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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

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Saturday, Sept. 5th is the day I lost my virginity. I wanted it to happen though but now I don't know how to feel about it. My boyfriend and me lost ours to each other so it wasn't really awkward because it was comforting that neither one of us knew exactly what to do. To be honest I'm kind of disappointed, I wanted it to happen (I'm very sexual girl), I felt I was ready (which I was), I felt he was the right guy (which I still do) but it was nothing like I expected or wanted. I'm left with this empty feeling about it but what really gets me is he isn't. He's all cool about it. I don't know what to say to him about it w/o blowing his hype about the whole thing. I need some help here or just someone to talk to about everything. I haven't told anybody nor has he. What we do is our business but I figure I'll feel better if I talk to someone about it.

Of course you can talk to me !
This was a big deal. You lost a special thing to you, and now you both have a "piece" of eachother, so-to-speak.
But the truth of the matter is, us girls take these things harder than guys do. Some boys don't think about it as much as we do, it ust depends on the guy. I'm not saying that your boyfriend doesn't care about it as much as you do, but a lot of guys don't. We feel more strongly and intensly about it because we are very emotionaly people. It has been proven that from a young age, boys were taught to be stronger and masculine [obviously] and girls more feminine and sensitive to these things.
It's also probably just his way of dealing with it. And thinking about it. So he acts cool with the entire thing because he doesn't want to make it a big deal.
I think you should talk to him about it. Because if you don't tell him how you feel or ask him what he's feeling, you'll always be wondering these things and have these questions in your mind. Don't worry about what he'll say, this is FOR YOU and what YOU need to do.
good luck ! communication is key. And vent away :] I'm always here to listen. xxo.

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(Rating: 5) You made me feel better a bit better about my situation, I think I will talk to him about it. Thank you so much.
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