Razhie

"This is the true joy in life - being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances." --George Bernard Shaw

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My official name is Manda, but I've been Razhie for almost as long. I'm a 28 year old woman who didn't use to be half as confident or brazen as she is now.

My advice is pretty good, not always perfect and rarely censored.

I can read what is written. I cannot read your mind.

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Razhie. Advicenators Member Since: June 13, 2005. Answers: 5077. Visitors: 211514.

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The Question
Hi there. I'm in a long distance relationship and this past Valentines I had sent photos and videos. Very tasteful. Anyways he said he would call me. And he never did. He did send me a video wishing me a Happy Valentine's and he loves me and blah. He liked all my photos on Instagram also which was nice. However. He never did call me like he promised. And since that video Saturday night. He hasn't texted or anything. He has been on his pages and his Instagram and all that. But hasn't said a peep to me. Should I wait on him to message me? Or take this as a hint that he doesn't want to be with me...?
Or go on a limb and just assume he hasn't had time to text me? Seriously. He logs in his Instagram several times a day. Yet doesn't have time to text me..
How or what do I do? I can't send another message or anything.....
Any ideas?

The Answer
He's just not that into you.

If your boyfriend hasn't bothered to contact you in several days, including not calling when he said he would on Valentines, than you should ask yourself whether or not he is good boyfriend material.

Also, you need to assume he probably not that into you.

It's not reasonable to expect a person in a long distance relationship to contact you every single day or text back immediately, every single time. People have to live their lives. But it is reasonable to expect someone to keep their word and contact you when they said they were going to.

You COULD send another message. There is no law against it. If I were you, I'd be asking him very directly if he is all right, because he didn't call when he said he would, or since then, and surely something must be really wrong, because he wouldn't be so rude and inconsiderate unless he had a decent reason - right?
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(Rating: 5) Hmm. Good advice. Thank you!!


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