job, and it's like asking if you should cut your hair before going to the doctor. They won't care either way.
If you shave, then shave before you go. She won't care.
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Alright so, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and we've started having sex. We usually use condoms, but I was wondering.. how effective is the "pull-out method" i know a lot of people think it should be shunned but, i know a lot of people who have done it a lot and have had nothing happen. What do you guys think?
Some people are more prone to getting pregnant than others because of fertility. Some guys have a higher sperm count, making them more likely to get a girl pregnant. The pull-out method is effective but not very reliable. If you can't handle the risk/chance of pregnancy, then don't use this method. You can get pregnant from pre-ejaculation which is completely natural and can't be stopped. And no matter what a guy tells you, some just won't pull out because they don't have that kind of self-control.
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I come from a small town with not to much to do. Everytime I come home I spend a few days with my girlfriend and for these few days all we do is watch movies and have sex. There must be more to a relationship than that but i dont know what else we can do. If anyone has any suggestions on other things a couple can do I would greatly appreciate it.
Sex isn't important in a relationship at all. A lot of the best couple don't have sex at all, and have wonderful relationships. Try not having sex for a week. You can do other sexual things if that's what you mean.
-Mutual/Regular masturbation on either partner.
-Oral sex on either partner.
-Making out.
-ETC.
Try just enjoying each other's company. Goof off, and treat her like you would do with any of your friends. Your in a slump, and all relationships hit one eventually. Don't let this get to you, just work at it because no relationship is a piece of cake. =]
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after shaving the pubic hair on your vagina is there anyway to get rid of the black dots that are left behind? or what about the red bumps that sometime show up?
The black dots are probably from not shaving completely. Use lots of shaving cream, and exfoliate your skin before shaving to get rid of all the dead skin.
The red bumps are razor burn. There really is no way to prevent this on your pubic area. But to get it to go away, try using baby oil as soon as you get out of the shower & then apply baby powder to stop chaffing. Keep baby lotion on it at all times to keep the skin from flaking or peeling.
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my boyfriend wants me to give him a lap dance. i would but i feel kind of weird. any suggestions?
I won't give a lap dance either. It's just to strange for me. If you don't want to, don't let him pressure you into it.
Try typing "how to give a lap dance" on google. Don't underestimate it, give it a try.
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I like a few boys but one i havent talked to along time and one of them is in a different clique then me and we dont' go together. They are both sweet guys but i don't know what i should do one i bearly ever talked to and the other one is really shy. They are both football team and i'm stick. about them
what should i do with my feelings. ONe is like a geek and the other is really popular but sweet at the same time. The popular people don't like me so what should i do
You should go after who you like the most.
Don't take into any consideration about what cliques they hang out with, their popularity status, or anything else as insignificant because none of that will matter when you get out of schooll.
Go out with who you like the most -
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okay so, i have a friend his name is derek and um, i like him ALOTT and i dont know if he likes me but he goes to my school and uh he has a girlfriend but he flirts with me.. ALOt and he allwys cheats on his girlfriend.. not with me but with other ppl. and he dared me to act out what iw ould do if we had sex and i said you nkow hed finger me wed have sex hed rubb my boobs and like blowjob and shit and hardcore makeout.. and then on aim the next day he was like "u like me i know it" and i said "yes i do".. and hes like awh and everything and seemd nice about it.. then he was like i gotta go an said he would do all that stuff to me whenever i wanted him to. and i sent to him i put "lmfaooo haha okay :]" and then he sent back ":] gooodbye
When you said all this stuff, I don't think you realized that he has a girlfriend he cheats on. You may like him, but think about it! If he cheats on his current girlfriend, of course he'll cheat on you! He's a flirt. I'm sure he has said the same things he said to you to plenty of other girls. My advice is DON'T do anything with him. You will be labeled a slut, even if you don't think you are one. His girlfriend will most likely kick your ass or turn the whole school against you. It'll all end up backfiring & he'll end up fucking you, never speaking to you again, & staying with his girlfriend.
Prove me wrong if you wish. I'd like for you to actually, that'd be great. I doubt you will though.
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