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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
Oh, and ask me anything!
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I'm going to describe how I dress and I would like you to try to classify me as whatever typical highschool clique you think i sound like.(prep, goth, etc.)
I have several vera bradley purses and I carry them often, I own 2 lacoste polos, but that's all the designer stuff i have. 99% of my clothes are from american eagle, Delia's, A&F, Aero, and Hollister. I also have some emo items from hot topic that I don't really wear that often though. I have really fair skin but I wear black eyeliner and black mascara. Always. I don't always wear jewelry, but a lot of times I'll wear a necklace from AE.
so what do I sound like to you? Oh, and if it helps- I'm always involved in theater. I don't know if that matters though.
I'm a vera bradley whore =] I own every color and design in some shape or another. I'm getting a messenger backback for school. =]
Don't label yourself. You basically sound like me, only I have tan skin and brown hair. But that's irrelevant.
I don't consider myself anything, and there are a few at my school who are like that. If anyone asks me to label myself something, I just say "myself" But really, you can consider that a label in itself if you are into that kind of thing.
There are a few kids in every grade who are like me. As in, own a little of everything, hang out with a little of everybody, etc. I love how I am. It's so unstressful. I have at least 5 or 6 friends from every "group" at my school. My boyfriend and bestfriend are actually just like me though.
Enjoy the fact you aren't labeled anything. Think about it, when you go to the mall, you can shop at ALL the stores, and not just a select few. It's awesome =]
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14/f
I put a video on youtube of me dancing, but i took it off. A ton of people saw it- and this one guy told a bunch of people that it was a video of me STRIPPIPNG! Then this one girl who was told that told EVERYONE else! Now everyone in my dance studio thinks i'm some stripper whore.
What can I do about this? i feel terrible and guilty. and i'm not even a stripper!
First off, don't let rumors get to you. They will tear you apart left and right if you let them. YOU know you aren't a stripper. That's all that really matters if you think about it.
And think about it, if the video wasn't vulgar or remotely considered "stripping" then ask people to watch the video. That way they will know you aren't stripping.
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i just quit my current j0b and i want to get an0ther 0ne.
i was a baby sitter [im 0nly 15]
what other job could i d0 i really need an0ther j0b
Why would you rate Tina_Duh & KicktheCan a 1?
They were just being honest and helping you out in the long run. They're right about the zeros, they make you look like a 5 year old trying to be cool, and if you plan on getting a job, you don't want to type up a resume like that.
As for the jobs, any fast food restaurant would hire you. But that's honestly about it depending on where you live. You usually have to be at least 16 to get a decent job anywhere else.
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Well I'd have to say my current reputation at school isn't the one i want. I'm dating a guy that everyone likes. People think I'm a bitch but i'm not i'm just sarcastic. I want to be one of them people that is friends with everyone. Pretty and is on school teams. You know that type. How can i turn into someone like that. I shop at hollister so its not like im emo or anything. How can i make more friends and become like that.
If everyone at school likes your boyfriend, then why wouldn't they like you? Obviously he's dating you for some reason, and other people will recognize that and think you are fun to be with. Don't just date him for the reputation though. Date him because you like/love him, and for no other reason.
Don't allow people to think you are a bitch. Don't be sarcastic, be nice. =] Smile at everyone, make small talk with people who seem lonely, and make yourself fun to be around. If you are nice and friendly to others, people WILL notice that, and will want to be your friend.
Just know that where you shop (whether it be Hollister, Chanel for God's sake, or the Good Will) doesn't determine whether people are going to like you or not like you. It's about your personality, not physical appearance.
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do most guys find it more attractive for a girl to have a big clit or small? or any preference at all
Your clitoris cannont be "loose". Depending on your body shape the size, color, or anything else can be different from another person's. There isn't an average size, color, or shape for that matter. All women are different.
When you are horny, your clitoris actually swells to twice it's normal size. And when you orgasm, it shrinks, basically.
Pretty much, unless a guy just happens to see you naked with your legs spread apart, a guy won't know the normal size of your clitoris.
That being said, if you are with a guy that cares either way, you are with the wrong guy.
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OK, what do you want me to do? Just put all the details from the right into a seperate box on the right is it?
Yes, basically that's it. On my layout, see the box inside the big one? It has my website, occupation, fav columnists, etc? That's it. I want to seperate boxes. Does that make since?
Do you need my layout CSS I already have made?
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i dont really pay attention to ratings because i just started but i gave someone a detailed answer and he gave me a 3. its not so much his rating its his comment:
Thank you for your answer. I would give you a 4 but you didn't capitalize. Otherwise it was a good answer.
what does capitalizing have to do with anything?
Any question asked is a "real" question. Durr. =D
You've gotten plenty of good answers and basically by advice is the same as everyone else's. Don't worry about it. A 3 is decent. If you feel it's neccessary, file an abuse report and maybe a moderator feels the same as you and will change your rating.
