Razhie

"This is the true joy in life - being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances." --George Bernard Shaw

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My official name is Manda, but I've been Razhie for almost as long. I'm a 28 year old woman who didn't use to be half as confident or brazen as she is now.

My advice is pretty good, not always perfect and rarely censored.

I can read what is written. I cannot read your mind.

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Razhie. Advicenators Member Since: June 13, 2005. Answers: 5077. Visitors: 211514.

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The Question
We're all 16. Me and my bestfriend are both guys. At first, I hated this girl, since she was stealing my bestfriend, but we're cool now. Whenever she gets angry at my bestfriend she goes to me and asks for comfort, and as a friend, I give that to her. The weird thing is, after every time I comfort her, she says "I love you" Then smiles. Is it weird? I think it's just because I'm her bestfriend? PLEASE HELP MEEE

The Answer
If it's making you uncomfortable, ask her to stop.

It could be totally normal and harmless, but it's okay to trust your gut. If you don't like it, tell her kindly that although you are very dear friends and care for her, you are uncomfortable with the love word in your friendship. (Especially if she's only pulling it out when she's upset with her boyfriend.)

It's okay to stand up for the kind of boundaries you want in your own relationship.
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(Rating: 5) aww thanks I appreciate that :-)

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