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The last time I logged on here I was 21. Im almost 30 now. Wow I thought I was well put together at that time. I wasn’t. I was looking for validation in being right, or proving that I had the solutions to problems. I didn’t. It makes me think about all the times I went looking for answers online and who was on the other end of that answer. Was it someone like my 21 year old self who didn’t know anything? Be careful out there, friends, and I hope you get the answers you’re looking for.
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So there's this guy that I work with. I'm 18, he's 22. He's a sarcastic person but I've noticed that his sarcasm toward me is mean but his sarcasm toward everyone else at work is nice or funny. He found out that I think he's cute so I was beginning o think that he was mean to me because he was trying to make himself look ugly to me or something. But today, I was working self checkout and he came over and asked if I could ring out his lunch, so jokingly sighed and he said "it's a shame that I make you work while at work, huh?" I bet you really hate me." I didn't answer him and he said "I'll take that as a yes" so I was a sarcastic bitch back and said "I mean, I've always hated you" but I smiled and he said "you're so mean. all you have to do is talk more. I get that you're shy and everything but you can be nicer" and I said back that he's mean all the time so I don't have to be nice and he walked away and didn't say anything. I was just wondering what that was. Like, I not shy toward him, I just don't talk much. So, was he dropping a hint at something, that if I talked more, he'd be nicer or what? I'm so confused. (link)
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Maybe if you're just normally a quiet person he's sarcastic to you to try and get you to talk. He might not realize that you think he's being mean to you. He may even think that because you don't talk a lot that you're the one being mean. (not that you are.)
That interaction didn't sound totally mean but it didn't sound nice either. Perhaps you could try and talk to him normally without the sarcasm and see how it goes.
Usually I find that sarcasm and joking is a way for people to talk that don't know each other very well. It's not the "real" person, so to speak. You may actually like each other and get along well if you just have a conversation!
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Rating: 5
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I try to talk and be nice, I think it's just second nature for him now to have a snappy remark to me. Thanks, though!
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