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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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Advice
why do guys think it is hot when a girl masturbates?
Probably because the boy gets to see the girl pleasure herself and take over completely. Guys like it when a girl is in control, and when she masturbates and he watches, it turns him on and gets him horny.
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17/m well ive being goin out w this girl for like a few months and we have had sex alot of times and she thinks she might be pregnant but i also heard that she was sleepin w some other guy who i dont really know so the kid could be his what should i do? should i take care of the kid even though it might not be mine or what
If you love her, stay with her during the pregnancy. Ask her about the other guy, and if you trust her, that's great. If you don't, you can always have a paternity test after the baby is born. Once you know for sure, you can make the decision.
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18/f
when me and my bf first started doing oral i used to try and swallow his cum, but we had a couple of bad experiences!! first time it all shot to the back of my mouth, must have hit my gag reflex and i nearly choked and started coughing, second time the same thing happened except i nearly threw up!! I had to swallow to stop myself being sick while he was cumming and that made me feel really sick after, i really disliked the texture and taste in my mouth. after this we've been using other methods which don't involve him cumming in my mouth but I know he wants me to try again even if I have to spit it out (he's not pressuring me or anything but I know he would like it and I do owe it to him to try again)... so my question is should i try and swallow it again or hold it in my mouth and go spit it out somewhere.... also any tips on how not to choke, cough or feel sick! Thanks so much!
If you want to try swallowing again, ask him to give some sort of sign right before he cums. He could tug on your hair, arch is back, or whatever. Just make sure you know so you can prepare yourself. Try just sucking on the tip when you know he's about to ejaculate too. That way the cum won't have so much force behind it as opposed to you having it completely in your mouth to where it hits your gag reflex thing.
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okay so my stomach has been killing me last night me and my boyfriend had sex and this morning i was bleeding for some reason. I dont get my period for another 15 days so why would i be bleeding and, i throw up at like 5am this morning. Whats wrong with me i feel so sick someone helpp quickly
Oh my goodness. Please ignore the person below me and don't let them scare you. Of course with having sex there is always the possibility of pregnancy, but when something goes wrong after sex, it shouldn't be the very first thing you should expect.
If it was your first time having sex, or you haven't in a while, you bleeding a small amount is normal. So don't let that bother you any unless it continues. In which case you should talk to someone about it.
And your stomach could be hurting you for a billion different reasons. My stomach gets queezy after sex sometimes too, so i'm "assuming" that it's normal. Or you could have simply gotten a 24 hour bug. Who knows? Don't stress about it though.
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How do i know when i am cumming? Or having an orgasim
If you're a guy, a white somewhat creamy liquid will squirt from your penis. Don't mistake this for pre-cum though. Your muscles will tense up and then you will release all the "pressure" you're feeling. Trust me, you'll know.
If you're a girl on the otherhand, it can be harder to tell. Usually your vagina muscles will tense up as well, and then you'll get pretty wet down there. Some girls "squirt" or "spray" sort of like guys do, but not many. I haven't heard of any anyways.
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alright so i was just wondering if you havent started your period yet is it still okay to have sex. Is it still possible that you could get pregnant? thanks
It's always possible to get pregnant. So never take the chance of not using protection if having a baby is going to be a problem. In my personal opinion, if you haven't started your period yet, it's a no brainer you should wait for sex. Not only is your body not emotionally and mentally ready for sex and won't be for a lot, lot longer, but your body isn't even physically ready to accomadate a penis! Just think about it and you'll realize that this is quite a dumb question.
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i strongly love this guy: for the past four years!!!! (on and off, 95% of the time on)
is this really love? or is this just a crush?
were not together btw, he has a gf
16/f
Your first sentence: "I strongly love this guy."
Your second sentence: "Is this love?"
If you have to ask, you aren't in love. Love is a powerful feeling, and when you truely love someone, you just know you do. If you question it, more likely than not you aren't really in love.
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I had sex for the first time 2 nights ago. i wasnt in pain that night, but i was the morning after. im okay today, but i was wondering if there was a certain amount of days you should wait before doing it again?
It really doesn't matter. I personally think it's better to have sex the first few times consecutively. That way, your body gets used to the feeling.
But that's just me.
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bored...what should my boyfriend and I do ? both 13 years old if it helps.
why is this under the sex category?
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I am17 years old and 7 months ago my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. I got pregnant and he left me, now I am pregnant with triplets. My mom says that I shouldnt give them away. I'm not sure what to do.
Whether or not you used birth control when this happened is completely irrelevant and the question shouldn't have been asked. You had sex, you got pregnant, and it seems you have accepted the consequences.
If you feel you are emotionally and/or physically incapable of caring for three babies, that's your choice. If your mom thinks you should keep them, obviously she's willing to help you. So if I were you, I would keep them.
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my little sister {like a sister} is 11 and said she wants to have sex with a guy who is sixteen and is willing to pay her i told her no but she did anyway she is no pregnet and still is having sex she is always been very pretty and a sweet girl but then she started doing drugs like oxy cotten, midol{doesn't need it yet}coke, weed ect. when is enough enough
Enough was enough a long time ago.
For you to even sound so calm talking about your eleven year old sister smoking pot and crack, having sex, and doing oxycontin is pretty fucked up in itself. And it kind of makes me think your lying about the whole thing,.. or your sister is.
Even for her to lie about such vulgar things (she shouldn't even know what that shit is) is a bad sign. You need to talk to your parents or someone you can trust.
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can doing exercises like seatup and press ups make one loose a one month pregnancy?
Haha. Wow.
Murderer.
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1. whats the name of that song that Cliff Pantone in the movie sings to Torrence? well the song he made for her in the tape. i love that thing! is there a longer version, too?
