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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
Oh, and ask me anything!
Advice
how long do you think a perfect sex should last,and please don't answer "as long as it should",i mean some girls say 30 min some say 20 min at lesat.and what is your ideal sex time?or what was the shortest sex period you had?
longest: 2 hours & 30 minutes.
shortest: 10 minutes.
"perfect sex" has nothing to do with the amount of time the sex actually lasts. it has to do with what all goes on during the long or short amount of time you had sex. for instance, the shortest sex could be 100 times better than the longer sex and vice versa.
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Hey i am 13/f and i am pregnant my baby is due in a week. No im not a slut or anything i would have kept my virginity until i was married but i was raped by my older sisters ex boyfriend. And I dont believe in abortion... my family is 100% supportive of this pregnancy and any decision i make. I just dont know if i wanna give him or her up for adoption. I really love the baby and i want whats best and i know that would to be with me because we have a good family and we have enough money to support the baby but i dont know if i will see the baby's dad in him or her and if it will scar me... I know its not the baby's fault. But anyway I could use support oh and baby names could help too! idk if its a boy or girl but i like names like nevaeh (nuh vey uh its heaven spelled backwards) and savannah and jayden, cayden, and skyler... anything else???
please help!!!
You are absolutely correct, it's not the baby's fault at all. It's the scum that did this to you. It may be hard to deal with the fact that you were raped, but imagine how hard it would be for the baby to realize that it was the product of rape. It's going to need it's real mother as much as you are going to need it. From the way it sounds, you want this baby just as much as I want you to keep it. [most likely much more] Once this baby pops out of you, I know you are going to want to keep him/her. Babies make all situations better in my opinion. Your family sounds really supportive and like you said, i'm sure they will stand by any decision you make. I would advise you to keep the baby. Don't focus on who the biological father is, focus on the love you will share with this beautiful baby. I know you are going to love him/her or else you wouldn't have picked out a name. I really love the name Nevaeh Skyler. It's beautiful.
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I am 17 years old i have a 2 month old daughter but i am married and have been for a year to the babys father. Well i have just come across a very serious problem. My husband i have been sleeping together but we used protection but i think i might be pregnant again is that possible. I am very scared. I know if i am everyone is going to say i am a slut and im so worried but wwe both have jobs and stuff but i am scared of what a=our families wil say what do i do.
you may be young, but you're also a mommy and a wife. sleeping with your husband does not mean you are a slut. it means you are affectionate. no one will call you a slut; and if they do, don't worry about it. because you know you aren't.
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ummmm well im a 15/f and i think that i may be pregnant and i know for sure that if i am and i tell the daddy he's going to say it not his(he's a bitch). Now normally i dont believe in abortion but i dont kno wat to do i mean my mom would be mad but she would help me but i dont know if im ready! they said that i can have it and take care of it, get an abortion, or adoption but i dont want to kill the baby or give it to someone els! im very confused! if i am how or should i tell the father??? should i keep it??? plz help me i dont know wat i should do!!!
first off calm down and relax. this is a sticky situation, but it's not an impossible one. you need to stick to your guns. if you don't want to have an abortion or put the baby up for adoption, then don't! this is your baby and this is your choice.
having a dad in someone's life is a great thing, but it's not a neccesity. tell him, even if he is a prick. he still has a right to know. if he denies it, don't push him. you and they baby is wayy better off without him anyways.
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ok i have had bad wrinkles and dark under eyes for a while now And im only 13! i have these chanel percision samples i got yesterday and started using it last night and this mornig does this wokr and is there anything else i can do any creams or anything?? no price range i will use anything
if you have no price range, try anything you can find for the problem. i don't know any right off hand, but research it on the internet, ask around, talk to your parents, whatever. there is no harm in trying if money isn't an issue.
try avon undereye circle treatment everynight for a week and see if that doesn anything for the eye problem. get a lot of sleep and eat healthy. which suprisingly can make a huge difference. also, when going out into the sun, makesure to wear plenty of sunblock & sunglasses.
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which is a more trusted brand:
trojan or lifestyles?
all condoms are trustworthy if used correctly. the brand really has nothing to do with the effectiveness.
they give you lifestyles at health departments when you go to get checked for stds, pregnancy, or birth control pills so obviously they are very trusted. trojans give you a more natural feel though.
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Can you get pregnant while on your period?
yes.
unlikely, but yes.
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what does it mean to be physically ready to have sex?
usually when a girl starts her period, she becomes physically ready. when a woman matures or hits puberty.
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I want to start shaving my bikini area. All of my my friends do but I'm a bit embarassed to ask them this!
You see, I'm just a bit, well, nervous, really about going around my bits with a sharp razor. For the first time, who wouldn't be? So I really need like a step by step guide. I've looked on the internet and I can't find much for teens that doesn't sound scary. Could any of you ladies out there help me? It needs to be quite detailed.
