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I met this guy online and we were kinda flirting (not proud of it since I usually don't trust many strangers online) but anyway I thought he was interesting and different because he gives sarcastic and witty remarks like I do but anyway after about 2 days of talking he just stopped. Then I texted him first and idk the way he typed changed-he seemed veeeery bored. Then after a few hours he changed his profile picture into him kissing this girl (it's in the title lmao). I'm not mad that he's kissing a girl, I just found it very rude. Should I just stop talking to him? Idk if I made sense anymore I'm just really weirded out and kinda pissed
The Answer
It's okay to be pissed, but let's talk reality.
The reality is, you met this guy online. You'd been talking for two days—and then he ghosted on you. It was clear he was less interested, and then you saw a picture that made you think he was into someone else.
It might hurt your feelings, but really, he didn't do anything wrong. You barely knew each other. He had a real life that was going on beyond text messages and chats. It doesn't sound like he made you any promises or commitments—you were just talking—and he was probably also talking to other girls. His photo change may have hurt your feelings, but it almost certainly wasn't directed at you, and he had every right to use that photo, or kiss some other girl. He didn't betray you in any way and it's not rude of him to go on living his life.
If you don't want to speak to him anymore, that is fine! You don't have to. You can be pissed at home things went, but you also have to take a deep breath and realize that just because you are pissed and disappointed, doesn't mean either of you did anything wrong. You were chatting with an almost-total-stranger online for two days. It was okay that you got your hopes up, and it's okay it didn't amount to anything.
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