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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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well me and my gf tried sex for the first time we were both virgins and it felt really good for me but it didnt feel good for her she said it hurt a little bit on the edges and it felt good when i was all the way in and i dont know if i popped her cherry or what...i dont know why it dont feel good for her i dont think im big enought to pop her cherry what do i do? does your cherry have to be popped for it to feel good??
A girl's first time having sex is never any fun. It's always going to hurt whether it's a little bit or a lot. The slang term "popping her cherry" actually means "ripping her hymen." It's a thin piece of skin located somewhere inside of the vagina. When it rips, it hurts. After it rips, it still may hurt until she gets used to having sex. It doesn't mean you are bad in bed, it just means you need to give her time before it physically will start feeling good for her.
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14/f
i want to do IT like im not even going to lie. it does matter who it is i have a boy in mind but idk yet. i don't feel comfortable naked i know im very flat chested and i skinnyy, but everyone say im pretty if i had a butt which i need to get so any help with that. and how do to get this guy actuallyy 17
Anywhere from the age of 13-15 you are probably going to be having weird sexual urges that you aren't able to explain, and it's normal. But that doesn't mean you should act on these impulses, especially with a 17 year old. And yes, seventeen is too old for you. He has matured and you have not. Just allow these urges to pass, and don't act on them.
As for your butt, lunges and squats can fix you right up =]
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I'm 18.. and a virgin..
I've been going out with a guy for a year now...we love eachother alot...
I want to have sex after marriage..
due to religious reasons and also because i think it will be of more value when you have sex for the first time on your first night...
But he wants to have sex before that....
the 1st time i explained my reasons to him he said he understood.. but now he seems to be changing..
a few days ago he bought that conversation up again
and when i explained it to him all over again he was pissed with me
"aren't you willing to have sex with me?" "dont you love me?" "why are you doing this to me?"
etc
why is he in such a hurry? doesnt he value me or respect me???
what can be wrong
I just dont know what to do now..
please help me:(
please dont tell me to dump him... I love him alot and i cant live without him...
is anything wrong with me??? if so please explain ...
Please help me...
FYI: A big red flag to dump a boy, regardless of whether you want to or not, is when he pulls the "Don't you love me?" speech when you won't put out. The truth is, He Does Not Love You. If he did love you, he would respect your decision to wait. And even though it may hurt you to realize, if he doesn't repect your values, he doesn't respect you.
Why is he in such a hurry? Because he is a horny boy that can only think about sex. I know this may not sound like your sweet loving boyfriend that you've been with for a year, but if he was that sweet and that loving, he wouldn't be making you feel like something was wrong with you. He would tell you he understands, and since he loves you so much, he'll wait. But the truth is, he hasn't told you that. He doesn't understand, and apparently, he never will. You need to leave this boy. I understand you asked us not to tell you this, but unfortunately that's the advice that's best for you. And I really, really hope one day you will understand why I am telling you to do this. You say you love him a lot and can't live without him. And if that's the honest truth, are you willing to throw everything you've ever believed in, and what you've always wanted for yourself out the window? Are you willing to throw your values, pride, and respect out too? If so then go ahead and have sex with him. But I can almost guarentee that you will regret it in the long run. But actually no, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Nothing at all. But there is a lot wrong with this guy, and I hope you understand that...
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remember when someone died like the lead singer from NIRVANA? Why did he die? and... WHEN!?
The lead singer of Nirvana was Kurt Cobain. It was said that he committed suicide. Some believe that to be the truth, while there is a rumor that his wife, Courtney Love, killed him.
This is a paragraph I got off of wikiepedia:
"On April 8, 1994, Cobain was discovered in the spare room above the garage at his Lake Washington home by Veca Electric employee Gary Smith. Smith arrived at the house that morning to install security lighting and saw him lying inside. Apart from a minor amount of blood coming out of Cobain's ear, Smith reported seeing no visible signs of trauma, and initially believed that Cobain was asleep. Smith found what he thought might be a suicide note with a pen stuck through it beneath an overturned flowerpot. A shotgun, purchased for Cobain by Dylan Carlson, was found at Cobain's side. Cobain's death certificate concluded Cobain's death was a result of a "self-inflicted shotgun wound to the head." The report estimates Cobain to have died on April 5, 1994."
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i have a black and white picture but i want to make my eyes in color(there blue). i have picasa, but with that you can only do that to pictures that are color, and then turn them black and white. i hope that makes sense..is there any way to do that with picasa? or do i have to download something, because i dont have photoshop or anything. and please give me instructions how to do it! :D thanks!
Download "PhotoFiltre"
Google it.
Once you are on there, you just crop everything you want in black and white, and leave out what you want colored [your eyes] and that's it. =] Really simple.
