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Okay I was dating this guy for 7 months. We dated 3, almost 4 years ago and we broke up because his mom said our maturity levels were completely different. I was 14 and he was 17.

Now Im 17 & hes 20.

The day after we broke up, he made me a pinky promise that he would propose to me on my graduation day in 2011.

A couple of months ago, he came by to see my family because while we dated, my family got really attached to him. When he came over, I got butterflies, and I felt as if my knees could colopase. Its been 3 years, and yet he still gets to me. The way he says my name made my heart skip beats like crazy, and the way he smells just gives me chills. Butt we was sitting in his truck and he was bringin back old memories that I barely remembered, and that made me happy because he didnt forget. He told me once again that the pinky promise he made me was still going to happen, and that he was going to ask me back out when I was 18 because of the age thing. He cried, and he said he was still in love with me, and it scares him because he has got over all the girls he has dated, but not me.

Why do I still have feelings for him? Are my feelings real, or was I just excited and nervous to see him? And how do I know if he's being serious? He broke my heart once, I dont want it to happen again.

Yes i do think your feelings are real i think you
still have feelings for him because you didn't get over him fully even though it's been 3 years
it could of been also because you were excited and
nervous that's a possiblity he wouldn't of said that he was going to propose to you or he would ask you back out again if it wasn't true i think he plans on keeping his promise i don't think he'd go back on his word & break the promise after he already made it and told you there's nothing you two can do about the age difference expect wait until your legal he's serious because he said that he's still in love with you and he never got over you he wouldn't say it for the sake of saying it..it seems like he meant it yes he broke your heart but there was nothing you or him could do about the age difference at the time it was one of those things that you had no control over he deserves another chance to prove
to you that you can trust him and that things will change and the past won't repeat itself(:

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your opinion! Im just not too sure on how things will go for us. When we dated, he was great; but after these 3 years he has changed, sadly for the worse. He's a manwhore now, and according to his cousin, he cheats on girls now, which before he never did, atleast I wasn't aware of it. Im scared if I get with him, he will end up cheating on me, and Im going to feel like an idiot. As for the age difference for when we first started dating, it kind of seemed like a lame excuse to break up with me for because I was 14 when he asked me out in Sept, and he was 17. I turned 15 that Novemeber, and he was going to turn 18 in June; The age should have been brought to his attention before he asked me out, rather than 7 months later, ya know? I dont know. Now when I try to call or text him, he doesn't answer my calls, but when I dont answer his, he gets mad. Texting wise, he's very short with me, and he's hard to keep conversation with. Its like he goes weeks without talking to me, and month later, he acts as if nothing happened. Its confusing. :(

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