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My son is 4 years old not even close to 5 yet. He is involed in a pre school. He has a speech problem which got better with speech therepy but his ear drum had burst and they put new tubes in but his speech has gotten worse again. He doesnt try or doesnt even focus in school. His teacher and speech teacher say they know he could do it and get better if hed just try. I cut the sugar way down in his diet no soda or anything. he can have a little sugar like every other day. His behavior is awful you can tell him the same thing 20 times and he still wont listen. if he finds something he likes hell do it. he unloaded a truck of wood the other day then swept the truck out didnt want any help and did it all him self. wouldnt stop until it was all done. hes a good kid i just dont know what to do about his behavior its getting so hard to handle. I think he has ADHD his doctor thinks so to. He did blood work that showed his thyriod elevated and is sending him to a Behavioral clinic to be evaluated. but all this stuff takes so long. (link)
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Hi, I am qualified and experienced in both junior school teaching (5-7 year olds), and audiology (hearing testing and hearing aids), just to let you know a bit about where this advice is coming from.
I really feel that you need to get him to an audiologist for a complete hearing test. Not just a tympanogram where they check the ear drum.
I have seen a case like this before, where the boy was so severly deaf, yet it never got picked up until I tested him at 12, at a country show, for free. The sad thing was, by that stage he was in foster care, and was continually being shifted from family to family due to his poor behaviour.
The reason people didn't click that he was deaf was because he was very good at lip reading and also reading peoples behaviour.
The reason people thought he had crappy behaviour was because they could be right behind him and talk to him and it seemed as if he just wanted to do his own thing and was ignoring him.
Try a couple of things.
When he isn't facing you, but is in the kitchen with you, drop something that will make a really loud noise, or bang two pot lids together and see if he turns around. He may, and still have a hearing loss, but just may need sounds loud to hear them.
Sometimes when he is sitting very close to you, whisper quietly that you want him to pass you something, or point at something in a book. Or maybe ask him if he wants a piece of chocolate. See if you get a response. Do this first into his right ear, and then on another occasion into his left ear, and see if there is a difference. Sometimes only one ear can have a loss.
but really the best thing is to visit an audiologist, and soon!
There is so much I want to say to you about this! If you want my email address to discuss this out of this site, let me know.
Next, there is a condition called Auditory Processing Disorder (APD) its when they can hear but the brain doesn't really make sense of what it is hearing very well. Talk to the audiologist about that. I didn't work with people with that condition, so you need to find someone who does, to get better advice on it, but it is definately something that you should ask about, because he does have some unusual symptoms that sound similiar to those of people with APD.
Next, A mountain of research has proven that sugar doesn't amp up kids, its the food colourings and preservatives and additives.
So a spoonful of sugar may be fine, but 3 or 4 drops of red food colouring in a glass of water may send him wacky.
An incredible book which I really recommend is called The Chemical Maze. Very easy to follow, and it tells you about different chemicals to avoid in foods, to help eliminate particular behaviours/problems etc. And it's easy to do!
Also, I was wondering if he may be gifted? Now before you laugh, gifted kids who are bored get into all sorts of trouble! And if he has a hearing loss or something along those lines, and is gifted you will be getting all sorts of craziness! I wondered about this after you described how he unloaded the truck of wood by himself. Also giftedness isn't just someone who is good at reading or writing. You can have a gifted person who has dyslexia and yet can be a brillian gymnast or build something really well. Giftedness comes in all shapes and forms, and you can get Twice Exceptional kids, those who have some kind of difficulty, but still do other things really well for their ages.
You can get his IQ tested by a psychologist, but I recommend looking up the Gifted Association or whatever you have like that in your city/country and getting them to recommend a psychologist who specialises in gifted kids, because sometimes regular psychs refuse to test kids, saying they are too young. If a kid is gifted, they are not too young, as they work at a much higher level, and an experienced psychologist will know this, and will recognise behaviours from what you tell them and what they see anyway.
I know this may all seem random, as I haven't mentioned ADHD, but it is really only fair to your son that you check these things first, before they stick him on any kind of drugs.
Please write back through the 'ask bewise a question' button if you have more to say or have further questions.
I hope this helps!
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thank you and im not sure if he is gifted
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