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So I've been talking to/hooking up with this guy that I met about a month ago. We have good chemistry together and don't seem to ever run out of things to talk about so things are going well between us. The thing is that he's 33 and I'm 19.
We've already had sex once but we're making plans to have a sleepover together soon and I was just seeking some advice as to what older guys might like in bed.. I know everybody has their own preference, and we're comfortable with each other so I can ask questions (like "do you like when I do that/what do you want me to do"), but what may be something that could kind of 'wow' him from me?
Being younger, I definitely don't think I'm as experienced as he is. My sex life for the past 2 1/2 years has been with the same guy, my ex-boyfriend, so I'm a little nervous that what I'm used to may be a little boring.
Any tips would be appreciated.. thanks! (link)
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This question is sort of difficult to answer because, like you said, everyone has their own unique preferences.
In my own experience, my boyfriend's preferences haven't really changed with age, I've just found out that he like things (that maybe he didnt even know he liked) by experimenting.
The thing is, with this guy you're seeing, he probably already knows what he likes so, don't be afraid to ask him! It will get all the awkwardness out of the way and on to enjoying the sex.
I have found that with the guys that I've been with, a lot of touching is always good. And I'm not talking about just sexual touching, I mean like a massage, or just rubbing your hands all over. Don't be afraid to go everywhere! It's a loving gesture and can feel extremely erotic in the right mood.
Another big one is to just not hold back. Take the lead and get a little rough every once in a while. Make sure it's not just one person putting in the effort. And don't be shy or afraid to try something new, if he suggests it!
Again, all of this is just from what I've experienced in my life, I can't say for sure that "guys that are 33 years old like this one position" (lol), but it has worked for me and I hope it works for you!
Best of wishes!
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hahaha thanks! I appreciate it! you've made some good points, especially with the touching because I know he's big on massages and I sort of dismissed that until now.
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