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Hi ppl im 18 and i have thought about going down on a girl and muff her pussy ,i just want to knw what a pussy taste like
It's probably going to taste like whatever she ate that day. Hope she didn't eat garlic or onions =]
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ever since my allergic reaction to monostat (which has cleared up now) my vaginal discharge has been really weird. Even though i now wash my vaginal region twice a day, it has a strange smell to it (not fishy, more like tangy), and the discharge is white and really thick and cakey. I went to the doctors countles times but they kept telling me that its natural adn i know for sure that it is not. Any suggestions as to what has happend?
To put it simply,
Vaginas Are Weird.
They do their own thing when they want to, and sometimes we can't explain it. If your allergic reaction is cleared up, and you are still discharging more or differently then usual, it's probably just an imbalance of something from the monistat. Give it a little while to clear up and get out of your system. If the doctor told you it's fine, then don't worry about it. If it lasts for more than a couple months, go to a different doctor and get a second opinion.
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16/f
Since i was little i've had the dream to sing. (like just about every girl) and my friends tell me that I have an amazing voice. some people tell me that i sing too low for a girl...i've recorded myself and i sound good but not great. i think my friends are telling kinda un-truth so that they don't hurt my feelings. How can I know if everyone tells me something else?
If you love singing and people don't hold their ears and cringe when you perform, :] then keep singing. If you would like, ask your parents about seeing a voice coach. They will be honest with you, and help you with what you need to work on.
Good Luck.
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15 f\ virgin
I'm a little older then 15 and a half. I love my boyfriend dearly. I really AM ready to have sex with him and I want to give him something I can't take back or give anyone else. I would have sex with him, however, I feel I'm just too young! I know for a fact no one would find out about it, I rather it be personal. I would like to know your opinion. I know I am ready, I just consider 15 young.
thanks alot, xo
It's cool that you love your boyfriend enough to give him something so special. And I think it's even cooler you are thinking about it instead of just doing it on a whim.
If you think 15 is to young for you, you're probably right. If this guy is special enough to have sex with, and you want to give this to him, what's the harm in waiting? You guys obviously share something very special, so waiting a few years won't do you any harm. If you aren't dating in a few years, you should be damn glad you decided to wait. So there is no problem.
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i am a female. me and my partner wanted to have sex, so he tired putting it in, but it wouldnt go in that far. is it still considered having sex even though he didnt put it in far?
In my opinion it's open for interpretation.
Some think they are virgins until the sex is completed, or someone ejaculates.
Others think when a penis enters a vagina completely they are no longer virgins, while others may think you aren't a virgin after a penis touches a vagina.
Do you consider what you did to be sex? If you do, you aren't a virgin. If you don't, and you think it was a fluke and didn't count as sex since neither of you got anywhere you are a virgin.
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ok so is there anyway that i can get birth control pills without anyone in my family knowing? i really want to get them but i know nothing about it so i have a few questions:
1. how long do you need to take them before having sex?
2. what are the side effects of them?
3. i just need a way of getting them with my parents completely not knowing?
please help meee
If you can find a way to get to the health clinic, it's completely free and the nurses there will walk you through everything you need to know.
You should take the pill, regardless of what kind/brand for at least a month, if not two, before having sex without a condom. And even after, you should still use one for an extra precaution from pregnancy, and to protect you from STDs.
Birth control screws with your hormones a lot, so the way birth control might effect me, would effect you completely different, because everyone's hormone levels are different. You could gain or lose weight, your face may break out, or it may clear up, certain kinds may make you feel good before your period or make you feel like crap. You just never know. That's why usually you have a sample pack the first month to see how your body will adjust to the change.
If you have an older friend or relative who you can trust that can take you to a clinic, and you hide the pills good, your parents don't have to know anything. However, if you think you are old enough to have sex, you should be able to talk to your parents about it maturely.
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Okay. I'm 17 & he's 39.
So i recently moved in with my dad & one of his friends & my dad's friend & i started talking & then we started texting. Now our relationship has gone further. We been kissing & having sex for over two months now! I don't feel bad about our age gap because i dont think that there's age for love. The thing is that his son knows & his ex wife thinks we are dating & she keeps threating to tell the police. I really do like him & he doesn't act anything like a 39 year old. I'm just not sure if our relationship is worth hiding until i'm 18 [in 84 days!] Sometimes its getting harder to hide it but i do want to be with him. I dont want to dissapoint my father but i think that he has an idea, sorta, about our 'friendship' [we stay up & play chess when my dad is home]. I just dont want to hurt people & i dont want people to think less of me because i'm with someone with a son. =/ & his son loves me & wants me with his dad. His son is going through a hard divorce [not literally since they were never married] & i help him out with his troubles. What should i do?
Wait until you are 18.
Everything will be ten times easier on everyone if you do. It will be much better for this guy also seeing as how he won't get into any trouble. If this ex-wife/girlfriend is threatening to call the police, that's obviously the only card she has left to play. Once you are 18, she's out of the picture and get hurt you two anymore. As for your dad, if he already suspects, then when you actually tell him it shouldn't be to big of a shocker. And if he loves you, he will respect your decision. in 84 days, you can forget about all your worries, and be with him happily if that's what you want.