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I'm 20 and my sister is 19. Our parents have passed away long time ago and we're just living together in our small flat.
Anyway, I didn't yell or say any single word and I just shutted the door slowly... I realize at our age it's very normal for us to have such healthy sex drive (But that doesn't change the fact that I'm a bit worried and angry to see my sister doing "that" in our very own flat!)... I also have sex with my girlfriend and she knows that also... do you think this is a way of revenge? What would YOU do?
You two are adults. It's normal for both of you to be having sexual relationships. Though it was probably very strange for you that you seen her, it was also a complete accident, and something you should probably try to block out of your mind completely in my opinion. She's 19 and has a boyfriend- I'm sure she wouldn't be having sex with him just because of you. Don't flatter yourself =]
If you want to, talk to her about it. Apologize for walking in on her and talk to her about how you're feeling. You are both grown people, you should be able to talk with each other calmly and rationally about what happened.
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soo is a guys cum and their spirm the same thing?
Yes, basically.
Ejaculate (or cum) contains the sperm.
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i like to watch gay porn and jack off to it but i hate seeing guys kiss, its just weird and i can never think of loving a guy. i date girls all the time and naked girls turn me on too i like to think of myself of straight...what do u think.
I think you have a gay porn fetish. A lot of people have strange fetishes, just be glad yours is normal. Everyone has them, if they say they don't, they are lying. I don't think you are gay. I don't think you are bisexual, but hey! You might be. And there is nothing wrong with that. If you are attracted to women, fine. If you are attracted to men, fine. Do whatever you feel is right. You don't have to label yourself a gay, straight, or bisexual. Just do what feels right.
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Well, I just got my period a couple of months ago. And like a week ago, I used a tampon. Well, anyway, I had a lot of trouble with it, and it was actually pretty painful. Is it supposed to hurt your first time? %% Thanks %%
I don't think this should be under the Sex Category. It's not about sex. Make sure to try to find a category that best matches your question as possible. And honestly, this category doesn't match your question in the least. >> Sorry. Petpeeve of mine.
To answer your question:
No. Technically it shouldn't hurt, but depending on how you handle pain, it can. It hurt me terribly the first few months. I went through two or three packs of tampons a day trying to get them to fit comfortably and correctly. It's not that they are just flat out hurting you, it's that you aren't putting the tampon in correctly. You can follow those step by step instructions a million times, and it still won't fit right. What you have to do is practice, practice, practice. Buy you a few packs and keep inserting them until it feels right to you. You will feel some pressure in your vagina, and in your lower stomach the first few times you use them. They are in right, it just takes a little getting used to. Keep practicing. Find the right technique that works for your body, and eventually you will be able to correctly and comfortably insert them.
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while me and my bf have sex, hell cum inside. and im on birth control. but after sex and were done i have to quickly grab a towel and have it thea for when he pulls out. after the sex, i leak. like my body rejects the semen or somethin. its not like im a slut or anything and it happens because im loose, because i lost my virginity to him in just december. it wasnt like this for the first couple months but then it started happening. and like i stp leakin for a lil while after i clean up, but it still comes out when i walk around, like 5 mins after.... i dont know.. is this normal??? or is something wrong with me???
It's completely normal. They never mention that kind of thing with sex on tv or things. Go figure. Anyways, the best thing to do is keep a towel beside your bed when you know you are going to have sex, and put a pantiliner or a pad on after sex. Go to the bathroom and pee, then push out as hard as you can. This will release some of the excess.
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for all the girls that got fingered for the first time- did it hurt? or was it just uncomfortable? thanks.
I can, but that doesn't mean it will. If you aren't wet [horny] then it will most liklely hurt like a mother. Hah. If you are wet, then it should feel pretty good. Unless he has long fingernails. OUCH.
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can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =]
I lost my virginity when I was 14. I had been dating my boyfriend officially for only 5 months, but we had been together for almost a year at that time. Very confusing I know, but that's basically how it went. I'm 16 now, and we are still together. It will be two years this August. I don't know how I knew I wanted to, but when the time finally came, I was like, "I love this boy now. And I want to have sex with him now. If this is what i'm wanting at this moment, I can't regret it later." It's like that quote that goes "Regret nothing because everything you did was exactly what you wanted at the time". I live by that quote. And luckily, I have no reason to regret my decision. We're still together, and if in the future we end up breaking up, I'm still not going to regret it. I love him, and though things may change in the future, the fact he was my boyfriend and a person I truely care about will never change. I'm happy that I got to share something so wonderful with someone I love so much.
