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It's taken me a long time to admit to myself that I have low self esteem and am uncomfortable in my own skin. In most social situations I worry about what I say, how I stand, how I should act, and even how to look at people. It isn't a good feeling because I feel like it's destroyed my understanding of who I am. I know what like, what my hobbies are, and what I want to get out of life, but I just feel so confused about myself. I first started to notice this when I started to like a guy at school. I couldn't even maintain a steady conversation with him for very long and found myself questioning my actions. After that, I couldn't even sit normally. And now see how in denial I've been because I am always conscious of myself. And I take out my frustration on my parents and friends. I feel like I can change and when I do, I know I'll feel wonderful, because this has been going on for a long time now. I decided that I had to let go of liking this guy because I'm not ready to pursue someone if I don't even have a clue about myself. If anyone has any ideas or experiences with self esteem, I would appreciate you help so much. Because wow, I really need help.
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Well I applaud you for realzing that you have aproblem and need help. Yes, I have gone thorugh this myself. I was just talking about this today actually to a friend of mine.
I would constantly judge myself in the light of everyone else, you can not do that. It is okay to look at people and want to be like them its called admiring them. And it is even okay to be insecure at times, everyone is. But if you are like this all the time then something is wrong. I don't know how old you are, but age does contribute a little to the insecurity, for instance, in highschool you have so many different cliques and its okay to feel lost like what group do you fit in and stuff like that. I think the reason you are so uncomfortable in your own skin is b/c you don't know who you are yet. I don't fully know who I am but I am finally comfortable in my skin, you want to know how I became like that. Its easy, I started focusing on the stuff I like to do like acting and singing and piano, and I made everything my own, thats were secruirty starts is originality. You have to be an individual. Okay so when you are talking to someone don't focus on how should I look at them, stand, talk back, just LISTEN to what they are saying, take a deep breath and answer them. I get nervous too at the times, its life its reality. But you should not be constantly judging yourself, b/c you are beautiful. I don't even have to see what you look like, because everyone is beautiful in their own way. I think another to get over this, so you don't lose it with your parents and friends is to talk about with them. Maybe they can point out all your good qualtites and get you away from the bad and negativity. Also, when you wake up in the morning say at least 3 good positive things about yourself, and I guarantee you, that youll get over this self esteem thing.
Best of luck! No more negativity, be happy!!! :)
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thank you for your help. i actually had a great day today and i think i am on my way to becoming comfortable with myself. I'm 15 and a sophomore in high school, so I guess it would make sense why i am insecure. Anyways thank you so much, you've really helped.
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