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Im a 16/m. Today my kinda girlfriend told me that she started talking to her ex and her feelings came back for him. I say kinda because i never asked her to be my girlfriend because her parents didn't want her to be in a relationship. I told her that if im keeping them apart then i would stop talking to her. She said she cant be with him right now but she didn't say why i think it was a distance thing. Then she told me that she still wants to talk as friends but i cant do that she already hurt me before i don't think i could take it again. So i said goodbye and i asked her if she could stop talking to me completely so i could get over it faster. I don't know what to do i feel sick ive been crying for the past 4 hours and i have to see her tomorrow at school i have her for my last class of the day. And i see her in the halls.
Can someone help me.Tell me about your experiences, or how to get over this, something to look forward to; should i try to get back with her or let her go?

Because of the fact that you two aren't in an official relationship, its hard to give advice. If you guys were really together, my advice would be to break up with her. When did she start talking to her ex? When did she get those feelings for him again? Honesty and communication is essential in a relationship and something that is lacking on her part.
In your case, I also think you did the right thing. If she wants to talk to her ex, those feelings are NEVER going to go away. So even if you stayed "kinda boyfriend/girlfriend", you'd have to deal with him always being in the picture. And if you guys were talking as friends, your feelings for her will NEVER go away.
Its hard right now, trying to get over her and it might take awhile. It took me about 6 months to get over my ex...6 MONTHS! of crying and depression. But I'm just a complete wierdo so I'm sure that won't happen to you. My point is, it won't be easy at first but you just have to stay strong. Take this time to find out more about yourself. A very important thing is, don't try to find another girl to replace her/to make you happy again. From experience, I've learned that the best thing to do is to get over that person completely. Get over them to the point where you're happy again, just being single and loving yourself. You don't want another girl to be the rebound and you don't want to still have feelings for this other girl.
I hope all this helps.

♥ steph.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you. She still wants to be my friend. I dont know what to do should i stay away for a while so i can get over her? then be her friend? She says she knows i wont give her another chance i would but the same stuff is gunna happen she gets confused easily. O i didnt tell you about yesterday well the day b4 when i got off i wrote her a note and gave her a rose the next morning which was yesterday. She didnt respond the letter and didnt show up to the class i have with her. Later that day i went for a walk and she texted me. Telling me that it was my falt cuz we didnt have good communication. And that she wasnt willing to give me another try. So i got mad i didnt tell her off i just said im not gunna be ur friend and thats it. She said well if that what u want ok bye (in a mean way). Later that night she called me when i was sleeping i woke up and she told me she sent me a message on myspace. And that she wanted to talk to me so i stayed on the line and didnt say much i was mad but happy at the same time cuz she was talking to me. We didnt talk for long cuz she didnt think it was making a difference cuz i didnt really talk. I had said everything in that letter. When she hung up i texted her. She said she wanted me back that she knows she likes me and that it wasnt my falt. And she didnt expect me to forgive her or go back to her but she wanted me in her life atleast as a friend. I told her i needed time to figure out what im gunna do. The next day i read the message and it was nice. I guess she noticed i got online and when i got off she texted me and said when i asked for a chance i meant as friends cuz its safer for us. And then she said cuz if some1 did what i did to u i wouldnt take them back. So i dont know what to do she's so confusing. She wants me to be her friend or boyfriend? I dont know what she wants shes always contradicting herself.
Im sorry its alot and i didnt know if you wanted to know all this. Could you answer my questions i dont know if you could answer my feedback so my email is clinic956@yahoo.com if you cant thanks anyways for answering my question.
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