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I've never kissed a guy but over half the kids I know have already lost their virginity or gotten way close to losing it. And they're all like "YOUVE never kissed a guy? youre gonna end up like the 40 year old virgin, oh i know this guy for you" or whatever
And I 'pleasure' myself and stuff but just doing that, I feel SOOO guilty like I cant leave my room after.
And theres this guy that wants to do stuff with me and I really like him, and I talked to my mom about how I dont think hes that good of a person to hang around and she told me how my sister lost her virginity to a guy when she was my age.. which didnt really help.
But I reallly wanna do SOMETHING with a guy to know how it feels.. but at the same time I dont because I like being special, and feeling proud, and seeing peoples reactions when I tell them.
I just don't know what to do :[
this is highschool and its hard (link)
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You should never do something because you feel like you have to or b/c ppl want you too. Otherwise that will lead to regret. Honestly I am in the same position. I am 17 right now. And its November now, I didn't get my first kiss until last august 2008. And I am 17!!! It doesn't matter how old you are. Anyways, I waited out until I felt in my heart that it was the right moment. It meant soooo much to me you have no idea, and it will for you too if you wait for the right time with the right guy. And sex, please that is so over rated. I personally am remaining abstinent until marriage, b/c I want to prove to myself that love doesn't equal sex, and it does exist and is stronger. And I am not scared of ppl knowing. And you shouldn't worry either. I know you may want to do it, and yes highschool is hard. But it is OKAY to say NO. I promise, because I lived it, I lived the pressure, and I said no, and I can tell you that yes I am happy, I may not be popular with all the guys, but I have the respect, and that speaks mountains. I promise. Respect is so much more important, respect for yourself, your body and the people around you.
God bless you for waiting, and don't you dare be afriad to say no, there is nothing wrong with that, I promise.
I understand how you feel, b/c I stood in your shoes, and still am. So if you ever want to talk about it, give me your email, and we can talk about this. I promise :)
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OHHH my gosh, thankyouu! You're so sweet :]
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