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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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I can touch the guy I like without getting nervous about it. I'll be a bit apprehensive, maybe, wondering "Are my hands sweaty? Are they cold? Are they rough???" And all that jazz, but that's normal.
Then, the weirdness happens--he goes to touch me and my insides get all twisted and stay that way for at least 30 minutes and I can still feel his touch for god knows how long. I mean, my insides get REAL twisted. I lose my ability to speak, and I freeze. I get sooo nervous! Not because I don't like him, but because... well, I don't know why! It's not like I don't WANT him to touch me, but when I get all worked up over him laying his hand on my shoulder or arm or something...won't he think I don't like him if I tense up? That's be bad, even if we'll only ever be friends.
help?
That's actually considered normal, hahaa. getting that nervous. I know it has happened to me a couple of times in the past.
He won't think that you don't like him if you tense up, he probably won't even notice. Guys are kind of oblivious to these sorta things and don't really know what's going on in our minds half the time, even if we do get all nervous and flushed and everything. You're just getting really nervous like this becaue you like him and you don't want him to not like you by getting close to you, hence: touching you. But all you can really do is try to get comfortable around him and get used to it.
When this happened to me, I would try to think about other things. Like.. random things. Sometimes I'd think about my dog or school haha, because that always got my mind off of what was going on, like him putting his arm around me or just touching my shoulder. I would try to laugh it off to myself or out in the open, it was kind of like an ice breaker; laughing out loud like that. It lightened the mood and i got less serious ajnd more fun, yuh know ? You're young still, so you have plenty of time to get used to it. Most guys think it's really cute when you get really nervous around them, because it shows that they have that kind of effect on you. But you have to not think about it, because if you think about it, you'll drive yourself insane. I knwo it seems hard, keeping your mind off of what's going on, but you have to try haha. I'm telling yuh, thinking of things other than him touching you in some way will do wonders.
Don't worry so much :] and how do you know you'll only ever be friends ? you don't know what the future holds ... hang out with more and you'll start to loosen up more around him, I promise :] good luck ! have fun, and hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
(Rating: 5) Wow, thanks for all the detail!
You helped alot ^_^
He's asked for my number and flirted a bit and stuff,s o things are looking up a bit. We can only hope for the best!