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The Question
I have this guy friend, (that i really like but i'll save that for another day) who likes to talk with me about a lot of things. Recently he was talking about my good friend Kristina and how he thought she was moving too fast. Kristina has been hugging him a lot and holding him arm (almost clingy if you get what i mean) and laying her head on his shoulder in church. For my church that's really awkward and jaedon (the guy friend) finds it all too awkward and fast. he also said that he thinks they haven't been talking long enough. So i thought about telling Kristina, but i have never told anyone anything jaedon has said to me privately. They are both my friends and whenever me and him talked before it would always be someone i had no relation to. So i don't want to betray him by telling Kristina what he told me. But i also don't want to see my friend unhappy. What should i do?
Also i like jaedon a lot but i wouldn't want to date someone she likes (especially since so is a drama queen, like she calls this one girl who likes jaedon boyfriend stealer and satan... its bad lmao)
The Answer
It's probably best you do nothing.
Jaedon didn't ask you to interfere to help, and Kristina is almost guaranteed to perceive any comments as meddling or worse - as an attempt to steal her boyfriend.
Best to just relax. Give advice if it's asked for (without betraying confidence) and encourage Jaedon to stand up for his boundaries and comfort level. Right now, that is what Jaedon needs to hear: That it's okay to ask for his boundaries to be respected.
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