Razhie

"This is the true joy in life - being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances." --George Bernard Shaw

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My official name is Manda, but I've been Razhie for almost as long. I'm a 28 year old woman who didn't use to be half as confident or brazen as she is now.

My advice is pretty good, not always perfect and rarely censored.

I can read what is written. I cannot read your mind.

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Razhie. Advicenators Member Since: June 13, 2005. Answers: 5077. Visitors: 211514.

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The Question
16 female
I have been talking to this guy for about 6 months now but my mom says I can't date him because the police says he is on there watch list because he does drugs but I still have been talking to him via text and I just got in trouble because mom goes through my texts and told me if I continued she would take my phone and he sent me a text saying if I wanted him to still be my friend I had to send a naked picture but what if my mom sees it what should I do help?

The Answer
You should tell him that possessing a naked picture of a 16 year old is a crime, and that an guy who is so damn stupid that he is already on the watch list, probably shouldn't take the risk of possessing underage pornography.

Then block him. On everything. Everywhere. All social media, and on your phone and email.

A guy who says he wont be your friend or boyfriend unless you provide him with sexual activity or images, is a monster. No question. No grey zone. A bully, a predator and a monster.

Cut him loose. Keep yourself safe.

If you think your mom is going to find out about that text, do yourself a favour and tell her before she finds out on her own. That way you can tell her that you have finally woken up to what bad news this guy is, and are going to stay the hell away from him and his criminal, bullying ways. That will probably help to reduce her anger a good bit.
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(Rating: 5) My mom told me if I talked to him again she would ground me for 6 months I thought at first she was over reacting but now I see she was right and mabye I deserve to be grounded.

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