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Ok my boyfriend broke up with me at the end of last month. I was heartbroken, although I felt it coming. We had been dating for almost 4 months, but we had been trying to get together for around 3/4 months before hand (It was quite difficult for us to be together, his friend was madly in love with me) We dated for around 2 weeks at one point, then we fell out with eachother & didn't speak again until he contacted me almost 3 months later. Throughout that time I could not get over him - as much as I wanted to. I still thought about him every day. So we've liked eachother a long time & he told me he was falling in love with me. Literally one day he was saying I was perfect, he'd never been happier with a girl, 2 days later he seemed a bit off with me. I asked if anything was wrong and he said no he's just been confused and stressed out lately. I thought I would leave him to deal with things in his own way & he'd come round again, but he didn't. I asked him whether he still wanted to be with me since he hadn't spoken to me in days & he said he likes me a lot, but he wasn't sure how he feels anymore. My personal opinion is that he didn't want a relationship anymore, he has never committed to anyone like he did with me so I think it got too much for him. His reasons were that he didn't really know what he wanted & was confused about the way he felt. When we broke up he was very persistent that we stayed friends however I told him I couldn't be friends with him because it would be too difficult for me. He was pretty angry that I didn't want to be friends, but I felt that he had chosen to end the relationship & I respected that (whether I wanted that or not) so he should respect my decision to also end the friendship. Although now I regret it, because I feel like I have lost him completely. I don't want people to say "Just move on" "Get on with your life" Yes, I am getting on with my life & eventually i'm sure I will move on, but it's going to be really hard for me, I couldn't get over him the last time. We haven't spoken at all in 2 weeks now & my thoughts were to wait another 2 weeks & if he doesn't contact me I will move forward without him. Do you think this is a good idea? Also, do you think the whole "No Contact" will make him miss/appreciate me? Thanks :-)

Yes i do think that having no contact with him will
make him miss you and appreciate you that's possible seeing as he wanted to be friends with you after the both of you broke up i think you should wait and see what happens if he doesn't contact you then yes move forward ending a relationship is never
easy so of course it's going to be tough for you seeing as you couldn't get over him the last time
but the best thing you can do is be patient and wait
things could change and not end up like how your thinking they will(:

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