Anyways, my first time wasn't this fantastic fantasy-like encounter. Far from it. Matter of fact, it hurt like hell. But it was our first time and that made is special. Even though mentally I knew I was ready, my body on the other hand, wasn't so sure. I couldn't get into it because even though I knew I wanted to do it, I couldn't help but me nervous which made it harder to accomplish. We tried for about 3 months before it even happened. I kept chickening out. But once it did happen, our relationship changed. Not neccessarily for the better or for the worse. But it matured a lot. We were closer on a different level. I don't know if that makes since or not.
To put things simply, i'm glad I lost my virginity to my boyfriend and I know i'll never regret it. But on the otherhand, I know I was young and since we are still together, I wish I would have waited a little longer. I was only 14, and though more and more girls are losing their virginity at that age, it's still very early. I do not look forward to telling my teenager one day that I lost my virginity when I was fourteen, and that makes them think it's ok. But it was my decision that I made and though I don't have any regrets, I know it's something i'm going to have to be ok with it.
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what is juvenile detention? Who can tell me a bit about it?
In my own words, it's basically jail for kids & teenagers.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Juvenile_detention
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so i got my industrial pierced last week ((thursday to be exact)). on the lil aftercare sheet it said no tanning bed or swimming for 4-6 weeks.
well, just dandy becaues i just bought a 3 month membership to the tanning bed that i cant get a refund on. i still plan on goin ((i only go maybe twice a week anyway)). ive already been once but i covered my ear. whats wrong with tanning beds and piercings?
also, my boyfriend is moving into a house with a pool sometime soon. i havent swam all summer and i want to soo so bad. if i did wait like a week or two ((the pool isnt finished)) could i go ahead and swim as long as i clean my ear right afterwards? im good about following the cleaning instructions anyway, so would it still have a high risk of gettin infected?
In my opinion, piercing care sheets are just telling you what you should be doing to keep your piercing in perfect condition, they know that not everyone is going to follow those instructions word for word. While it is important to do exactly what the paper says, it's not absolutely a fact that it will get infected if you don't.
When I got my naval pierced, I was supposed to clean it with soap, water, and the special medicine they gave me in the shower for 3 months. And I wasn't supposed to change the ring or touch the piercing unless I was cleaning it for up until after 6 months. There was no way I was waiting that long to change it, and I really had no intentions on it. So what I did was wait for the swelling, redness, and tenderness to go away and then I changed it in my shower. I kept cleaning, but I didn't listen to the instructions word for word, and I ended up being infection free. =]
As for you, I would do the same. I'm not 100% sure why you aren't allowed to swim or lay in the tanning bed, but if your piercing isn't still swollen or tender, I see nothing wrong with swimming. But like you said, clean the piercing right after and make sure the pool is clean. I'm sure the reason has something to do with chlorine. When you lay in the tanning bed, continue covering your ear as well. Always clean your piercing like instructed and don't touch it. You should be good to go.
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ok so earlier tonight my girlfriend and i were dry humping for the first time. at one point she got really tense and started breathing really heavily, and i just wanted to know: did she orgasm?
afterwards she said it felt really good if that helps. . .
All girls act differently during orgasms. Though it deffinately sounds and appears that she had an orgasm, the only way to know for sure is by asking her. Just be like, "Last night was fun, don't you think? I'm pretty sure you orgasmed, am I right?"
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oke...here is my question. I am married, f 22...my period has always been irregular since i gotten it (when i was 13). The last two months its been regular my last period was on may 28th ...and the last couple of days i been having brown discharge...and today it's like my period started i put a on a pad but there is blood only when i pee and only a little on my pad...i have been having sex with my husband always with a condom never broke or fell off...and i always break out before my period couple of days....which i did this month too my back hurts, before hand....my boobs are sore....my back hurts i get a headache none of those things happened this month i only broke out so...is this really my period or could i be pregnant and only spotting whats going on....thanks to anyone who answers...and do you think it will be heavier tomorrow...this never happened before...and its crazy if i could be pregnant. My husband...puts on a condom as soon as he is hard....so no fluid goes near my vagina...sorry for this being so long....
Periods are very random for most everyone unless you are on the pill. (in which case it regulates your period for you) It's always possible to be pregnant while using condoms, even if you think you've been safe. If you're bleeding, though it's possible, it's highly unlikely you are pregnant. Maybe you are just having a light period. Take a pregnancy test if your "period" doesn't get any heavier just to be on the safe side.
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hellppppp. im 17/f and a junoir in high school. well for drivers ed last summer i had this coach who is about 45 years old has grayish-white hair and really tan and for some weird reason i was like attracted to him in a weird way. and today i saw him again for the first time in a while and he said hey and all and like icouldnt stop staring at him. i feel like attracted to him for some reason!! is this weird? or gross? im confused.
It's usually normal for a student in highschool/college to be attracted to one of their teachers at some point or another. You just have to be sure not to act on these thoughts in any way possible. This can get you both in -serious- trouble.
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Can someone still finger you even if you havent had your period yet?
yes =D
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