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I really don't know what to do. I used to go to a school,and there i had a lot of (i thought at the time) Great friends. I pretty much went out every weekend and idk,i just had a lot of fun you know? i ended up getting transfered to another school. Over time (a kinda short period of time),i started to realize that those other people werent really good friends. Some pretty much forgot about me. And some,would do the occasional "Hey,How Are You" blah blah. Im a very friendly person but people at this new school i go to arent so friendly as i am "/ , so i only made like 3 friends. My problem isnt that i dont have as many friends as i used to (i dont care about that), its just that,my new friends dont really go out. 2 of them always say they want to, but they end up lagging it. and the other one has VERY strict parents. I feel so depressed. I know to some this may sound kinda stupid, but to me its a big deal. i hate staying home,i always like to be somewhere. And since i dont talk to my old friends anymore because they just changed so much,and my new friends dont really do the same things..i dont know what to do :( if your just going to answer me saying deal with it or something just please say nothing at all. Thank you to the people who do help though

Well, this is interesting. I must say, I understand completely how you feel, but I also understand how your old friends feel. When people move to another school, it makes it more difficult to stay up to date with their life. This being said, your old friends probably aren't trying to flake on you. They're just trying to maintain their life without having to also stay up to date with everything going on in your's. I'm sure they still care, it's just more of a hastle to set up plans with a person you don't regularely see any more. My advice for you is to 1. Try to make more new friends at your new school. Spot out the more social crowds and try to wedge yourself in with them :) and/or 2. Get all of your old friends together if you want to go some where. They might not feel as uncomfortable if they're all together with each other AND you because then they can all be with people who are currently part of their life, and they can also update you on everything easier. Hope that wasn't too confusing ha ha :) Goodluck!

-Jessica 14/f

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