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The Question
Im 20 and a female, i will be using letters (v) and (k) for the guys
this guy (v) i been talking to is all that i could ask for he's the man of my dreams i could say but we haven't gotten to love, but i like him a lot.
the story twist around now
i was talking to this other guy (k) before (v), and (k) was a cool man but he started to get super crazy controlling and assumed i was having sex with other people, the crazy thing about that is, me and (k) haven't had sex haven't kissed let alone we haven't even said we were together like boyfriend girlfriend.
me being 20 i gave him a chance
so i meet (v) around the time where i told (k) we can no longer talk but (k) is now extremely cray like saying he's going to shot up my house and spit on me if he see me on the streets..
so I'm no with (v)
and (k) describes what I'm wearing and what i did during the day he even knew when my cousin got suspended from school… this is so crazy he won't leave me alone he sends me text saying he loves me then say he hope i die and i got sick of it one day i got my gun and told him to grant his threat n come shoot up my house i was waiting he called back said he was playing… so it died down he say he loves me and wyd babe i don't reply but I'm still kinda scared to let this slip away
i told (v)
like any man would do he said if he sees him he's go beat his a@&
but i want to know should i wait or do something quick
The Answer
The moment anything else happens, you call the police on a non-emergency line, and report what K is doing. He is stalking you, harassing you, and threatening your life.
If it's died down now, fine, but if he is still contacting you with his fake niceness, then it's not really done yet.
No fooling here hun. The next creepy thing he does, you call the cops. You keep calling them and reporting each new terrifying crazy thing K does until they take you seriously. You also tell your friends, family, school and co-workers a bit about what K is doing, so they know not to support his crazy or talk to him about you.
You keep yourself safe by refusing to be ashamed - you haven't done anything wrong! Keep yourself sane by placing ALL the blame exactly where it belongs: On K. There is no excuse at all for what he is doing, so don't let yourself make any excuses. Start treating this like what it is - criminal harassment.
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