Much Love, FF. xx
i have answered this question SO many times it gets old. not trying to take it out on you, but good grief. next time you ask a question, try checking past questions that are similar and look at their answers.
1. Exfoliate.
- this gets rid of all dead or dry skin, making it less prone to getting nicked.
2. Lather Up.
- soap or shaving cream will do it. either one is fine and works about the same in my experience. make sure not to get it inside of you, just on the insides of your thighs and the top.
3. Trim.
- cut the hair as short as you can get it without cutting your skin. this makes it easier to remove the hair once you start using the razor.
4. Shave.
- use a fresh razor. dull razors hurt 10 times worse when you get cut with them. shave in a downwards motion first to thin out the hair. keep your legs together and hold the razor firmly. then put one leg up on top of the bathtub and shave your thighs and around the vagina. after that shave in an upwards motion to remove all the hair if you want.
5. Rinse.
- use clean water to rinse yourself off. then once you get out of the shower, apply baby powder and lotion. be careful not to get it inside of you, just on the top.
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What are the chances of being pregnant but still having your normal menstrual cycle?
slim to none.
but very possible.
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18/F
Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years. I really want to lose my virginity to him. He is not a virgin but obviously I am.
I've talked to him about it and he says its my decision and he will stand behind which ever I make. (Wait or Not Wait)
Half of me wants to do something, then the other half is just like worried. I know I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with this man.
What do you guys thimk I should do?
Also, I heard you bleed a lot when you lose it. He has a rather large penis. So will I bleed heavy like on my period? Or just a little? And if I put my pants on afterwards, will I bleed threw my pants?
Thanks.
if you have any doubts, don't have sex. that's what i tell everyone. if you know you'll be with this man for the rest of your life, there is plenty of time to decide and no reason to make a hurried decision that's going to change your life from here on.
if you do decide to have sex, don't worry about his penis size. make sure you are relaxed and well lubricated. this expands your vagina and prepares it for sex as well as reducing friction. you may bleed, some girls do. it should be nothing like a period, though. you may get a spot in your underwear at most, it shouldn't go through your pants.
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My face is peeling...and it's not because of sunburn! I put lotion on it but that made it worse. Is there any way to make it stop.
why is this under the sex category?
it should be under fashion/styles or something else, but not this.
anyways, try not to wear any foundation for a little while. there is also skin cream you can buy especially for that. try it. and keep applying lotion, even if you think it's making it worse. baby lotion is probably they best.
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where can i find those drinks?
you can order them at applebees, red lobster, olive garden, et cetera. i think to make them though, you have to have a drink maker. they aren't expensive (20 or 30 dollars maybe) but they may be hard to find at this time of year. try walmart or walgreens.
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Okay im 13 female and i stayed back this year in the 6th grade so im in that grade now.
I like this boy named Eric and i only see him on the bus cause were in diffrent grades but you cant help that :)anyway i see him on the bus and ill talk to him and ill give him personal information and ill start tallking about it a couple days later and he wont remember but sometimes he does.And like 2 months ago I told him i liked him right at the end of the bus well when it was my stop and when i did i talk SO fast i dont think he realy understode haha but all the said was okay and i was absent the next day cause i was tired and my BESTEST friend that i know would never lie to me said he ask her where i was.So he did think of me but wensday the first morning hes on the bus he sat across some other kid so i couldnt playing his gamey thing and never talked to me and a couple days later he still wouldnt talk to me.So i gave him a note about the magizeens he looks at and there just wrestling but theres liek half naked women on them so it made me feel horrible cause i not that pretty.and alot of other stuff was in that note and 3 days latter he then just started atalking to me after that.Now i dont want to keep shuving it his face that i like him.I donno i just think that if he really liked me he wouldve done something by now dont you think but then kim will say guys try to hide there emotions and stuff so im confused.We joke around and everything and we sit next to eachother sometimes and he'll try pushing me out and i dont know just kidding or not so.And he's already told another kid he likes kayla heitz but she moved last year to florida which is like half way aorund the country and beofre moving dumped him!!so yeah understandible but i just want someones opinoin do you think but how we are do you think he thinks of me the same way and just to tell you i have REALLY curly hair that wicked frizzy always in a pony tail fat face with glasses and im fat and when i mean fat is ikm really over weight and i just went to the hstpital for diabetes fat...so im not sure if he likes me or not and i have myspace...http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=99687693 thats mine and i hav pics for what i look like if it madders.....help haha
katie
i have a lot of questions; & this question wasn't checked for grammar error and it was very hard to follow. also, it was quite long and i don't have that much time these days.
i'm not going to give you an in depth answer, maybe ask someone with a little more time? but i will tell you this, i seen your myspace picture and i see nothing wrong with the way you look. no one is perfect, and size has nothing to do with your question at all. if he likes you, he likes you. ask him out, if he says no that's the worst that could happen.
