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HEY!! U can call me Nikki
Im from that little water state. Im fifteen and a sophmore. I can connect with most teens and their problems but also i think older people need to be open to advice from younger minds as well..so give us a chance. =] I like helping people and giving advice is the one the best ways to help. Ask me anything, i may not always have an answer but ill try. I put in thought and time on the question being asked, something id like people to also do for me. So tell me little pieces of your life and ill see if i can try and put them back together. ;]

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So I'm the type of person that says "I love you" a lot. Like, my family's as dysfunctional as can be, but I always make sure to say it before I leave the house or hang up the phone. I say it to my best of friends whenever I say "bye," and whenever even an acquaintance makes me laugh or does something nice for me, I'm always like, "holy crap, I love you," and I mean it.

I met this guy in late September and we went on our first date less than two weeks after meeting. Because we talked nearly nonstop over text and IM, we were super, super comfortable with each other by the second date. We saw each other unofficially for four weeks and have been officially dating for nearly three weeks. This is my first serious relationship (I'm 16) though he's had a few girlfriends before me (he's 18).

I'm not one to overcomplicate love (obviously). You don't have to love everything about a person to love them. This guy is the sweetest-- he compliments me constantly, isn't afraid of PDA (romantic kisses goodbye, not makeout sessions), would do anything for me, and would never want to intentionally hurt me. He's not "in it to hit it" either-- he knows I'm abstaining until marriage and he's fine with that, and we didn't even kiss until the third date.

What I'm saying is, I know I love him, but is there a clear difference in the love you feel inside when loving someone as a person and loving someone romantically? He makes me happy, and I want to spend every second talking to him and just being with him. And I could not STAND to see him with another girl. But what qualifies love to be romantic rather than loving someone as a person? Have I already crossed it?

Also, how soon is "too soon" to say it? I know his family says it a lot too, and he says it to his family in front of me, so I know he's not uncomfortable saying it. But I don't want to freak him out.

Any advice whatsoever appreciated, or past experiences :) Thanks so much!

DONT SAY IT. ive heard guys get really freaked out by that stuff. theyll say whoa this girl just told me she loved me and thats crazy. or they will say it back to their girlfriend and then youll hear them saying yeah i tell my girl i love her but i dont really love her, i just tell her that to make her happy. Its only been 3 weeks. say it when its been like a year.. so it doesnt creep him out.

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(Rating: 3) a year's a very, very long time. if you dont love someone by then you shouldn't be in a relationship with them. but i was planning on waiting anyway:)
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