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alot happened between me and a guy..he end up taking my v card and its been 2-3 years, he ended friendship for no apparent reason..i have a opportunity to talk him again on facebook, like now i can add him and message he blocked me in the past..he hurt me alot. i used have feelings for this guy,and almost over him. i will always care for him tho. but in a relationship now with a new guy who treats me well and stuff. i feel guilty at thought of this..should i add the old guy and be friends again or let my heart ache little longer and get on with life eitherway with the new guy?

Ugh! I know exactly the type of situation you're in. I was with a guy and he was my first love. I thought we would be together forever and then he fell out of love with me. It was messy for a few years and I always pressured him for answers and he couldn't give them to me. It's been almost 6 years and I'm still left without answers... but now I'm married to a wonderful guy! And he treats me well - we still have our moments but I know for a fact he loves me whereas the other guy really hurt and scared me to ever be with someone again, knowing they would just fall out of love with you.

From my personal experience to you... move on. I've gone back and rekindled a FRIENDSHIP with my ex and we will always fight and get mad at each other and not talk for months and then be friends again, etc. and it's emotionally exhausting. Don't get in that habit. If you're with someone else and he treats you good, just leave it at that. It will always be the other guy's loss and for whatever reason you two are not meant to be with each other (at least for right now). It completely stinks, but there were reasons he blocked you (I've been there...) and perhaps later on in life you guys can be friends but right now just focus on what you have with your new relationship.

It hurts like hell, especially it being your first love. You will ALWAYS have a special place in your heart for him and I'm sure that's normal (because I feel the same way). But think back on the good times and if it helps you get over him, think of all the bad times too! He was a jerk! And you know you deserve way better than a guy who ended things with you for no apparent reason.

Keep your chin up and time heals everything. It might take awhile but trust me, if you're almost there don't look back. Nothing is back there--just keep moving forward.

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