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Hi, I'm 19 f.

I've been away from the US for 10 years. All my relatives are in the USA so now that I'm back to go to college here, I suddenly have a family to see during vacations. Last year, we had Thanksgiving with my aunt's family.

My problem is that I'm generally shy and I don't know how to have fun. I have three cousins who are aged 8, 14 and 16. Last Thanksgiving it was really awkward- I know I'm meant to be older so be in charge but I just don't know how to have fun with my cousins or kids/teenagers in general. We ended up playing monopoly with the adults and then eating.

How should I behave during family Thanksgivings and what activities can I do with my cousins that would be fun?

Thanks, any advice would be appreciated.

Also, Happy Halloween.

I would contact your cousins before hand before Thanksgiving and ask them what they like to do for fun you won't know until you ask by asking you'll be more prepared and have a good idea of what to do when the time comes for you to be with them you'll also have peace of mind and feel relived you could also search online for activities to do another thing is asking around getting different opinions from people i don't think anyone can tell you how to behave because you are your own person but what i can say is try and loosen up try and have fun your cousins are your family not strangers i doubt they'll judge you look down on you that isn't what Thanksgiving is about try not to focus on being shy or not knowing how to have fun if you do you'll overthink and freak yourself out do your best to really try and enjoy your families cousins company

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for your advice :)

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