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So I got this new boyfriend. We've been going out for two weeks. I asked a question before about sex, with my other bf. We broke up and now i have this new bf. I was so used to having sex with my other bf and I havent started having it yet with my new one. I dont wanna sound like a slut, I don't wanna ask for it. There has been opportunities, but i don't know what to do? i don't even know if he wants to!!
Please help!
Think about it. You just ask him. Be like "So are you a virgin? What do you think about sex..So on and so forth" until you get on the topic of "Would you ever want to have sex with me?" It will eventually come up.
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Okay, since I was 4 I've been chubby. I never exercised (My mum feared I'd get hurt) and I always ate junk food because my Dad doesn't know how to cook and my Mum was pretty lazy. I'm not HUGE, actually for my lifestyle choices all my life I think I've been pretty lucky. You seriously don't know how bad it was.
Anyway my question is: Do you think I'd be able to lose weight. I'm not expecting to drop the weight in weeks or even months. I'm looking at a long term thing. I've always been chubby so do you think it's possible? I'm 15/f by the way.
My plan is: Drink nothing but water, go for a 20-30 minute walk everyday (I live in a real hilly area so that's good) and eat really healthy foods and never eat junk food.
Do you think I'd be able to do it? I don't care how long it takes.
Yes you can most certainly do it =]
Good luck.
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I'm a 14/f, 5'6, 113 lbs. no ass(hehe),
and i have cellulite on my legs. I dont really get how i have it, can someone explain this to me, and maybe how i can rid of it please!
thank you so much!!
To me it seems you are at a healthy weight for your height and age, so the only thing you would have to change to get rid of a little extra leg fat, would be leg toning exercises. Squats, lunges, anything. Do a few sets once a day, and you should start seeing a difference.
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Where can I find some cute purses? I like medium to large purses and there is this cinched style that I like alot. But it doesnt matter what the style is. I just need a really cute purse at an affordable price (preferably not over -or close to- 100)! Any advice?
www.verabradley.com
Vera's are very popular where I live. I absolutely love them. They are affordable, roomy, and adorable =]
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i recently asked you this question...start off i have never had sex..ive never bled from my vagina before (besides my period) newayss im 14 and have gotten fingerd about 5 times...and recently on my hymen i feel 3 tiny tiny bumps they dont hurt but sometimes they do idno if its just because it irritated but like im freaking out because i have anxiety and im tellin myself i have HPV or an stdd sooo pleasee helppppppp
and i am glad you told me not too worry you def. helped me out but i forgot to mention i have gotten eating out before only like 2 times for like a minute..the kid whoo did it to me has never done it b4 i was his first..and i kno every girl he has messed around with...and they are from my schoool and im pretty close with them they dont have herpes of the mouth so0o i shouldnt be worried rightt?
When being sexually active, you should never not worry. Unless you have never sexually touched another boy and the boy you are with has never sexually touched another girl, you should always be precautious. Don't get yourself in an uproar because you have been somewhat sexually active. Like I said before a simple trip to a health clinic once a year will rid yourself of the worries of any type of STD.
I'm no doctor, so I can't tell you what the bumps are from. But if they are worrying you, get it checked out.
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ok so to start off i have never had sex..ive never bled from my vagina before (besides my period) newayss im 14 and have gotten fingerd about 5 times...and recently on my hymen i feel 3 tiny tiny bumps they dont hurt but sometimes they do idno if its just cuz it irritated but like im freaking out cuz i ahve anxiety and im tellin myself i have HPV or an stdd sooo pleasee helppppppp
If the only sexual encounter you have had involves fingering, you probably don't have much to worry about as far as STDs go. However, i'm not gynocologist, so I can't tell you. Especially not over the internet =]
If you are genuinely worried, the best thing to do is to see an OB/GYN. You're fourteen, and whether or not you are sexually active or not, you should still see a gynocologist regulary. They will give you yearly pap spears, they will check you for cervical cancer, and they can rid you of all worries you have about your "downstairs". Talk to your om about going, and see what she says.
As far as the bumps, if you have started your period and you wear tampons, and you've been fingered, your hymen is probably breaking down. Though most don't know it, your hymen usually just doesn't "pop" all at once. It tears down over time from being fingered, wearing tampons, exercising, and a lot of things. Don't worry.
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okay well for christmas i really want a blue ipod nano, the second generation, with NO video. does anyone know where i can find one online? i cudnt find it at apple.com or target.com or bestbuy.com or overstock.com! plz help me find one?!
you should have been able to find it at apple.com but if you didn't, try ebay or walmart.com =]
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whats the best kind of toothpaste to use to have really really white teeth if i have yellow teeth?
I've been using Crest Whitening Expressions, but i've also been using Crest White Strips. Either way, my teeth are really white, so maybe try that.
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