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Okay so I want some opinion's on why guy's only respect certain girls? I'm in high school, 16 years old, and it seems that many girls do have boyfriends. I don't have one. I understand it's not the end of the world..but, it's annoying. Guy's always tell me I'm very pretty (not to sound full of myself), and I'm also smart and kind to everyone. I'm shy sometimes though. Anyway, I've had guys ask me out, but the one's who do..are the one's I don't have a thing for. I'll admit..for some reason, I always go for guy's who are pretty much "players". I don't know why..I just find them cute and stuff. So, recently I liked this guy..he acts totally different around me then he does everyone else though! He acts like a nice guy around me, but then he'll go on myspace or even at school and start calling girls sexy and hit on them and stuff. Why don't I get that? I mean, I know he's had a thing for me for a while..and I kinda like him too..obviously he finds me attractive to like me, you know? Well, I asked my friends, because this happens to me a lot,..and they said he acts different and more like a gentlemen around me because he respects me? I mean, of course having respect is wonderful..but does that HAVE to mean I don't get a boyfriend because I have there respect? Ughh. But anyway, this brings me to my main question..why do guys only respect certain girls? Anyone please give me advice. Thankyou :) (link)
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Hey.
You said that he has a thing for you? That's probably why he treats you differently. Guys (and sometimes girls too) act differently towards someone that they like than they do towards someone that they don't have romantic feelings for. It's different for everyone. Some people get nervous and can't talk properly (we've all seen this happen). Some people talk too much to the person they like and feel totally comfortable. Some people flirt. Some people stare. And some people won't say anything, they will be just be too shy to say anything at all.
Based on what you've said it sounds like this guy is very into you. Maybe he feels like he can be a different person around you, maybe how he treats you is who he really is and how he talks to other girls is just his mask. Some guys do it to impress their friends? I can't really say I know because I'm not a guy. I'm just throwing out a possibility. I don't want to stereotype guys by saying they act like that to impress friends.
I know how you feel about wanting a boyfriend. I mean, it seems like everyone is in a relationship these days. It can be pretty annoying to see all these happy couples. Well if it's any consolation to you, not all couples are happy. The way I see it, the right guy or girl always comes when you least expect it, and that's the beauty of it all. It's sweet to be in a relationship, but like I've said it'll happen when it happens. And in my opinion it is good to be one of the girls that guys respect. It means they actually like you for you instead of for the simple reason that you are a girl who is "sexy". And being shy is not a bad thing. Some people can talk all day without saying much while some shyer people save their energy to say important things. Anyways, don't stress. You will get a boyfriend and he will respect you. :) What more could anyone ask for in a guy? Sounds like a good one to me. I hope it works out with this guy, if not I'm sure the next will be just as good. Take care.
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