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I have been dating this really sweet guy for a few months. But my mom won't accept him cause she thinks I deserve better. In her head she thinks I'm something special just because I'm pretty,quite intelligent and study medicine. He may not go to college,but he is hardworking and he really cares about me. The main reason she won't accept him is that he wears hearing aid,which to her makes him disabled. I honestly couldn't care less about that,just because he lost his hearing due to an accident doesn't make him a bad person. Also she minds because he is from a village and I'm from a city. She thinks he wants to take me away from them and trap me as a housewife. In short,she demonizes him because of some prejudice and she has never even met him. I tried talking some sense into her but she sticks to her opinion.
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Why are you taking her seriously?
She's not being serious. She's being a bigot and you know it.
Stop trying to argue with her. She's not being serious and you know it. You can't argue with a bigot. The truth doesn't matter to her.
Give up - for now. As long as she isn't openly disrespecting you and trying to interfere with your relationship, just ignore her. She is not behaving reasonably or respectfully, so you should ignore her. It would be nice if she supported you, maybe one day she will, but until that day, don't give her credit and power she doesn't deserve.
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