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The Question
My girlfriend bought me a watch for my birthday and told me it was really expensive. I am really into watches and I do like the watch itself.
However she eventually told me it was limited edition and it was worth £800. I've recently found out that the watch is actually only worth £250.
Should I be upset about this? I know its the thought that counts and I'm still chuffed about her buying me this watch but why has she lied to me?
The Answer
A simple suggestion: She might not have known.
Of course, you'd be the better judge of this, but it's very possible that she, not being as into watches as you are, had her ignorance taken advantage of and didn't do enough price comparision.
It does happen. It's one of the risks we take when we buy someone a gift in thier area of interest and expertise, but not our own.
If she lied to you, then yes, it's understable to be upset, and you need to have an honest conversation about why she felt lying was necessary (Have you bought her over the top gifts and she felt embaressed she couldn't keep up finacially? I've had boyfriends do this and can be hard to handle if you have much less money than your partner to spend on gifts) but unless you know for certain what she spent, it might be worth it to give her the benifit of the doubt.
Maybe in the future - even though it would ruin the surprise - you could give her a bit more guidance in what you want, where to get it, and how much it should cost.
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