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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
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Heyy..I stumbled across your column and seen some of your advice and thought Id ask you I hope you dont mind,its just it wasnt showing up publicly when I asked it for some reason
this might be long so sorry but I have to explain it all as best and short I can!

so the title pretty much says it..
my bestfriend who ive litteraly been friends with since I was a baby is moving school.
we go to an all girls school in the city (we live about 20-30minutes outside it) there is a mixed school about 5minutes away from where we live but its not considered to be one of the best if you know what I mean like its pretty much a bunch of wasters out there if im to be blunt heh,
anyway so were going into our 5th year of school (Im not sure what that is in schools elsewhere but its our second last year of school and were 16.)
so she was in out present school up until now so 4years but she always talked about wanting to go to the mixed school but she was never allowed,none of us really knew why she wanted to move because she was happy in our school and its not like we dont have any guy friends theres guys schools right around the corner from us and we know alot of guys out where we live,but her mum and dad eventually gave in and so shes moving. school starts back this thursday and I honestly dont know what im going to do,i mean dont get me wrong ive got alot of other friends too but its not the same if you know what i mean.
like id come into school and wed rush to find each other to tell each other something,wed always go in to school on the first day with each other,i guess im just going to feel lost i dont know how to describe it,everyone always has say their group of friends right and everyone gets on,but like each person has a best friend that they pair up with for stuff if you get me?
its just going to be weird without her.
im also worried were going to drift apart,like we live 10minutes apart but its different when were not in school together we will be doing our own thing we talked and we both promised not to let anything come between us but i cant help feeling that we will drift and become per ocupied with other friends,im worried she will change too because she takes on a different personality around certain people that go to her new school its not good for her,everyones saying it she knows herself she wont work out there either guys there and theese next 2years in school are really important (lol sorry i dont mean to come across as a nerd or anything but you know)
were texting now at the moment and she was sayin how shes depressed,and I said why she said its just starting a new school and end of summer and that.
I asked her was she nervous about school cos thats normal(even though we know alota people who go there) and that i feel the same about summer..
she text back no "its u im gonna miss u :("
so im in tears now..I dont know how to handle this? anyone been in a similar situation?school actually wont be the same we had such a laugh together,lately shes been having second thoughts and whenever people ask her why she wanted to move she hasnt got an answer..ugh I just dont know. I dont even know what im asking at this stage think im just venting... have you any advice? or ever been in this type of a situation..?
so sorry this is so long too
Thanks in advance.
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It's absolutley no problem :] anytime you need to talk, just inbox me ! hahaa. i don't mind at allll.
Okay, so I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm in public school and my best friend decided to enroll in a private school. The private school is about 15-30 minutes away, so it's not like I could just be like heyy come visit me or vice versa. It really sucked when she told me, but she wanted a better education, yuh know ? Her aim has always been to get into an ivy league college, and I supported her in her decision, but I was REALLY upset. The thought of going to school without seeing my best friend there sucked. It's like, she was always there when I was crying and when I needed to vent, I'd just find her, but I couldn't just go and find her anymore because she wouldn't be there.
Your friend probably just wants to have a new experience, to go through something different, so she can say she did. yuh know ? she's obviously as upset as you are, but you have to support her and encourage her. Don't let her question her decision to go to this school, its already hard enough, no one should be making it harder for her yuh know ?
I know it's going to be hard for you, trust me, I know. and it's really awesome that you guys live so close to eachother. what me and my friend did was we set a day where we'd ALWAYS hang out, no matter what. That day was Friday. Every single Friday we hung out. It's so we would always see eachother, if you do that, than I promise you, you won't drift apart. you can try to hang out everyday or every other day, but you definetly need to set one day that you always hang out with eachother or this whole "not drifting away thing" won't work at all. Talk to her about that, and im sure it will brighten her day :] don't stop texting eachother and telle eachother EVERYTHING. and in school, if you wanted to tell her something, write it down on a note so you dont forget because it'll make her feel good that you WANTED to tell her these things, but she wasn't there. and it will also help.
also, me and my friend have this notebook we gove eachother. in school when im bored or have some free time, i write in it like its my journal, when actually, it's a journal TO my friend about everything hahaa. it's only for hers and my eyes only, and we pass it back and forth to eachther every friday and we take turns hahaa. you could do that with your friend. its fun and really brings you even closer. it's creative too :]
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, im here for yuh ! dont ever be hesitant to ask me a question :] xxo.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks so much :) that really helped its nice to have someone to relate to about it! thanks for taking the time to read and put effort into such a good reply I know it was long! I definately wont hesitate to ask if ive any more questions thanks a mill again
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