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Q: Hey, 18/f
Okay so basically I'm just wondering is it necessary to tell your boyfriend EVERYTHING?
We have been together for two and a half years and he knows pretty much everything about me as do I him.
But there is one particular incident in my past that I don't feel comfortable discussing with anyone. I don't want him to think differently of me telling him about it just isn't an option.
He asked me before had I any secrets and I just said no then he said If I had then all of this is for nothing.
It's not like I'm lying to him or anything there are just certain things I like to keep private. Surely that's allowed?
I asked my mum and even she says she has stuff my dad doesn't know about.
Does this make me a bad person?It's literally just this one thing.
Any advice appreciated thank you in advance.

It isn't bad to have at least some privacy. My boyfriend and I are the same way. We are very open with each other. I tell him things I never have told my mom or my closest friends. Although there is a certain extent to what you can and can't tell, I don't think you are a bad person. My boyfriend doesn't want to hear about my past sexual experiences, and I don't want to hear about his. We made a deal before we dated so we didn't get jealous. I have about one or two things I have kept from him for a while. But it isn't life threatening or threatening to our relationship.

The past is the past. It makes no sense to dwell on it and mention it. If he asks about your past, tell him it is already happened and does not need to be discussed, and that you're only looking forward to the future and the present with him. There is nothing bad about wanting some privacy on a uncomfortable situation. I hope I helped!

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