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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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Thank you for the advice! Normally, I would've told him everything and asked him everything in the first place, but I'm too scared to. Yes, I know it's natural to be, but not usually for me. I've been known to take risks.. but I really don't want to screw anything up like, with our friendship... the little friendship we have. I just want everything to go back to the way it used to be, when we were just talking casually. I know you're probably going to tell me to tell HIM that, not you. And I really should, because that's the same advice I just gave someone else on here. I just don't wanna ruin anything. What if I do tell him everything, and he says that we shouldn't talk anymore? I know, I can hear it now, "if that's how he's going to be, then forget about him! He's not the only guy in the world". But I still don't understand why he would've wasted his time in the first place! If he thought the age thing was weird, why would he (for lack of better words) lead me on like that?
youre very welcome :] and okay. i'll relate my life to your situation..
i went out with this guy frehsman year, it was awkward.. we only communicated via technology and i broke up with him via technology haha [it only seemed like the right thing to do] and we legit cut off all communication, i honestly never thought wed talk ever again, but then.. senior year, this year, we started talking again and ive been with him for almost 6 months now :] ANYTHING can happen. im a true believer in that, so dont think that it could never happen, because i think it could, and not just for that reason but i also think it could work because you guys have talked and you have a bit of a friendship with him, so its not like you are both perfect strangers who youve been admiring from a far, yuh know ?
and yes, i know how you feel. im not going to tell you to tell him how you feel right now as in right this second after you read this, but i am going to tell you that you probably should sometime in the future, when you have the confidence to. yeah, youre probably always going to be scared shitless to say anything to him about your feelings, but if you build a better friendship with him and let it go for now, your chances of possibly being with him will definitely get better. so i say wait. thats my vote. talk to him like this never happened and go from there.. everything will fall back into place, trust me.
and okay. lets say you DID tell him everything and he DOES say that you guys shouldnt talk anymore .. then let it go. yeah, hes not the only guy in the world, but if this were to happen, then why keep trying ? being rejected is not fun, and some guys get off on knowing they can get girls to like them.. even though that guy may seem totally different, theyre not. [not all of them, but just some] if he was leading you on, it was for his benefit and for his e-go boost. yeah that sucks, but thats reality. i mean, everyone likes being liked.. its undeniable, so knowing or having a hunch that you like him couldve made him feel more confident and he likes having people like him.. but this is all IF he told you that you guys shouldnt talk anymore..
which PROBABLY wouldnt happen. most guys dont just say that, because its way too harsh.. and from what youve told me, he seems really chill and nice. i dont even think he wouldnt want to talk to you anymore, i mean, it could be awkward for a couple days, but i really think that since he's "different" than the average jock, hed be sweet to you and not even be like.. well eff off. yuh know ? i think youre psyching yourslef out with the what ifs. just go with the flow :] he probably wants to be your friend and not have anything be weird, so just think about that.
good luck ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
(Rating: 5) Wow I'd ask you if I could marry you, but that PROBABLY wouldn't be a good idea haha. You're awesome, and you give the best advice on here!! :)