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okay so im 13 turning 14. and i just wanted to know if there are such thing as drinks (with alc.) that us teens can drink at my party.. im having a birthday party and i dont want anything that will get us drunk or nothing but something that my parents would probably allow me to serve at my party. *anything tasty* =] thanks
you're 14. there is NO alcholic drink ANYWHERE that i know of that will legally allow you to drink. unless you parents are just that awesome. though i highly doubt they would let other teenagers drink with you, if by a slim chance they let you.
try virgin daquiris or marguarites.
those taste awesome! there the same as the regular drink, only without the small alcohol content, and if you don't want to get drunk, then what's the problem?
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Well I've told him that I really like him and stuff and he says yeah I know you do..
It's like wth you liked me a whole lot before and now what's different?
He said that he's just moved on and I have to many mood swings..Like at first I'm all happy and then next min. I'm all sad..
So I don't know. I just really wanna go out with him now. I don't know what it is.
if he said he's moved on, let him be. there are plenty of other guys out there that would love to be with you, i'm sure. give him time, eventually he will see what it is he's missing and once again, he'll want to come back to you.
i promise.
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ok... so i just put up a question.. but i think im going to ask you... you seem like a pretty cool girl.. and i normally give all my friends advice on what to do w/ their guys... and i have a hard time giving myself advice... so heres the story. I had a boyfriend last year.. his names matt... he asked me out the first night i met him and being myself i just thought y not hes really cute and seems really fun adn cool...well it was really weird because we didnt know eachother obviously so it didnt last... then after we broke up... he did w/ me... he started wanting me back... all his friends would come up to me during track practice and be like matt miss you will you take him back (of course i wore super short shorts and spandex-it was hot).. and i was like no he broke up w/ me... i wasnt being mean i was just like nah... so then we both got in new relationships both serious.. and when both of those ended we talked to eachother and gave eachother encouragment... he was really crushed... now weve hung out more... and ive caught him staring at me and is super excited when he sees me and he has told me im beautiful quite a few times... well now im going crazy over him and idk if he can tell i think he can.. because we were texting and i told him that basically i wish we would have known eachotehr better last time we were going out because i would have liked him alot more and he was like yeah it probably would have lasted longer.. then i said i sometimes had interest in him which is not sometims i was just not wanting to flat out say i like you... and he said he sometimes does too.... but i cant tell if he likes me i thought he did.. but now that i sent those texts i dont know... i really want him to be my boyfriend again but i dont know how to get him crazy about me again or what to say to him... i dont no if i should just ask him out after i hung out w/ him for a couple more times or what because ive never asked a guy out........... wow im sorry that was soo long i would keep typing but ill let u rest..... so please give me back some sence in boys im normally really good at this... and im really worried im going to scare him away
i think he still likes you. i would advise asking him out. what's the worst that could happen? just do it, i promise you won't regret it afterwards. maybe he was also afraid to flat out say he likes you too.
just ask him, flat out.
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okay so my friends are taking me to the clinic to get bc pills like sometime this month [november] and i just want a few tips on what to say and stuff .
be honest. & keep in mind, this is just what they did at the health department i went to.
when you first walk in, tell the woman/man at the desk that you would like to be put on birth control. she will ask you a few questions that should be relatively easy enough to answer. and then she will give you a form to fill out. it will ask questions about genetic disorders, diseases you may have, if you've been checked for certain illnesses, your period, and maybe some other stuff. once you fill out the paper, you will sit in the waiting room until they call you just like any other doctor's office. you'll go in, and the nurse will ask you some pretty personal questions. like STDs, how many people you've been sexually active with, when you lost your virginity, the date of the beggining and the ending of your last period, et cetera. then (s)he will probably take your blood pressure and temperature and stuff. after that you'll go into the examining room and they will give you an examination. but whatever you do, don't lie. the answers you give them are very important.
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why did they have to do that to you when you went to the clinic? sorry if im asking too many questions. =/
it's fine. i'm glad to see you like/trust my answers :]
i'm not 100% positive of the exact reason of the examination, but i'm pretty sure it's to check you for any cancer, complications, or whatever you may have in the future to make sure the pill won't hurt you.
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I know this isn't the right catagory but its the only one I could think of.
So anyway im a 14/f,
I masturbate every now and then, and I've looked at porn once or twice. Well my question is that if I get turned on by girls who doing sexual things with eachother does that make me a lesbian or bi or something? I have crushes on guys and I have a boyfriend and I've never had feelings for a girl, but I get turned on by girls doing stuff like that. Is this normal? Thank you so much for the help!
unless you find someone of the same sex emotionally as well as physically, i don't think being turned on buy gay contact is considered actually being gay. seriously. you are fine. just horny.
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