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Q: So their is this girl that I really like a lot. I even have/had her brothers approval because he is my good friend and I wanted to make sure he was fine with it. Everything has been going very well, talking, even went out for a day and we both wanted to go out again. It was all going good until the other day when I got upset about something I have...
This girl really makes me feel happy and I didn't want this stupid condition to ever effect her if things ever went that far. I don't want it for anyone. So I was looking up a complete cure for it. Of course I knew their probably wasn't but I figured what the hell maybe their is...
So I looked it up and found some books on fully preventing it from happening. You still have it but it wont pass or happen if you do certain things with your life stile. I was skeptical so I figured I would wait. In fact I was going to ask the question on here. So I minimized the links and put a password on my computer and went to classes for the day.
I got home really late and opened my computer to do something and then left it unlocked spacing what was on their. Him and his roommate came over to get my roommate and I to play some cards. He said "Before we go you need a new background" and he opened my minimized explorer...
Of course he sees what I looking at. I don't know what to do. Or how he feels about me anymore. To cut to the chase it is, it is herpes. I hate it and it really sucks. I have only had sex with one girl and He she had only had it with two before me. I regret my choice not to wait until marriage but that is forgivable in a way. Well depending on the girl you find. And now I feel like since I have this and he knows I will not be good enough for his sister. Nor will she even want me. I wasn't going to hide it from her of course. But I figured if I at least found a way to completely prevent it from being contagious and happening I would be okay.
What should I do. I feel like I went from being on top of everything, to not being able to eat and I feel like crying my eyes out finishing this. I cried myself to sleep last night. I just don't want this condition anymore. It sucks and it is killing me inside... I feel like I will never find love because of it.
Having an STD is a very hard thing to deal with. But if this girl makes you truly happy and she likes you, what does it matter? Love is accepting someone for their true self, whether they have a disease or not. If you and her brother are good friends, he should also accept you for you no matter what. If not, then the friendship was never worth it.

I'm sure he didn't care, because you did not mention his reaction much, but who knows. How do you know if you're not good enough? I'm sure she will understand. All you have to do is tell her how you feel. Tell her that you really enjoy being around her and would like to have more than a friendship, and when you begin to feel comfortable, tell her that everyone makes mistakes, and tell her your story, and you hope she will accept you even if you have a disease. Be honest. Girls like honesty. I wish you good luck. My inbox is always open if you need to talk! xoxoxo

I thank you. It is a lot worse than I said but I think I will be ok.

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romeoandrebecca
Hi! I'm Selina!


I've been through so much in my life, and these experiences have made me stronger... I love music, sunshine, and videogames.

I'm a pretty friendly, loving person and I'm here for anyone when they need it. I'm honest and I'm always open, so just inbox me!

Happiness is what I aim for.

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