2. at what part of the movie do they sing the "im sexy im cute" song? i watched most of it.. and i think i missed it, so next time i see it i'll only see the part that they sing it. yes i mean the first bring it on, so im not confusing it with the second.
3. i dont think i really wanna be a cheerleader because im doing alot of other sports and theres no time to, but i'd like to learn those flips and stuff. should i just do gymnastics and then you learn that stuff? and how long would it take to like.. get good at it.
1. I have no idea what the song is called. But if you get watch the movie and google the lyrics, it should give you a name if there is one. Or watch the credits at the end of the movie.
2. They sing the song at the very beginning of the movie when she's dreaming. It starts off the entire thing, and I think it's actually before they list the names of the cast.
3. The flips and jumps they do aren't easy. They take years of practice, and you have to be very dedicated to get good at them. Most gymnists start at a very young age. I started in 1st grade, and stayed with it for around 4 years. The only thing I mastered was my backhand spring and even that was still difficult. If I would have happened to stay with it, I may be able to do some of the things they do, but sadly I didn't. Anyways, if your interested in doing gymnastics, that's great. Just know it will take a long time to be able to do some of the things they do in the movie.
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My boyfriend and I have tried having sex a couple of times now. Yet, it just hurts me so badly. Even putting one finger in hurts. I'm scared I'll never be able to have sex and I don't know what to do.
Don't stress out about it. If it hurts to be fingered, that means you aren't wet enough to be having any sort of penetration. Explore yourself, and find things that gets you turned on. Once you discover what those things are, mention them to your boyfriend, and see if that helps. Being nervous is usually always a given for virgins having sex. I know it was for me. So the best thing to do, is just try to relax. The more relaxed you are, the easier having sex will be. Promise. If worst comes to worse, try using KY Jelly.
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me(14) and my bf(16) have been going out for a while and a few days ago we walked past this shelf in a store with condoms on it and we started making jokes about buying them. then later that night we were in his room watching a movie, making out, he felt me up, and stuff. then today he told me he bought a condom "just in case". i know im not ready for sex right now cause im too paranoid that i'll get pregnant or get some disease. but i was wondering if both me and my bf are virgins, can we still get an std? and how well do those morning after pills work and where could i get one w/o my parents knowing? thanks in advance!
If you think you're ready for sex, then as long as the two of you take all neccessary precautions, nothing will happen.
Make sure he wears a condom CORRECTLY everytime. Consider getting put on the pill. If neither of you have ever done ANYTHING sexual, you can't get an STD. If one of you has had oral sex, intercourse, etc., then you can still get an STD. As for the morning after pill, they work as long as they are used before 72 hours. If you had unprotected sex, or fear you may be pregant, you can get the pill at the health department.
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hey..well this is gunna sound nasty but sometimes i get rly horny and i wana hump somethin. but i dont know what to hump. ive tried pillows but they dont rly work for me got any other ideas? spraying water from my shower head feels great but i cant just stand in the shower forever!
plus*for a first time masturbater...how do i do it?
signed, am i crazy??
Your question somewhat reminded me of my chihuahua. Don't take that the wrong way, but she humps EVERYTHING. What you're feeling is quite normal though. I'm guessing you've just recently started masturbating, and haven't discovered that there are other ways of pleasuring yourself besides humping pillows, stuffed animals, etc. You don't have to finger yourself to masturbate either. Try rubbing your clitoris.
if you want to know HOW to mastubate, read this;
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation_howto.htm
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My boyfriend and I had sex last night for the first time. He didn't pop my cherry, but part of him was still in me. Does this mean i lost my virginity? Or am i still a virgin?
Virginity doesn't exist.
it's nothing but a state of mind.
If you feel you're still a virgin, then you are. If you feel you aren't a virgin, then you aren't.
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I am freaked out here and I want some assurance. Well, yesterday a guy lay on me and was kissing my mouth and smooching and all and I was fully clothed as in I was wearing a salwar kameez and had my panty, my top of the salwar and my kurta on...and he too had his lungi on...I don't think he came or something but even if he did what are the chances that it would have travelled from his penis to his lungi from there to my bottom and then to my panty and finally to my vagina. And just for the record there was no direct penis-vagina contact at all as throughout I was fully clothed and neither his penis nor his hands touched my vagina or my genitals. Every body's telling me I have nothing to worry but then I just needed some assurance and I am sure this is the best place. Please help me! I am going crazy
salwar kameez kurta lungi
what is that crap?
& if there was no penetraition of the penis to the vagina. don't worry so much. your fine and you ain't pregnant.
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I recently got my belly button repierced, and it was pierced with a standard implant grade surgical stainless steel barbell. I was wondering if there was a differece between a belly button ring you would buy somewhere, and the particular barbells you get pierced with. I tried to take the top ball off the change only the ball, but couldnt get it off..I wasnt sure if there was something different about the starter barbell..thank you!
If you haven't figured it out yet [which i'm sure you have] the barbell most likely twists off at the bottom.
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ok. so, last night i got realllyyyy bored, so for the first time ever i watched porn. and i realized i am personally ready to have sex right now. and i now none stop think about how i want it. jkas. is this normal. do i really wnat it? am i just thinking that from the porn ?
Porn is usually nothing like the real deal. When you watched the porn, it turned you on. Most likely you masturbated, or at least wanted to. This may make you feel like your ready to have sex, but truth be told, watching a movie won't help you make a decision on such a major topic such as this. When I was your age, I used to say I was ready to have sex all the time, but I really wasn't. Just wait it out, and you'll most likey realize you aren't ready to have sex. What you're feeling is normal.
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